Center of Attention
By arystine
@arystine (1273)
Philippines
December 19, 2009 1:50am CST
Do you like being center of attention? I like being the center of attention but only with friends whom I am comfortable with. I guess my spontaneous and natural self automatically shows whenever I am with my close friends. However, when am with a big crowd and not that familiar with all the people, I don't like being the center of attention at all. I don't want to be misunderstood as being bossy or something. I noticed though that even without exerting effort, I still call the attention of other people. I don't like it much, especially since I am not aware of what they are thinking or saying. I know I shouldn't bother myself with this but sometimes people are obviously looking even though I try not to call attention to myself.
10 responses
@bounce58 (17385)
• Canada
21 Dec 09
Hello arystine. Take it from me, being always the center of attention is not always good! It becomes a crutch.
I used to be that way. Now, I've learned to be satisfied with just being in the background. I still have the same drive and ambition, but I don't need others to re-affirm my accomplishments.
I think...
@arystine (1273)
• Philippines
21 Dec 09
Yes, I'm not starved for attention anyway. Not with people generally, just with friends whom I am comfortable with. They always expect me to be the party animal, the life of the party. What irritates me is the attention that I get from other people whom I am not close with. Anyway I just hope they'll mind their own business. Thanks for sharing.
@PSDirectory (116)
• United States
20 Dec 09
I like being the center of attention, when its good attention! I never am attention hungry though, I hate it when people act like that. But I always like to get attention naturally for just being me. I like be interesting to people as well.
@_sketch_ (5742)
• United States
19 Dec 09
I'm kind of the same way you are. I like to be the center of attention with people I'm comfortable with, but I can be kind of shy when I first meet people. Don't worry if people are looking at you though. It most likely just means that they like you; like your clothes, think you're pretty, maybe you seem familiar, etc. People pay attention to those they like significantly more often than those they dislike.
@anotherxidentity (1434)
• United States
20 Dec 09
I don't necessarily think that I want to be a center of attention but I definitely don't want to be a wall flower either. I don't have to be the one everyone is staring at but I don't want everyone just to blow me off either.
But I like to always be the best and do my best so sometimes it gets said that I want to be the center of attention even though that isn't my intention.
@allknowing (137775)
• India
20 Dec 09
I have always been into organising parties, get togethers, compering which I no longer do and the strange thing is being used to being in the limelight I do not enjoy being a participant where I am one among the crowd. I hardly socialise these days. The only thing I do nowadays is having christmas parties for orphans.
@Stevensitu (217)
• United States
19 Dec 09
Hi arystine,
When you take on the center of attention, the conversatition that you and your frieds
are in, you have to be the one to keep them interested. Its a lot of pressure being the center of attention. To keep them entertained, you gotta be funny.
Me personally, I dont like being the center of attention. I tmakes me nervous. I like being one of those who picth in to talk every noww and then with a whole group of friends. Thanks for the discussion.
@Frederick42 (2024)
• Canada
19 Dec 09
I do not like being the centre of attention because that would mean my ego is boosted. It would be far better to give attention to others than ourselves desiring for attention. There are some people who are suffering from inferiority complex and some of them badly need attention and it is good for us to give them the attention. Otherwise, nobody would give them attention and they would feel very dejected.
@madteaparty (2748)
• Japan
19 Dec 09
I don't like much being the center of attention. I'm a shy person, so when I notice that everyone's paying me more attention than what I'm used to, I feel anxious and insecure, so I prefer to be more discrete.
However, I know many people who are completely the opposite to me.
@rhea2009 (49)
• Philippines
19 Dec 09
i just wanted to be my boyfriends center of attention. hehe often than not, i easily get jealous especially if he is with his frieds company but i never voice it out. im afraid he'd laugh at my face, it could be pretty embarrassing. i dont wanna be the center of attention but i certainly wanted to be noticed even if within friends i am not that comfortable with.
@DenverLC (1143)
• Philippines
19 Dec 09
It depends on the situation and who the audience are for me. I want it when I know I deserve it and at the same time a lesson will be imparted to my viewers and expectators. I hate it in times i caught peoples attention not by good credits but by awkward abnormal scenes that will create a big laugh and direct questioning looks from everyone.
