Communication, trust and respect, which is most important?
By careguarden
@careguarden (5670)
Philippines
December 19, 2009 6:49am CST
We all know that love is not enough to have a successful relationship. So,next to love, which of this aspects in a relationship that's important, is it communication, trust or respect, that someone need to pay attention in order to build a strong and successful relationship.
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14 responses
@rosdimy (3926)
• Malaysia
19 Dec 09
For any relationship to form, there is a need for a clean and clear communication between the parties involved. Trust or respect cannot be given to a person if we do not know the other person.
The way I see it it is more like a vicious cycle. First some form of communication occur between us and the other party. Based on the content or message of the communication, we begin to trust the other person. Respect comes next.
With some trust and respect towards the other person, we become more prepared to communicate further, thus increasing our knowledge about the other person. This in turn increases our respect and trust towards the other person.
In summary I put communication at the front.
@rosdimy (3926)
• Malaysia
20 Dec 09
Exactly. That is why communication is needed, so that a person can be judged, correctly or otherwise, whether he or she can or cannot be trusted and respected. Communication here should be taken with a wide meaning, and not limited to verbal or written words, or sign language. For instance body language can negate the nice words uttered by a person.
@careguarden (5670)
• Philippines
20 Dec 09
Ah, ha! you have your valid point. Yeah, you can't trust and give respect to the person if you know less with the person, so that's communication fall first on line. However there are some people who aren't thought how to show and give respect to others. So even if there's communication it still hard for respect to show up. I think it's all depend on the situation and the kind of person that's involve. As it takes to tango for a relationship to last. Anyway thank you for sharing with us and enjoy your day!
@Genericbe (1376)
• Philippines
19 Dec 09
In my opinion the most important is RESPECT.. it independently moves in all aspects of life. If this is happening in a relationship there many ways you can get to good outcome. If this exists everything can be altered and every good qualities in a relationship will follow..
What is trust without respect? it will lead to doubtful thinking. How can a person trust fully when he never respected a person in his totality. A person who trust knows how to respect other people and possible indifference.
What is communication without respect? It will come to many argues, verbal abuse and emotional distress. The respect to approach properly as person will not be seen.It will never give a peaceful and unified solution.
But if you have respect comes first, good communication will secondly follow leading to good understandings and taking consideration of one's feelings and at the end ,and lastly, good foundation of trust will flourish because you respect each other and sensitive enough to take in consideration one's opinions, feelings and views.
Respect gives peaceful coordination and acceptance of other views and help accept the reality. By respecting a person only means that his presence is of importance too.
@careguarden (5670)
• Philippines
20 Dec 09
Wow! very well said Genericbe. Yeah, you're right. I've a professor way back then in my psychology class, she asked us what's more important in a relationship? Some of my classmates answered with love, loyalty, trust, generosity etc., then she stopped us and said how about respect? some of us disagree but then she told and explained us the reasons. Based on her experienced, she was separated with her husband simply because there is lack of respect in their relationship. Yeah, they often talk with each other, they trust with each other but respect doesn't seem to exist. And that's the time when I learn how important respect in every relationship. Because there are so many people who don't the word "respect" and some don't have it on their vocabulary. Anyway thank you for sharing with us and enjoy your day!
@Genericbe (1376)
• Philippines
20 Dec 09
hi careguarden,
Respect is the most important thing in a relationship for I have experienced and also been compared many things said to be important but this really is the best among them.
This is the best key ingredient for a good relationship.
Thank you very much for accepting me as best response in this discussion. May this also serve as inspiration to others.
God bless.
@Stevensitu (217)
• United States
19 Dec 09
Hi caregarden,
In my opinion its commununitacation. If you dont know wat ur partner is talking about during work or on a group project, ur gonna run into some problems. For example, let's take a chinese person(who only speaks chinese) and aFrench person who only speaks french. They are doing a project together. They dont know how to talk to each other therefore, there not gonna get really far. Sure you can trust them and respect them but will that be really productive while doing something?
@careguarden (5670)
• Philippines
20 Dec 09
Oh, yeah you're right. I think I didn't make it clear on my discussions that I'm referring to a more closer relationship, like a couple and not on a group or society. Yeah, in a group communication is indeed the most important factor in order to have a smooth relationship with each other. People from different culture you can easily give respect as a common sense. But you can't easily trust them. Well anyway thank you for sharing with us and enjoy your day!
@krystalheart (842)
• Philippines
19 Dec 09
Hi there... For me... RESPECT is the most important in any relationship. With respect, you learn how to trust your partner. With respect, you learn to listen and be heard by your partner. With respect, everything follows... like good communication, trust, being sensitive to the needs of your partner, being open-minded, knowing what is right from wrong, and understanding each others feelings more deeper.
@careguarden (5670)
• Philippines
20 Dec 09
Yeah, through giving respect allows communication to improve and build trust. Anyway thank you for sharing with us and enjoy your day!
@pumeza (56)
• South Africa
20 Dec 09
i think its communication because to trust somebody you have to communicat something first. Without communication happening, there's no trust and without trust no relationship can survive. When you trust somebody you respect them already, respect automatically come in when there's trust.
@careguarden (5670)
• Philippines
20 Dec 09
Yeah, communication is important because neither you can't trust someone whom you didn't know well nor show respect. However there are some person who didn't know how to show and give respect to others, no matter how much you communicate with your partner when he/she didn't know respect, trust and communication will collapse. Anyway thank you for sharing with us and enjoy your day!
@louierrific24 (1114)
• Philippines
20 Dec 09
For me, Trust plays a vital role in building a successful relationship. Trust is founded upon the confidence you feel in your partner.
@careguarden (5670)
• Philippines
20 Dec 09
Yeah, trust is important as you can't love someone first without trust, but soon when respect is gone, trust will collapse together with communication. That's what I think. Anyway thank you for sharing with us and enjoy your day!
@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
19 Dec 09
careguarden they are all equally important in a good
relationship, I notice you do not say marriage, but
also in marriage for those few who really do want to
be committed for life with their mate. you need all of
those assests for a good marriage.
@joy4you (641)
• India
20 Dec 09
Although al lthree are very important for a relationship I think we tend to respect people we trust especially close friends, when one looses the trust for someone then we stop respecting him/her.
Having said that, communication is as important as any other aspect if a relationship. If you do not communicate with your partner well then it leads to misconceptions and misunderstandings which consequently leads to more problems like lack of trust.
Sometimes we fight with our partners and then stop talking to them because of our ego and pride or just to take revenge on them. However depending on the situation this may lead to more problems like your partner may think you are too egoistinc or even vengeful, and may try to get back at you by doing the same thing. All this just spoils the relationship eventually.
Finally, I would say communication with the right intention and honesty is the most important in maintaining trust in a relationship and the respect for each other.
@kevinll (967)
• China
20 Dec 09
They are all important, i have a friend, he is always not easy to trust other people. For helping from other friends he often talk with me what they want from him. Maybe some people really want to get more from you, but you can communicate with them then you can know more about them and you can get your own answer. If you respect other people then they will give respond for you. Of course it is not easy to keep the strong relationship.
@etioewe (142)
• Mexico
19 Dec 09
well genericibi siad it all, respect is one of the most important issue that can sustain a relationship. if there is a great value of respect in a relationship i bet you that relationship will be full of the others which are love, good communication and trust. thats just the basic truth, some relationship break up becuase there might be real love in it, but one of the two refused to see that you must have respect for the other to enjoy the love in the relationship. well generericibi has said some thing excellent and i stand by that too. have a nice yuletide season
@careguarden (5670)
• Philippines
20 Dec 09
Yeah, I also agree with genericibi. Respect is the most important factors. Anyway thank you for sharing with us and enjoy the rest of the weekends!
@afiyanajav (37)
• India
19 Dec 09
Hello Careguarden
All three are equally important. It's a combination of all three that goes hand in hand in order to attain true love. They all are very practical. Better strike the balance.
@rjvb26 (2518)
• Philippines
19 Dec 09
All what you stated here are important in a re;relationship, but if you will ask me what is the most important to those three, i will answer you, it's trust. That is all i can share to you right now, i cannot comprehend with the topic much, especially right now.
@careguarden (5670)
• Philippines
20 Dec 09
It's okay rjvb, what matters is you tried to share your idea and opinion. Yeah, those three things are very important in relationship, although people said that there's more important among the three. Just like faith, hope and love. We need those things, but love is the most important. Anyway, thank you for sharing with us and enjoy your day!
@pushpendra_kumar29 (98)
• India
19 Dec 09
I think all of the three are needed to maintain a healthy relationship
@talatgulzar (6)
• Pakistan
19 Dec 09
to build relationship trust is come after love, if you have trust and you can give trust then it will be helpful to buildup relation. I think trust is more important than love because if there ia no trust then both lover will all the time fight with eachother and the distance between two of them and at one there will not be love and relation will be broken. So, in my opinion the trust is come after love
@careguarden (5670)
• Philippines
20 Dec 09
Yeah, trust could be the next important thing in a relationship. However what's the use of trust when your partner doesn't know how to respect you. And what's the use of trust if you didn't have clear communication with your partner because of his/her lack of respect? Anyway thank you for sharing with us and enjoy your day!