What will you do if your parents become too dependent?

That's probably not going to happen to me. I imagine that my sister will fill that role as caregiver to my mother and my father has his own family. There's a boy so he'll probably have the responsibility of taking care of my dad. As far as I go I don't think that my family will even think of me in times of crisis.

If my parents became too dependent, then I start to lose myself, it makes me want to break away from them for the moment so I can get some air. Its great to help out your parents all the time, but for, me, its pretty stressful... Happy Mylotting pengyachu!

we were lucky to have a very happy family. although there are problems sometimes, it never affected our relationship to each other. whoever is in need will always receive everyones help. we are always being informed of the problem thats why we always come up with an easy solutions. so for us, if our parents need help, they can always depend on us and will surely receive every single help without regrets or rejection.

that's it and my parents are going older and older daily also.my monther always have lot of things to talk with me every time when i phoned back.like a child want to tell us what happened around them and they also need our love and care. i do not think that's too dependent and as their child. we have the favor and love your parents more.

Its the time we take turn to take care of them because they been the one who spend sleepless nights to feed us been indebted to give us good education, feed us & they been doing their best to give the best for us even though its too hard for them to do it we don't even appreciate it sometime. They are doing their best to become a responsible parents to us & made us of who we are now. So now that they are old its been my turn to take care of them they never give up on me, they love me when I was young so its my time to do the favor to them.

For me it is just okay as a sign of our deepest respect, love and gratitude for them. Just remember all the unselfish deeds they have showed us and keep showing to us. I am not who I am now without my parent, therefore the more I can give or do something good for them it is always done with whole sincerity and care.I am more than happy seeing them enjoying their remaining days.

For myself my mother is already gone so that isn't an issue. However my father is still around. I see that he is getting older and the once super strong man that can do anything is now seeing doctors and taking his meds. He has a wife who is a few years older than him and in the same boat. I do live 2000 kms away from them so it would be unlikely I would be asked to help him out, but if I was asked I would say no. I have three children of my own to look after and I just can't give my time and energy to him. I don't feel bad saying that because he was an absentee father for most my youth and wasn't there when I was a dependent, so why should I do it for him.

i see it this way, when we are babies growing up parents look after us and take care of us, the parents will often look after thier parnets as well. but we will help to take care of our grandparnets who also helped to take care of us, then we look after our own parents as they grow older as well. to me its just like a clock that is suppose to go around taking care of our older parents, grandparnets as they did with us growing up, then our kids will take care of us and so on

I would help my mother.They take care of us when we're young so the honorable thing to do is to help back when they need it.People should show concern for their parents,no one can help it when they get old.

Hi pengyachu, it is not as easy to look after elderly as it is to look after children. This is a mature adult, who has, at one time done a lot for you. So they expect their opinions to be heard, and their physical needs to be met. There are only two things that need to be done with them. Look after their health and timely meals, and listen to all stories they tell. Of course opinions will differ. But you dont have to pick an argument. Just be silent. Believe me things setright by themselves. They understand that you should be given some rights as well. :)

I can never abandon my family and I am not that evil to ignore their needs. I know I would have to work harder but it shouldnt matter if it's all for the benefit of my parents. They have spent all their life to take care of us children so I guess there's nothing wrong with providing for them the time they need it. I think it's really a cycle. I wouldnt want my children to ignore my needs when I get old so I shouldnt do that with my own parents. :D

Dear pengyachu, before giving response to your discussion let me quote one line. A TREE IS KNOWN BY ITS FRUIT. Let it be any situation parents are always parents and never think that you will have contradiction. As you said that if the roles change like you are father and they are children then treat them as your children. Remember one thing they never felt that you are a burden to them. They have worked hard to bring you up then why the question arises about other contradictions.

I don't mind providing for my family. If my parents became dependent on me, I wouldn't mind sharing my earnings with them and taking care of them when they are old. I'll provide in accordance with my capacity. It's the least that I can do after they took care of me and provided me with the best education. I wouldn't be the person that I am today if it weren't for them. So if they become too dependent, I don't care. Even if they get much of my earnings, I don't care. I'll gladly give. Anything for my family.

our parents give us chance to live to the fullest..they do whatever they can just to give the best for us.they even let us see the beauty of life and guide us to our path..so now in this moment in time we should considered that our parents needs us just like we need them ..in this case our parents as they get older they really need our help and support tender loving care they are kinda called(dependent)..i could relate this situation because my parents now are old @around 50's it seems that they are very dependent on us (sons and daughters) what we did is that we are trying to give the best as much as we could for them.we don't have any regrets that they are dependent now because when the time that we need them they are the best parents ever love and care they gave to us is more than enough than other thing.