Background Checks on Sitters

yes it is a shame your welcome

Lakota- Thanks for the response. It's a shame though when you come to find you can't always trust your neighbors. Thanks for your story. Namaste-Anora

exactly. goddess has seen to make me a "catmom"(of which i accept :)),but i would check just as carefully before i left a stranger with them.

Scarlet- Thanks for the quick response. I am feeling better about my decision to ask for this with all future applicants. These are my most precious gifts from the Goddess and they are not to be just left with someone who doesn't care for them as much as I do. Namaste, Anora

Jen- Thanks a bunch for the response! I am kind of beginning to think that too now. I mean, if you have nothing to hide then there is nothing to hide. Thanks again. Namaste,Anora

Angel's Mummy- Thank you for the quick response. I am glad to know that it should be something that is normal and requested. My children are safe and happy now, thank you so much. Thank you again for sharing the information. Namaste-Anora

Thats no proble I am ahppy to help!

Thankyou- I hope everything works out for you and you find someone qualified to care for your children. They are God's Gifts and deserve to be treated well.

Hoodwinks- We've managed to keep our schedule where I stay home all day, but with my classes sometimes there is a night or Saturday that I need to be away from them for five hours. It's difficult to leave them, and like you said they are our kids! Thanks for sharing your story. And thanks for the advise. Namaste, Anora

Danish- Thanks for the response. I'm drafting up an application tonight to have all future sitter applicants fill out. I feel bad I didn't think of handling it this way in the beginning. Namaste,Anora

Dragon- Thanks. I only use a sitter for my classes at college, but this was the first time we used our sitter for a date. We had not been out on a date (movie and dinner) since before our son was born and he is now three). I'm going to be drafting up an application for future sitters as we will be needing one for the next term and need to start interviewing after the holidays. Thank you for the response, Anora

Pat- I didn't know they required for that animals. It certainly does show a sign of our times and isn't that just sad? I used to sit all the time as a high school student and I never did anything that would put a child in harms way. And my reputation proceeded me. It seems like today you just don't know who to trust with your children. Thanks again for the quick response, Namaste- Anora

Phoenix- It's good to know I am not the only one who worries this strongly where my children are concerned. I am very glad things turned out well, but I certainly do not want to put them through this again or myself. Thanks again for the response. Namaste,Anora

Good- Thanks. We both feel so bad about this ever occuring, as if we should have known ahead of time, but the truth is sometimes things seem normal and they just aren't. But, we certainly weren't going to keep our children in a bad situation. Thank you again for your thoughtful response. Namaste, Anora

Lovely- Thank you, our children are good today! What sort of questions would you put on an application if you were creating one? I have a few questions I've thought of to start drafting an application tonight. Namaste,Anora

Raven- Thank you for the insightful response. That is what I plan to do tonight. I also plan to ask a few friends for helpful questions to ask because I can think of a few but I am sure there others that may be just as important. Thank you again. Namaste, Anora

Happy New Year Anora!

Dawn- It was very scary! I'm much better today, but that first week after I was so shaken by it all that I just had such a bad feeling as a parent. However, we've put out the application and requested background checks and have our first sitter interview on Tuesday. Have a lovely week! Namaste,Anora

Anora, I don't know how to tell you this, but despite having my name on it, that post is NOT MINE! I don't know who wrote it! I've somehow been hacked--which is frightening, to me! Still, I gather you had some problem with a baby sitter, & I hope the police look into it! Maggiepie "Our Constitution was made only for a moral & religious people. It is wholly inadequate to the government of any other." --John Adams

OOOOkaaayyy! I found out what happened! It wasn't a hacker, it was Elic! She came into MyBot under my name while she was over today (though why she didn't come in under her own is a mystery... Oh, well--more moolah for meeee! ), so it was she who wrote the post above (& several others, she says). Sorry for the confusion & panic. As for her "missed a bet" phrase, it just means you missed a golden opportunity. Glad this is all cleared up! Maggiepie "Our Constitution was made only for a moral & religious people. It is wholly inadequate to the government of any other." --John Adams

Maggie- I'm not sure what you mean by "bet" to be honest. Our daughter had an unexplained injury and our son was making statements that were out of the ordinary. The sitter left in a hurry (contrary to normal behavior), made statements to the defensive when questioned, and the police were involved to gain the information we needed. The sitter will not be coming back and we will be hiring a new one for the new school term. I'm not sure how I can help other parents at this time as I came here for help myself. I mean, the bottom line is our children are our precious gifts and we should do anything to protect them. It is why I asked about background checks. I'm too nice sometimes and do not know how to ask sometimes the important questions. I mean, if I have known someone as a neighbor for a bit I tend to just trust them to be ok people. Sometimes that proves the opposite. Namaste,Anora

Always good to see yours as well. Hope the interview goes well. I think we have to have some of these situations come up to teach us needed knowledge. Sad but true. Take care and Mitakuye Oyasin.

CE- Always good to see your face. I was so busy last term, and the new term starts in a week! I'm going to try to set up a time to come on here at least once a week and do nothing but post, but this thesis really has me tied up. We have a sitter interview on Tuesday so hopefully things will go smoothly. If anything we learned a great deal as parents as to what sorts of questions to ask of the sitter, and to know that we have every right to know if the sitter has anything in their past we should be concerned about. Thanks for the response. Namaste, Anora

Benny- Thanks for the response. Yeah, that's about how we are feeling now after this experience. We are hoping that future sitters will be understanding. Thanks again. Namaste, Anora

well if ya future sitters mind then they are not the right people to look after your children and they are in the wrong profession so to speak.

Jahernandezivas- The children are good, thank you. We finished our application and were upfront that a background check was necessary. It is our children, and we cannot be too careful. Unfortunately my family does not live close, and living in an apartment complex is not as conducive to building long term friendships as I would have liked. Thank you for your response. Namaste-Anora

Izzy- True! I think we need to have more programs that sitters go through where parents can call. I like this idea of a co-op mentioned on another post. It would allow safety on all accounts. Namaste,Anora