long lost friend...
By squaretile
@squaretile (3778)
Singapore
December 23, 2009 2:35am CST
how would you react if a friend whom you haven't spoken to in 10 years suddenly contacts you via facebook and says 'let's speak on the phone! emailing is too slow.'
personally, I feel quite inertia-ed. We were not too close when we were in school together. And i am at a stage of life where i feel like i don't even have enough time to meet up wtih my close friends, much less re-connect with those whom I have all but lost touch with.
What would you do in a similar situation?
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16 responses
@May2k8 (18324)
• Indonesia
24 Dec 09
I talked on the phone and told my friend when and where we will meet. If I'm busy so can not seem to meet face to face with my friends and I would say we just talk on the chat. I would be happy if a friend who had long disappeared suddenly contacted me.
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@sid556 (30960)
• United States
24 Dec 09
If it were someone that I was not real close to even back then? Then I would e-mail them back and tell them that I'm really busy. I would not give them my phone #. There are a couple of people that I was very very close to that I've lost contact with that I would love to hear from. Just aquaintances...e-mail is good enough. I barely knew them in school. After so many years ...we are virtual strangers.
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@jillhill (37354)
• United States
23 Dec 09
I went to my 40th class reunion and connected with someone I hadn't seen since the five year reunion....we spent the whole entire time together and now have vowed not to lose track of each other again....I thought it was wonderful and I am also looking for people to catch up with on facebook when I have a chance! So I would definetly go for it...people change..situations change and it might be a very good friendship you are overlooking!
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@celebratelifeh (1142)
• China
24 Dec 09
that's not a bad thing to get connect with the person who know more than 10 years though not cotact every often. i will please to talk to those kind of friends or classmate via phone call also.just ask something about the carrers and family. that's not a very hard thing.
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@jilshi (271)
• Malaysia
24 Dec 09
I think it is great to reconnect with long lost friend. You should be glad because your friend got the heart to find you. we always do not have time for so much things. however i am sure able to find a little time for my friend. friends able to cheer me up.
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@Tidwell1 (332)
• United States
24 Dec 09
I had an old friend from high school contact me out of nowhere. It's been over 25 years since we spoke. I was a little shocked how he kind of acted like we were supposed to start right from where we left off from what seems to be practically a lifetime ago. A lot has happened since high school!!
It was a reminder that the information you put out there can be found. I was glad to hear from him but it was still a little weird...
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@coolcat123 (4387)
• India
24 Dec 09
yes, I have experienced it quite a many times as I used to live in some other country and have to return to my own place and was unable to contact friends from there. After 8-10 yrs, I came to know about these social networking sites which helped me to come in contact with my friends which I thought would have never been possible without it.
I was so happy to recognise my friends & they 2 recognized me.So sweet of them.
@thebestmom (1104)
• Philippines
7 Jan 10
may it will only take a few minutes? or maybe he wants to sell something.. . sorry for my answer but i think that the world now is very practical and he will only spend time with you on the phone if he wants something. especially if you were not that close
@ahgong (10064)
• Singapore
23 Dec 09
Well, I will see if I can round up a few more old friends and meet up for coffee or something. And see if there is anything to chat about. If we sit around awkward all the way, then that would probably e the last time we meet up for anything. The occasional tweet on twitter or facebook will have to do. 8p
@ahgong (10064)
• Singapore
25 Mar 10
Ha ha ha ha ha... I just managed to meet up with an old friend of mine! It has been like decades since we last met!
And we finally get to meet on facebook! heh heh... It really has been a long while since I caught up with any of my old friends!
Heck, even my uni friends do not catch up with each other much.
We cannot meet physically, at least we can still tweet or message each other on social networking sites!
@kun2349 (23381)
• Singapore
23 Dec 09
I dun think i will agree to do that!! It just becomes so awkward.. Though we might know each other, 10 years ago.. BUt with long period of time, not in contact with each other, we are becoming like strangers.. haha =D
The feeling is just like 'the most familiar stranger'?? haha =D She/he might know most of our things, yet we already forgetten about them, which makes us feel vulnerable at some point?? hehe ^_^
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@6precious102 (4043)
• United States
27 Dec 09
If they called me, I'd take the time to speak with them, but I wouldn't make any more effort than that.
@ckyera (17331)
• Philippines
8 Jan 10
hello squaretile...
well this actually happens to me last year...
i have found my friends from highschool in one social site and from there, he ask for my phone number so that we can talk, at first we just talk through messenger. after that we get reconnected even if we are not actually close way back then...in fact we do have some issues then. but after talking to each other, we finally make things clearer and put an end to whatever issue we have before and that talk in the phone lasts us for about 4 hours or so...haha
and after that, we became closer and til now we are communicating to each other and we are now really friends!
by the way, before we saw each other in friendster, its been 10-12 years since the last time we see & talk with each other...
@rainingdove72 (15)
• United States
24 Dec 09
I would let them know that I don't have a lot of time at this very moment, get thier number (so I could call when I had the chance). Instantly sign out of the email. Think about how this person really affected your life. Wait until that evening and give the person a call. What would be the worst that could happen? You might even find that you could become really close friends. Time always has a way of dealing out second chances. And you never know, this person may have a way of connecting in your life so that you don't have to feel you need to go out of your way to meet up.
@shoyebshaikh (23)
• India
8 Jan 10
well iu will be rang him up and ask how he is and were was he for such a long days .and will go out for a walk and spare ma some time wiud him .
@MJ_Dakota (126)
• United States
24 Dec 09
When I first joined Facebook, I was stunned by all the old friends reaching out and those I was able to reach out to. What I have found is that once they connect with a "Hello", not much else happen in communication. The game play notices is mostly what I receive.
I have received a phone number from a long lost best buddy, but have not called. I want to call when I have uninterrupted time. This friendship has a lot of catching up to do with so many years passed, but it is one I am looking forward to!