What can a mother do?

Hi Marlena This may not be an easy way for you. But I can assure you that this will work. Make her feel that you are with her. Support her fully in this issue. Make her feel that you respect her decision. If you do this, she will start to speak out whats all in her mind as speaking to a friend. If a person starts to speak the other actions with someone else, they'll automatically start to think whether those actions are right or wrong. Thus as supporting her fully you could make her understand what you were saying to her from the begining.

marlena be there for her when it does dawn on her he is a selfish bas%^rd and she would do well to show him to the door. she will need you then and if you are there as a shoulder to cry on she will once again realize you did know best, you really did.good luck and God bless. hugs from hatley.

i do not like those liers at all and if my daughter fall in love with such a person i will be mad also.you'd better talk with your daughter under the friendship. do not let her feeling you are force her. just talk about the fact and give suggestion. let her know whether she like the liars or not. that's it and if one person do not possess honest. then what he can have?

Just be with your daughter all throughout the experience. dont judge her, dont dictate her, just let her feel that you are there for her as always so she will feel that you only want the best for her. if she gets hurt, dont tell her "i told you so", just reassure her that everything will be alright. i really blieve that this types of situation (mother hating the daughter's bf) will have a great effect on the mother-daughter relationship and you dont wanna ruin that. just guide her, give her advice but dont dictate her. make her feel your concern and who knows eventually, she will be the one to let go of that guy.Good luck!

It is truly a puzzling situation.Mothers all the world hope their children can live a happy lives with their lovers.But not all the daughter who falling in love with someone are as wise as a mother.As the saying goes, people who in love are blindness.All shortcomings can be consider as advantage in their eyes.I think as a mother, who should give some advise at the position as a friend, and prove the person she loved is not worthy.I think in the front of fact, she should know herself is right or wrong. All the parents want protect their children,want them far away from hurt,but sometimes we can't help, they must bear the result they choose.

hello Marlena, every mother in the world is good for their children and she always think about her children and i am dam sure you have too.please take her daughter as a friend than see she will share her feelings with you.

Well, I think it's really difficult to tell a girl her boyfriend is not good, I think many girls will just defend for her boyfriends and ignore what others said. Sometimes when others have more opposite opinions, she will be more defensive. Perhaps you get ask some other people to talk to your daughter, someone that your daughter can talk to. It's to talk about it, but not straight away say NO to her, otherwise she may not even think about the issues. It's better to start with some positive points about that guy first, then your daughter won't armed herself with those defensive thoughts. Then slowly talk more and more about the guy, slowly point out some problems of the guy and see what her reactions are.... Sometimes it'd be easier for some other people to act this role, as mother is always thought to be the person who object everything.

I would have to talk to her. No matter what fears I had about it. She may not be able to see things your way. Give her that poem "a woman's worth" and leave it up to her. If you can talk to her than do so. My daughter is 15 and I have to go through this. I talk to her about everything. Good or bad. Small or big I just can't let anything go. She makes up her own mind in the end. But,I feel 100% better that I spoke to her.