what is the appropriate time to have a child?
By vikeyshuy
@vikeyshuy (284)
China
December 24, 2009 8:44am CST
now we face increasingly fierce competition. many adults don't want to have a child too early because of lack of money or career.
some people say that we should have a child before thirty years old, which is good to both the child and mother.
what should we do? to earn much money and build a career,then have a child?
or we have a child first,then think about the money things.
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11 responses
@sbeauty (5865)
• United States
24 Dec 09
You'll know you're ready to have a child when you reach the point that you can be committed to taking care of that child's needs 24/7. Yes, new babies are cute, but they are also a lot of work, and as they grow up, being a good parent is probably the hardest job you'll ever have to do. Therefore, be sure that you have everything in your life the way you want it to be before taking on the responsibility of children.
@SJShaw (4)
• United States
27 Dec 09
Having a child is a huge responsibility and there are many things to consider. Some say you have to be ready financially or be a certain age. I am a mother of two, my first child I had at the age of 15, and I realize that I was not ready at all but I made it work. My second child is 8 months old and I am now 27, my husband and I both have very good jobs, we own a home, and vacation often. No matter how much planning you do a child is expensive and you will never be completly ready financially. The biggest thing is making sure you and your spouse are on the same page, once that happens a baby will come when he or she is supposed to and it is definatly the greatest gift in the world, no matter what the circumstances.
@karenkarenkk (1121)
• China
25 Dec 09
Hello, Vikeyshuy, I think the perfect time to have a child is when
-- You are in good physical condition
-- You and your husband are ready in mind to become parent
-- Your economic condition are good
I think all of them are important... Money are important as well, without it, it's hard to provide better life for your kid.
Best wishes to you.
@kangshufeng1 (12)
• China
25 Dec 09
I think one should some money first.Because it's necessary for life.Without enough money,how to support a family?
@fengyun76 (9)
• China
25 Dec 09
yes.i have the same feel as your.so i think the goverment should give some allowance to the youth parents. ha,ha perhabs it is not real. but at least this is a our wish.
@kaka135 (14931)
• Malaysia
24 Dec 09
Well, I think the parents have to be mentally ready, then only they should have kids, otherwise it may not be good for the parents and the children. Some parents are financially ready, but they are not ready to be parents yet, even though they have kids, they do not really like to take care of the kids, or they think the kids are troublesome and make their lives more miserable, etc. If they think this way, they will not treat the kids good, and also the kids will feel it. That's why I think we should get ourselves ready, ask if we are ready to be good parents, then only think about having kids.
It's advisable for a mother to get pregnant at younger age, so that it's less risky for both mother and the baby during the pregnancy and also the labor. It's actually good to have a healthy body when the mother is pregnant, so we should always exercise and keep ourselves in a healthy condition.
@xannebull (1793)
• Philippines
24 Dec 09
The appropriate time to have a child is when you are financially ready since having a child is expensive, you have to give and buy things that your child should have like diapers, milk when he's still a baby. buying this things for him is too expensive to maintain everyday.
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
25 Dec 09
I don't think that there is really an appropriate time to have a child. By this I mean that if we are to wait until we have enough money to raise a child then we would never be able to have a child for the simple fact that it is the nature of people to be greedy. For me personally, the deal that I made was that I would be 30 at my oldest when I was pregnant with my last child simply because I wanted to be young enough to enjoy them and to be able to keep up with them. For other people, I know that they want to have their career first and the children later. I think that the right decision is what is in your own heart.
@rene12 (794)
• Philippines
24 Dec 09
It really depends on the situation. If you are still planning to have a baby, then think of your finances and what you need for the baby to grow. Do you want him to grow in your own house or something like that? Don't you want to have problems about money when you have a child? or anything that will give trouble to you will always be a bump in life.
If you want a smooth life in having a baby then plan first. If you want to surprise yourself, then don't plan. But I suggest that earn money and you don't have to build a career to give way for your child's time :D