Absence makes the heart go Fonder? or go Wander?

I am in a long distance relationship right now; my girlfriend is in Qatar. I really miss her. Yes, there are times that doubts starts to crawl in but the the trust she entrusted to me I will hold dear. I am enduring the relationship when it comes to distance, but overall - no regrets in anyway. Our relationship has seen its ups and downs and yet we're holding on to what we've got.

It is too risky to have a long distance relationships..takes a lot of faith.You have to trust but then it's heartbreaking if you knew in the end your relationship don't have a happy ending.I know its 70 to 30 count,and i mean more wandering...

me and my fiance met in mobile, al while i visited my sister. So when i came back home 4-5 hours away, we had to endure being in a long distance relationship. We both stayed faithful and he eventually made it to me. Ever since then we have lived together and we are now engaged! I love him more than anything and i know he feels the same. I think our time apart made our love stronger.

Hi maria1081. For me, it's okay to be away from some one you love and enjoy few moments with your friends and with other people but it should only be for a very short period of time. I think it's not a good idea to stay away from your love for a very very long time. Well, maybe some people made their relationship successful despite of the distance but there are many instances that one may cheat due to the absence of the other. There are a lot of fishes in the ocean as what they've said so if the other one went somewhere far from the other for a long time, there is a huge possibility that the other may fall in love with another person. This is unstoppable and there is nobody to be blamed for this if it happens. That is really the reason why I keep on working hard here in the Philippines even if there are much greater opportunities abroad. I don't want to be away from the one I love. I don't want to have any regrets in the future. I will be waiting for him until he is ready to go abroad too so that we'll go there together. On the other hand, absence for a short period of time is good because you are giving each other the chance to miss one another. Aside from that, you can also spend some of your time with your family and friends.

Wander, i guess

I didn't really have experienced distance relationship but i have heard recounts about it. Personally, i can say that absence makes my heart go fonder. I love my partner even more when he is out. I never really think about other guys. There is but something about him that I really miss a lot. Like now. He is spending his Christmas with his family in another place. And that makes me miss him much. Though we can't do anything about it cause we prioritize spending it with our family. I don't believe that when a partner goes away for a while gives you a chance to find another one for that is not Love. Coz love has its own time.

Hello, Maria. Merry Christmas to you.:-) I've been in a LDR situation. Not too far, though. He was working in the city and I went home in the province because of my baby. In our case, I remained loyal and faithful, but he was the one who wandered. His reasons were it was because he was missing my company and he was alone, so he needed to do something to get rid of that loneliness. He did not have an affair, but, almost and he lied to me about it when I confronted him. He was lying to me for the past two years and I'm still hurting because of it... I don't think that it has something to do with LDR. It is how determined you are to keep the relationship worthy of keeping. If you love your partner, you will use that love to keep the relationship and your heart grow more fonder of your partner rather than wander. It is easy to succumb to weaknesses when the love you have for each other is half baked... The lies truly hurt more than its truths....

Maybe LOL..I had been in relationship for 7 years..but after that, we had to separate because he started working in other province as a government employee..we broke up..but we still kept in touch,until now he`s here!!he still cares for me, so do i..we can talk on the phone for hours!! When asked whether i miss him or not??hmmm...yah..i think so...i miss the moment we used to spend in campus together..If we`re really made for each other, i don`t want to live in separate lives any longer..i don`t trust 100% in LDR..some can work out,this happens to my older sister..i mean before she got marriage.she had been in LDR for several years as her hubby (then boyfriend)was studying in the USA( we live in Jakarta,Indonesia).after several ups n downs,they got married n now they have 1 son (11 years old)

I was in a long distance relationship years ago. I was a senior in highschool and he went off to college as a freshman. It was a very difficult year apart. He did wander but for some stupid reason I grew fonder. I figured it out years later that he was not faithful while away. I have not had another long distance realtionship. But I would say that I suppose it could work out if both trusted the other completely and did not wander. But, I would not do another long distance only because I no longer am able to trust. It would sit in the back of my mind and nag. Good thing I don't have to worry about that anymore since I'm married! LOL

It makes me FONDER when I the love of your life. Missing someone dear do make me a person quiet for most of the time and wished he was there beside always. The physical presence makes a big importance but if given in situation needed for distance because of valid reasons, under that circumstance, sacrifices are about to make. When you miss someone, it helps you realize how important the person is and it is very neutral also to WANDER if that person is alright and well cared off. I guess in any personal reason, Both are present when distance are given in any relationship. You fonder at the same time wander for some good intentions. But, if you wander due to negative thoughts then I can say that the love security given by that person to you is not enough for you to be confident and look things in a positive view. Doubt is always a part in any relationship but if you are given the respect and proper trust, then things are going to move smoothly.

hi maria! For me it depends, if you're just a lover boyfriend/girlfriend the possibility of being with each other again is too little. I was experienced this kind of relationship before I got married but it didn't work, but there is some lovers i know committing in long distance relationship, some of them succeed and end up together but some are not. Now i am with long distance relationship again, but the different is i am legally committed (married) now, we have our son who's keeping our relationship strong,it's actually makes the heart go fonder. some times there are some misunderstanding but we can deal with it, for me.. as long as he's faithful and responsible I am willing to endure everything until he came back. :)

I hate to say this, but for me, I think, absence makes the heart forget... Unless maybe there is a clear understanding between you and your partner. Lucky for those who remain faithful despite the distance and circumstance. But there is no guarantee. Temptation is all around us. We have our own needs.