I am a failure

Hi, lagirl1966! I can understand how you feel, and i can understand being jealous. I have been there and sometimes still go there these days, but i do try to keep my head up. I have several children, of whom i feel i have let down. They are alot of the reasons that i keep on trying. I guess i can say i want to give up, as easy as it would be, but i have never been one to do that. If anything the harder things get thrown at me the harder i hit back. When people try to keep me down, i keep fighting to get up. I try my best to make it harder for them when they want to come at me again. I hope things get better for you, and keep pushing there is bound to be a wall that will give way soon.

now in order to bring change in your life u need to accept the fact that u look on things too negative and this is what will keep u down more and more,this mindset that u just displayed in this conversation shows excatly what is damaging your drive to strive,u need to have a more positive outlook on life,and please forget age,it also helps to slow us down,how ever u feel within work with that drive to succeed but for now u need to get rid of the present mindset u have,that is what is helping to depress u,come on you are with a great community that can help to motivate u,this is where some of your positive energies will come from,the rest is to clear your mind of the negative,u r using the wrong words to live it,u r not a failure,u fail when u stop trying to live positively eachday,and pursue your goals,may the blessings be

I'm pretty good at not wanting material things anymore. My sister pretty much has a charmed life. Her Masters degree, married, and I didn't even know what to get her for Christmas because everything I could afford to buy her, she already has. Our lives have turned out so differently. It all changed for me when I got sick about ten years ago. I'm pretty good at appreciating the little things. Now what I'm working on is being content without a lot of relationships. Friends I can count on, a man who is interested in me as much as I am in him. More than anything, I want a friend I can call up, go to a movie with. Being sick altered everything for me. What you're feeling isn't wrong. One can't just put on a happy face. But you aren't a loser. God doesn't create losers. It will get better as long as keep moving forward. Do the things we know to do. Talk when we need to talk, like right now. And if you need to talk to me privately, PM me. It WILL get better. I don't know when, but it will. That is what keeps me going.

hello lagirl,i think are not feel good because compare yourself with the other people.every one is poor or unlucky if she/he compare his/her life with others,except for the richest people in the world. it will be better for you if you accept the problem around you and try to make some changes,do excersize to strengthen your body,try to do some easily work if health available,meet friends and look for chance to get hellp from them,smile more times per day,say more thanks to your mom and your son,let they know how deep you love they.they will understand you more through your effort.

You are comparing yourself with normal people and getting het up. You are giving yourself a raw deal. Stop that and contact some social service organisations who will help you out in this condition. Your sickness is not your making and so you have every right to seek help.

Greetings lagirl1966 Though I have not walked in your exact steps, I've been there, feeling like a failure: http://petemacinta.bravehost.com/pete.html#testimony To me it sounds like you are being doubled team. Satan loves to accuse us, loves to suggest things that are not so. Our human natured, shattered by sin (we all have a sin nature) sometimes goes against us too. But, God wants to be on our side. Remember His gracious Words through Christ Who said we are of great value to God. God wants you to know He cares for you and there is precious, wonderful you. Please also see... http://petemacinta.bravehost.com/se.html God desires to be our Friend, your Friend. No matter what we have done, He is willing to forgive, cleanse, heal, and dwell within if we so invite Him to do so. Christ indicated in the Gospel of John that whoever comes to the Father through Him would not be turned away. Peter adjures us by the Holy Spirit to cast all of our care upon Him for He cares for us. December 1969 I was at an emotional bottom. A senior in HS, no college wanted me, I had been a satanist, I had a juvenile police record (a big disappointment to my parents). January 25, 1970 I asked God to forgive me and asked Christ to come inside of me. He did! Immediately I felt the heavy burden of being a failure lifted off of me, and though I did not what the future held, I realized that God would lead me. I then thought of myself as a lamb, and Christ as the Good Shepherd soothing me, me who used to be a satanist and God hater. He is a sincere prayer away. I encourage you to ask Christ to come into you. Fully trust Him. Lay all things before Him. Give Him all. You will be blessed. Will be praying for you. May God bless you.

lagirl1966 okay we all have problems, let me cry on your shoulder now and maybe it will even make you think yours are not so bad.My son and i were living like most middle class citizens in a two bedroom apartment.he was working and I was newly retired.life was okay and we did not have any extra money but we kept our bills paid. so firstmy son gets his wages cut back then I got fired for being too old,okay then broke my shoulder.okay. then he got fired and we ran out of money. so we got behind on the rent.We were evicted. have you been homeless,out of money,out of work,. well I have so as I am 83 and slightly handicapped my son wanted me to have a place to live, so he helped me get inhere at this retirement center. my social security and ssi checks pay for the rent and food with some left over. myfamily is now broken up with my son a couple of miles away in a gov. sponsored apt with three other men all of them are still out of work. Okay so noone should have to live in a retirement center when they do not want to,sound familar to you? Most of my dearest possessions are s till in storage, but I do have my old computer and my newer monitor. is my life wonderful well no but it beats the hell out of being in a homeless shelter.buck up there are a lot of us out here who have problems. is live fair? no no it is not. Do I feel sorry for myself? Not any more, there are always people who are much worse off than you or I so look up, we are down so the only way we can go now is up, see, look up see the sun see the stars see the new year that is going to be better for us both.

Life is a mystery sis. No one, I repeat no one live happily ever after (it only can happened in fairy tales) Every people I've known have their own problems with different effects. In your case, I think it's money right. I lived in a country with average salary $ 100/month (in my country you have to earn below $ 20/month to be called poor LOL ) So cheer up sis, life is great if you think it's great & life is suck when you think it's suck.

Why do people base their worth on money and possessions??? Aren't we worth much more than that???? You must realize that you are a wonderful work of art! There is no one in the universe exactly like you! You are special! You are exactly what the people in your life need around them. You have the great ability to touch every life you contact in such a positive way. Give love and kindness to everyone you meet. Help those you can and encourage those you can't. You will be a success no matter how much money you make.If you give this unconditional love to everyone, you will attract love into your life. Look up! Life is worth living! Really look around you this time.This world does need that which is special about you!!!!

know that you are not alone. Any mother worth her salt wonders if she hasn't failed her child somehow at sometime. The fact that you care that you may have speaks volumes about your character. Some 'mothers' never think to care how their actions effect their children. Almost everyone gets depressed. This time of year is especially hard. Many would try to help you by sharing tales of woe, some tell you to get a more positive attitude and some tell you to trust in god. The problem with depression is that it is very difficult to 'think' your way out of and once it sets in is a real battle. You are being proactive in seeking disability and once you get that it will allieviate some of your money issue. In the mean time you need to find a depression buster. You don't need to change your entire routine or life or outlook. I would encourage you to push yourself to do one small thing a day that makes you feel better about yourself. When I was in my deepest depression that could be something as simple as getting a shower...or cleaning my kitchen sink...or doing leglifts at the counter. A small bit of exercise and sunlight is supposed to work wonders. Just one small thing...today...tomorrow...and the next day. Don't compare yourself to others. I know...easier said than done. You see your friend and all that she has, but does she share what she is missing? I see my sister and all that she has but I know that she is stuck in a job that she hates and is making her ill from stress to pay for it. One step at a time. You can win this battle.

Hi lagirl1966, Dont feel low.Remember that nobody is a failure. Yes, sure we do fail at times but no one is a failure. Even the greatest person you ever know have his/her own failures before. Let these experiences make you a better person.

Don't lose hope. Cheer up. Always remember that, failure is just a temporary setback. When we say "temporary", it will too shall come to pass. Just like Jesus said. "This, too, shall come to pass". There's a light at the end of the tunnel. And you must view that light as hope, not a train coming!

You picked a pretty successful topic for discussion. This alone proves you are not a failure, although a mylot discussion will not solve your life problems. The statement "maybe someday my life will change" is very telling. It is a statement of a powerless person or one who does not want to accept responsibility for the change you want. You can be a leaf blowing in the wind, or you can become the wind! It is your choice, but my hope for you is that you get up and start moving your life forward. Find some goals and move toward them. When problems arise, do not let them block your vision. Keep your eye on the goal.

I don't like to hear people feeling so sorry for themselves...it must sound very cold for me to say that but, it really does sound like you are very depressed and are feeling sorry for yourself. It's kind of giving me a couple of different feelings about how you "handle" things that come your way. Don't blame Satin... don't blame anyone! Life is a sequence of different types of always changing difficulties that, with the right frame of mind, we can all "recover" & LEARN from if we truly want to. I'm not going to even begin to tell you my story. I will tell you this... With the right "frame of mind" you CAN get your life on track. The "discussion" that you posted was a cry for help. (I believe it is) Try to remember, YOU can help yourself more than ANYONE ELSE can help you. Be strong. Stick up for yourself and remember...we ALL get sick...we all get depressed...so get over it and MOVE ON WITH YOUR LIFE or nothing will change. I hope you feel better....now get up.

I am so sorry lagirl It does sound like you have had a very difficult life...but listen...NONE of it is YOUR fault!!! You got sick! No one asks to get sick, no one can control whether or not they get sick!! It's just one of the many sucky things that happen in life I'm sure your mom doesn't mind helping you out! You are her child! A child she probably thought she would lose to a sickness, and didn't! She is probably HAPPY that she can still help you! How old is your son? He's going to understand too that getting sick was not your fault, and anything that has happened because of it is not your fault. He's your son, he loves you. Doesn't your ex husband help out at all with money? And you are NOT the only person who gets jealous! I'm pretty happy with my life right now and I STILL get jealous of other people. Even over the smallest, most naive things. I hope you are getting money from the government since you are unable to work! Hang in there!! You are never ever alone!!!!

YOU are NOT a failure of any kind! You've hit a rut of the worst kind and don't know how to get out of it. Do you go to church? You could meet someone really nice from there. Even grocery shopping, men have to shop for things too so strike up a conversation with a man but do check his left hand for a ring first. lol You have to be out and about in order to meet someone so maybe go for a short walk. You never know who you might meet. What about this lawyer situation? Have you found a new one yet? I hope so by now. The new lawyer will know what to do and take care of the old one for you. Please, keep me updated on your going ons for I'm obviously concerned!

"Maybe someday my life will change". your last sentence shows that there's still hope inside you. keep holding on it lagirl1966 and never stop doing what you feel and think like doing to improve your life. everything in our life comes from a single thought. keep thinking positive coz your body can achieve it no matter what. its all in the mind they say. when you think you are healthy, you will be healthy. when you think of something you can do, yes you can do it! never let negative thoughts bring you down. our mind is the most powerful tool that God has given us. we only have to use it properly. pick up your broken pieces, stand up and get moving. talk to positive people to uplift your spirit. and most of all, talk to HIM. he always has the answer. its a happy new year for you waiting.

You will not be able to fully appreciate the palms unless you go to the desert.

hey one important message for you :- all the negetivities you get are just because you attracted them , try to be positive and confidant all the time . imagine happiness every where even if it is not there..never give the right to make yourself happy to any one else..love yourself and you will see the world changing according to the world of your imagination .. feel the power of your imagination..one more thing to tell is that what really matters is what you give the importance..leave all your past and stop thinking everything else...think what gives you joy...think what you want..think what the things are supposed to be happen for you ....what you will see is...joy and joy everywhere..and the world according to your desires..dont wait start "imagining" now.......for more information check out "the secret movie" . it is a great motivatinal documentry that will change your life.

I don't wanna sound like a jerk, but drop the self pity party! It won't get you anywhere except feeling lousy, and then what you say will be true! I know that sounds harsh, but as long as you have that attitude you will be a failure, because a failure is someone who is always feeling sorry for themselves and never doing anything to change it. It's a person who gives up on their life getting any better and whines about the smallest hardship until it builds up bigger and bigger. So, if you want to feel like a success and be a better mother and person in general, then get your head out of your hands and do something about it! Your problems are not that bad. Seriously! I am 25, and I want a kid more than anything, but I haven't yet gotten married, which is coming next year, so it'll be after that. I always figured I'd have one before I was this age. However, my fiance and I are going to wait even longer if at least one of us doesn't have a job by then, because we need to be able to support a child. We are both legally blind and living on Social Security, and when we get married they'll even take away $400 of that! I'm a full time student and my fiance is taking classes as well. We are very stressed and have it way worse off than most people. Oh and did I mention that we're limited to living in places with good public transportation, and it still takes anywhere from an hour to three hours to get somewhere anyone else can get to in 15 to 30 minutes? My family's been breaking up bit by bit the past 15 years, and we're just now trying to reconcile and get over our differences, and my fiance's family doesn't entirely accept me. I have more problems than you, I am sorry to say, but I don't let it get me down. I know I'll have a kid when I am able to provide for one, and I am majoring in elementary education, so that'll be great. I've almost got my Associate's Degree, which I was stupid and put off for a while, but now that I nearly have it, the Bachelor's won't be far behind. My fiance is majoring in Computer Science, which can be a very lucritive field. And so, though it may take at least 5 years or more for us to be where we'd like to be, we endure the hardship knowing it won't be this bad forever. In fact, I think some of my family will be at our wedding, and I might manage to get a part time job as well! Granted that'll cause the stress of school and work running my life, but at least we won't be so strapped for cash all the time! You have to take the bad along with the good and not let it get you down. If you constantly waste your time throwing self pity parties for yourself, and expecting others to share in your pity, you will waste valuable time that could be used to make it better. So, my comment earlier wasn't meant to sound mean or anything, but just a friendly piece of advice to reroute your energy to productive things, as pity is counterproductive, especially self pity. I hope I haven't been offensive, and I may have been a little too direct, but I can't stand when people who aren't even as bad off as me feel sorry for themselves all the time while I'm working to better my life.