Why people always blame others for their fault?
By b4balaji
@b4balaji (410)
India
December 28, 2009 10:33pm CST
I have seen this in lot of things, at home or at office. There is always a tendency in people not to accept their fault. They somehow want to blame others for their fault.
Even I have shown this kind of behavior, until I realized it is wrong. But it is true that naturally people want to blame others if something fails, and somehow they come to conclusions, that the fault occurred by somebody Else's action and not because of them.
Why is this? Have you felt this?
17 responses
@olepmis (840)
• Philippines
11 Jan 10
It is sad to note to blame others for your own fault. We call it "pride" so we blame others especially no one knows what you have done. Everybody is doing it but if you are honest, you have to accept the fact that you are human subject to commit mistakes.
@picjim (3002)
• India
29 Dec 09
You've raised a very valid point.I feel it is easy to put the blame on others rather than making changes in ourselves.I've been through this way of thinking and realised the futility of my ways.what I've realised is it is easy to shift the blame on others than making a few changes in our thinking helping us to adjust to the situation.It is best to accept our erroneous behavior make changes so that we are better persons.
@tawny_24 (341)
• United States
1 Jan 10
Sometimes we blame others and sometimes we may even take the blame for something we are not at fault for. Being able to acknowledge our mistakes and take responsibility for them is one of the hardest things to do. Everything we do has a consequence, regardless of the intention, if the out come is negative then we either face it and learn a lesson, or we continue to repeat the mistake until we understand or hit the wall.
@Rock_Me_In (400)
• India
1 Jan 10
Hmmm. Sure it hurts my friend. I usually don't accept those my friend.
@cecila (11)
• India
29 Dec 09
people blame others because they never want to accept their wrong doing that defame their name.It is known as defense mechanism to distort the reality sothat others can see good even though he/she involved such act. yes, now a days it happens everyday to avoid their ugly/wrong works. yes i think each one may feel but if you know the reason behind that no need to worry.
@starsailover (7829)
• Mexico
29 Dec 09
Hi cecila: I think just the same that you are stating. I just want to add that, even if we have this natural mechanism that makes us survive and maybe not assume every little mistake we make can be controlled by judging the facts in a very objective way and then if there's something we can do, and one of these things is to accept that we have not done everything right and if it's possible to do something. Thanks for your answer. Hope you are having a nice day. Merry Christmas. Happy Holidays. Take Care.
-Alvaro.
@ronnyb (6113)
• Jamaica
29 Dec 09
Yes I have seen many such situation too in which something goes wrong and immediately there is someone to point the finger .I guess some people feel that pointing the finger at soemoen else takes them out of the line of fire .I have always hated people who love to point fingers rather than take responsibility for the situation at hand and try and find a solution .
@celebratelifeh (1142)
• China
30 Dec 09
to be frankly even myself do not like to accept my own fault if that's exploded or blamed by others sometime. we do not like that feeling to be blamed i think.but after that i will think about that and do my best to change it or advise it. so won't have that kind of fault again.
@greatsasuke (472)
• United States
29 Dec 09
People do this because it is easier to see other people's faults than one's own. All our senses are geared to perceiving things outside, so it should come to no surprise that we are able to see bad behavior in other people more so than in ourselves. Looking inside oneself and resolving one's own issues is what is called meditation. Maybe we should all do more meditation so we can quit blaming others for our problems.
@starsailover (7829)
• Mexico
29 Dec 09
Hi b4balaji: First of all I think this is a very interesting question about human's behaviours. For me, some people do this as a defense to their own faults. It seems more comfortable to think that you have not done anything wrong and basically, that you don't deserve assume any responsability. I know it's inmature and that, in fact we should admit that we are just humans and we commit mistakes. To accept our mistakes is the first step to be better person as they say. Thanks for asking us this question b4balaji. Hope you are having a nice day. Merry Christmas. Happy Holidays. Take Care.
-Alvaro.
@karthi_88 (299)
• India
29 Dec 09
its human nature friend .but in home if we make any mistake we can accept it its our home our family will be only there.why to hide the mistakes?.i think most of them wont blame others when they make any mistake in home.if we see in office,its the human tendency to blame others to hide their fault.now all are very careful and clever minded.we cant easily blame others because if a problem arises and if they dint make any mistake sure there will be a small inquiry so all will have their records perfect .its easy to blame others but you cant prove the fault that they dint do.
have a nice day :)
@UpsideDownPineapple (643)
• United States
30 Dec 09
Well, I blame others sometimes (though I try not to) because it doesn't feel good to be at fault.
@earnquickmoney29 (18)
• India
29 Dec 09
It is in human nature no1 wants 2 find fault in them but others.
@SangsTurks (1444)
• India
29 Dec 09
I guess that is human nature. I too do it at time, and find reasons as to how it was bcause of somebody else that i am in this situation. I think we all just want to think of ourselves as perfect and others as not so perfect OR just that we know what we are and what we do and that others interference affects the work that we do.
@BART78 (2927)
• Canada
29 Dec 09
my dad is king of this traits, he always blame the people around him even the smallest thing, i think there's somethig to do with ego...the last issue the i heared form my dad is he met a new friend and he share all the tricks of the trade in selling insurance policy, now the guy using it and my dad keeps on blaming the guy of using his secret trade in closing a insurance policy.....my dad is stupid, ey?
@maria1081 (1251)
• Philippines
29 Dec 09
Because its easier to get out from trouble when you blame others for it. Well, I knew someone with that kind of attitude. He always play safe and blame others for his fault and makes a lot of excuses. Those kind of people makes me sick.