Let my baby cry?

Hi yes I think you must let her cry for sometime.I remember I had a midwife who suggested me that when my baby cries endlessly for no reason,just let her lie in her cot and make myself a cuyp of tea.By the time,I will finish my tea my little girl will be asleep,(and that was true ) I think that trick worked,because constantly I was not able to look after her all the time and she just wanted to be comforted.Once this pattern followed she used to be quite comfortable in her cot. I know it is hard for the first time but it is good for you as well as the baby. Good Luck

NoNoNo! If your baby is crying, it's because she needs something. She wants to be close to you. She was inside you for 9 months; she's been out for only 4! You cannot spoil your baby by holding her too much! My daughter was the same way. She wanted to be held all the time, but I never let her cry alone. I know it's exhausting...I was miserable because she demanded so much attention. It WILL get better. When they start crawling, it will get easier. I don't regret now holding her all the time. She is 4 years old now, and we are so well bonded! I would do anything for her! And she knows that! She trusts me, and knows that I love her. It's possible that letting babies cry it out will make them less trusting when they grow up. If you need emotional support, you can talk to me! I'll send you a friend request!

I empathise with you. Many always suggest or recommend that we should let the baby cry and it will stop on its own - once it is tired. LOL. By attending to it, the baby learns and he will cry non-stop next time whenever he does not get what he wants. It becomes a habit even when he is grown up.

I think 4 months is too young to late a baby cry it out. I tried it once with my oldest son but he cried for 10 minuetes then I gave in!! I carried him all the time he cried, I bought a baby sling and had him with me most of the time, or my husband had him. My other kids weren't so bad, or the older ones would entertain the younger ones!! My oldest turns 18 in 9 days time and he seems to be okay! Comfort your baby if you feel it is best, let her cry if you feel that is best. but I wouldn't let her cry for long, 10 to 15 mins is okay, longer than that would be awful to bear!

Most babies will cry so parents disappeared from view him. But over time because they not get a response, the baby will give up and eventually fell asleep. So if you want to take time off the sidelines when caring for your baby, letting your baby cry, not a cruel way. In the medical activities of children, this method is called "ferberizing"

I would agree with most on the crying. I would not let my baby cry very much either. But everyone always told me that it will not hurt her to cry a little. Not for me i would go pick her up everytime. But if you decide to let her cry please make sure there is nothing wrong with her first. Spending more time with her will be less stressful for you as a parent. My Nena is now 7 and she will tell ya I want my mother. She is by my side every chance she gets. As soon as she gets out of school she sat in the same room i do and will not move. She plays with her toys and watching tv but will not go out of the same room. Although she does go play with friends but she checks in and out. She is just now getting where she will spend the night with my aunt. I would have to say she is a little spoiled.

I always felt horrible letting my kids cry and didn't want to put them down, but after they are fed, changed, burped and there is nothing binding in their clothes, there is really nothing else to do. They will never learn to do anything if we hold them all of the time. I know it's a hard thing to do but try to let her cry every now and then.....it is good for the development of her lungs and her being placed on her tummy for a little while will help her get ready to crawl....sometimes a babies anger while crying helps build the strength up in their arms and legs....

Hi there. I have a small baby that is a bit younger then yours, 3 months now. She cries very little, I would estimate less then 5 minutes in total in one day. Of course every baby is different and some cries more. I don't like the idea of letting my child cry until she falls asleep or calms down, and wouldn't do so. I'm also home all day with my little one and I rush to her as fast as possible if she starts crying. What I noticed that worked with my older child (now a big boy of 11 years)was including him in things that needs to be done around the house, and I do this with my little girl also. She is close and can see me while I make dinner, do the dishes or laundry or whatever needs to be done. Maybe try some of it if you don't already? Can your daughter grab things already? Maybe she could be somewhere close when you are doing something in the kitchen and hold a spoon for example. This might sound like an odd advise, but when my son was a bit older then your daughter is now and he could play a bit on his own he happily did so after "helping" out with the chores at home. After something as little as dropping something in the washingmachine he could entertain himself for a long time while I was able to finish whatever I was doing. Even my little one can lay in her crib and study her hands alone for up to 10 miuntes before she gets bored and wants some company. Due to a bad back I can't hold her all the time, but she seems just as happy to have me sitting beside her and showing her things when she wants company. Just my thoughts about this. But I would say do what feels good to you, and if letting her cry doesn't, then don't let her. A crying baby breaks my heart (and probably many parents agree with me here)so I wish you all the best and your little one too.

I would have had a very hard time letting my babies cry it out. I would have felt so guilty and bad for them listening to them cry because they needed something and me not making them feel better. I would feel like they felt unloved. I'm not saying you cant let them cry at all because sometimes if you let them cry for a few minutes they will stop but I just mean that I wouldnt let my baby cry for like 30 minutes and be ok with it. There have been studies done recently where letting the cry for extended lengths of time referred to ask letting them cry it out is actually really bad for them.

Your little one is at the age that I started exploring with letting them self comfort, but I didn't expect them to be able to do it all the time. I would let them cry for about fifteen minutes, but that would be all that I could handle. I think at that age they don't really know how to comfort themselves, but if you pick them up absolutely every time that they do cry, then they will become somewhat spoiled when they are older. However, I can't stand to let a child continually cry because that can make them feel deprived.

I have four daughters, but only one cried much. When I say 'much' I mean constantly. The doctor said she was OK and she was just temperamental. I read a lot of books and most said that attention would probably only make it worse. The more we ignored her, the less she cried. It was tough at first, but we got used to it and she finally quit. She's grown now and seems to have turned out alright. She doesn't even remember the times we put her in the closet. You see, babies don't know what closets are. It's really just a small room without a light in it. But don't put them in a drawer. Somehow, I think they're hip to that.

My daughter is 8 months old. She seldom cries unless she is hungry or sleepy. I think there must be some reason for the baby to cry. It is important for the mum to practice her independence at very yound age when it is easier for the baby to get used to it. It is helpful to leave the baby with some toys which attract her attention, then she will not keep asking to be hold in your arms.

It is very difficult to let your baby cry but sometimes you need to. Make sure the baby is fine, no feaver, clean diaper, etc, and if she continues to cry then just close the door and let her cry herself to sleep. She will stop and it's not being a bab mother by doing it. Check on her now and then when she stops and falls asleep. I have four kids and had to do the same with them.

I know exactly how you feel. Have you checked to see if she is teething or maybe colicky? If she is teething her gums will be swollen and she will be slobbering. Sometimes I think that if holding them makes them feel better well then just hold them. Good luck.

Hi. I ever heard about people told that crying for baby is ok and it's the way to train their respiration. But, as I know that baby will crying when they are not comfort with their position,maybe something wrong about body, they hungry or pee.I think,it's not good to let baby cry.Better to receive them as soon as posible. At 0 months until 2 years, they schould be feel that this world is a comfortable place.So, it's our duty as mom to make them comfort.

Hi jhess3366! When we had my youngest brother recently, my mom told me that it's okay to let him cry very once in a while so he can practice being alone. Th baby will be too clingy and dependent if we keep on hugging them all the time. a few hours of them being alone would be okay so the mother can also rest. She said that it would also be good for his lungs if he cries sometimes.