Should a wife have work or just stay at home to take care of the kids?

Raising kids is also a profession. Your lucky that you have the option to choose between working and taking care of the kids full time to which you choose the latter. A lot of mothers who do not have the skills don't have a choice. In life it's always about choice and we always have to make hard decisions. Going back to teaching may not be your best choice right now since it takes too much of your time not unless you teach part time. Today, mothers are no longer obligated to stay at home, they can work if they want to but still there's no substitute to a mother's care when raising kids, I'm referring to the majority of course. You can always work at home and earn online, it may not be that much but at least it will supplement your husband's income. Cheers!

I have always thought the solution was part time work. That helps financially, gets you out of the house for a while which is good. At the ages of your children I would assume that they are either at school now or soon will be so you will be on your own during the day. Teaching is a good job for a mother as you will work the same hours they are at school if you do it full time. Is it possible to do it just part time? If you love your work then it will energise you and that will help you with everything else. I see nothing wrong with a wife working. It is all a matter of personal choice.

It really depends on your family. If you can actually afford to stay home and want to then you should. If you can not afford it then you will have to work. I work from home so I have the best of both and the worst. I am home making my money and always here for my children. But at the end of the day I am very tired and at times I will fall asleep at 6pm and be out for the night. My husband is not working right now as in our area jobs are very few. But he would work more and I would less if we could.

for me, its depend on situation...for your situation, i believe that u should focus more intention to your chidren. as you tell us, u r ex-teacher,rite? so, i just want to suggest to you do a home tuition. i believe you have experience becausr u r ex-teacher. so, if you do this, your children always in your intention and money will come to you(make home tuition) :)

There are two things to be noted. If you are self contended then you may leave the job. Secondly if you have grandparents to look after the children then you can add to your income by going for employment.But in the present day getting employment becomes very difficult and there are so many suffering to get next meal. If you leave the job to the deserving it is welcome. But you can find self employment where you can give job to someone and your time is at your disposal. So,You can earn and you can look after your family and you give employment some deserving.

You can always have a memorable and valuable time with your children after your work and during week ends and holiday vacations. Try to let them realize that you are working hard for them and your family. I dont see any wrong for working wives especially when the husband can not really provide all the family needs. As a teacher you can help other people grow also with your role in the society that is to provide wisdom and develop youngsters fully in their soon professional lives. staying home as a plain housewife is I believe not your dreams since you have worked hard to achieve your profession, dont waste it.

that is why i am also looking for work that is not full time. where in the mornings you can attend to the needs at home and the kids, work in the afternoon, and family in the evenings. i do not want to resign from my present work because im afraid i would be bored too and our financial side might suffer..

I think as a teacher you could still work and stay at home. Have you thought about tutoring children after school? Maybe babysitting or opening a daycare center in your home would work for you. A lot of people would be happy to know they have someone caring for their kids that could help them with schoolwork after school and be somewhere safe.

To me the ideal situation is for one parent to stay at home [ mom or dad] to bring up the children up to a cearting age. I do understand what so ever that in todays world that may not be possible, but like every thing in life we do have a choice[ and that is to the individual their needs and so on] I chose to stay [and work] from home when my children were young, we did not have the latest technology and the children did not wear brand name clothes hey why would them? when I could make their own clothes [with mum brand on it?]Yes I did work hard on those days some time up to 1 or 2 Am but the next day I had the privilege to take my children to school, and pick them up in the afternoon, I know Im not wealthy today but I Am very rich because I have 4 grown up children [ and 1 grandson] which are very successful human beings today! shelo is your choice do what is best for you and your family I wish you the best!

well I think that you have a good point. The whole society struggle these days is financials. Everyone wants to have more money to be able to provide more. I understand that! I dont even have kids but I truly love making money and it would be hard for me to quit my job. When and IF i decide to have children, my obligatiosn will be to them. They are a #1 priority. I would love to be able to stay home with children and will hopefully be able to do so until they go to school. I think that once they start school, you should go back to work. At least find something part time and then you will feel satisfied with your contributing, andyou will still be there for your children. You are pretty close to being able to go back to work, and if you are a teacher you could be in the same area as your kids and have the same hours as them. I would be a win win situation when your youngest goes to school. Best of luck and I hope you can find a way to balance and be happy!!

It depends on circumstances. It is not necessary for you to go out of your home to earn. you can earn by doing so many jobs at home itself. Why don't try doing some Online jobs?? How about stock trading., or investing. Then, if your house is big, you could also look at converting the same into Child Care center for 2-3 hours daily. the possibilities are many, you need to open to ideas.

i think it depends on urself. but i found most of female around me stay in to take care of children when they are young. in fact, they say it's boring to stay in, they even prefer to working. but i think when i have a child, i'll stay at home at the first several years. well, at the same time, in ur free time, maybe u can do some online earning things.

I stayed home with my 5 kids until the youngest one was two years old and I'm so glad I did. Yes, I got bored at times but looking back on it, those were precious years. Mothers nowdays are so much luckier than we were because you have the Internet where you can interact with others and can even earn some money. Don't discount how you save money by being home. If you were working, there would be expenses you don't have now, especially in your food bill. You can cook good, healthy meals when you're at home whereas working mothers spend quite a bit on take-out because they're so tired. You could look at other ways you could save as keeping a price book so you can get the best value while paying the least amount on anything you buy.

I'm a working wife now.I have no kid present, so i go out for work after the graduate,and i have been worked for 3 years.I think i will go on working after having a baby.I just want to have one baby, because it is hard for us to bring up 2 or 3 children.I think i will let my child with my parents,when then old enough i will send them to school.As you know, everything need money, we both have to go out for work, i don't want my husband work so hard.

I have been in the same situation, however, not by choice. After my second daughter was born I developed fibromyalgia and have been unable to work for the past 13 years. We have been struggling financially. My kids are 13 and 16 and are involved in extra-curricular sports activities which cost money, lots of money. My oldest daughter went to Puerto Rico in November to participate in the Junior Pan American Games for Taekwondo. We had to do a lot of fundraising to get her there. She came home with a Bronze and a Gold Medal. Now she is heading to Belarus later this year for the World Cup. She is on Team Canada and we cannot deny her this. I so wish I could help financially but am physically unable to work. My illnesses is not as bad as it was 10 years ago, but I know I couldn't handle the stress of a job. Though we are close to paying off our house (an advance inheritance from my mother helped) we now have another debt... a climbing line of credit to help us get by. I was an independent woman, a working single mother for two years. Now I am dependent on my husband. I love my children and wish we could do more for them (my 13 year old is a rep soccer player). When I first became ill I found this as an opportunity to follow my dream of becoming a published author. It's a lot harder than it seems and I have gotten terribly discouraged. My novel is in its final (I hope) editing stages... except I haven't touched it in months. I have lost motivation. I feel there should be more to my life. When I got ill I realized that this forced me to do what I wanted to do - stay home and raise my children. I had quite a legal battle for five years. I also wasn't much of a mother because of my illness but I have always been here for them. They are the first to admit how grateful they are for that. When they get home from school I am here for them. They always want to talk about their day when they get home. They need that and I am happy to be here for them. Staying at home is a double-edged sword, no doubt about it. When your children are in school full time, you have the option of getting a part-time job and still be home for your children when they get home from school. Only you can make the decision of what is best for you and your family, but at least you have options. You can do both. Good luck.

I would think that the best thing for a mom to be is a teacher. You have off pretty much all the time they do so during the summer you can spend time with them. If there was a job that I could get I would want to work at the school so I would have off the sametimes as them. You have to do what you need to do to provide for your family. Try taking a vitamin B you will really see a difference in how you feel. I know I feel a difference when I forget to take mine. It gives you alot more energy. I know being a teacher is alot of work. I volunteer at the school and am amazed by how much time these teachers have to spend at the school. Also the crappy way they are treated from the system and the kids who don't give a care.

Welcome to Mylot. Only three next to your name and you're on the most responded to discussions? Wow, fast learner. I think it depends on the person. It sounds to me like maybe a part-time job would work out better for you. Full time teacher was probably too much. But part time would help out your financial, you wouldn't be bored, but you would be with your children more and less tired for them. That would be a compromise.

here in Ca most women have no choice as it takes two paychecks to pay the staggering rent costs and all the other expenses so women have not got much choice, but I think its good as a mom who works brings a new dimension to her children. they learn that women can bring home the bacon and fry it too , as well as the guys, and teamship with parents shows the kids how to work together to get things done better. I think work ing and caring for a family is a good thing. really. A lot of kids find having a mom who has a job too is great as she has more to share with them then just the housework routine. they are in school so why not let mom work, two paychecks help to keep people from getting foreclosed and losing their homes.

As long as its financally possible i would say stay home till the last child is in school. The amount you'd have to pay out in child care would hardly be worth it. Being a teacher would be he perfect job for a mom as well. The hours with your kids hours are matched perfectly.

I think it is as you say your financial situation..... My sisters husband has a job that supports both of them.... It is a struggle at times but not to bad.... She has been lucky to be able to do that.... Sometimes it takes both parents working in the household to make ends meet.... Keep mylot as a source for venting and meeting new people but try going online to be a text handler.... you can work at home and bring in a little extra.... There are also writing sites that do not charge you any to join.... they write articles... this may also be an option....