Do emotions make you dumb or dumber

Well I would say he needs to point that out to her and he might get somewhere with her taking her Name of They say a Woman's anger is dangerous but she is damaging herself and like you say she should get out of that before it is to late I mean she must know that she is harming herself there as well as him is it really worth it

Emotions can drive people mad. I just responded in a discussion about hatred and how people can be consumed by it, rather than spending time with people they love and seeing the beauty of things in life. This is somewhat like that. These people are so consumed by standing in each others way that they fail to see what they are doing to each other and themselves. Also, once children get involved in the whole story people should definitly try to be mature about these things. You are setting an example for your children and you don't want them ending up the same way.

Hi there savypat, Break-ups are not much different than divorce in emotional intensity. People are angry, hurt and just don't think rational when going thru these things. I don't know what your friend could do to push her to sign off from the truck if she is stubbornly refusing to. They may have to learn the hard way on this one.

Love can make you very silly and when people are hurt they overreact often on impulse and it is not until later that they realise the foolishness of their decisions. She sound like she is still at that angry vindictive stage and is not thinking clearly about the consequences of her refusing to take her name off the accounts. I had a friend years ago who kept on contesting the divorce proceedings his wife started just to make life difficult for her, people can become quite childish in regards to matters of the heart. I was in a similar situation when I split up with my ex and wanted to do all sorts of stupid things to him, my saviour was my best friend who kept me sane and made me see sense before I did anything silly. I wonder if there is anyone who could talk to this lady and make see sense…I bet many have tried...He sounds as though he is not of ‘sound’ mind and still in love with her...

dear pat, too much emotion changes a person. also it makes him decide something a smart person would not do. most people around will not understand him, but in his heart he is happy. he maybe stubborn while the emotion is at its peak. but one should just need to be patient with him. ann

savypat, when I saw that title I came in to ask you whaatt??? But after reading through what you've just written I do feel really sorry for your friend. I think love is something that makes you more intelligent because you strive to make life better for your loved ones. You start thinking dynamically on ways to overcome problems. You also realize that money can buy many things but money cant buy love. Love once lost may never be found. Money can be earned again. :) Now, coming to the issue, you need to tell your friend look - it is not going to help the lady. Harp on that. And also suggest they meet some financial advisor - together so that they get a right solution. Between the two of them, the problem will not be solved, and since you are the boy's friend, you will not be trusted. But a neutral party like some counsellor might just manage to tell them the scores and bring them back to reality. :) All the best. :)

Often happens that emotions move above the rational decision. Although it can't be blamed, i mean that's part of being human, right? Sometimes money isn't all there is, though if money is so much of an important factor in a relationship, then i must have love all wrong... It would be best to mention the consequences of what will happen in the future, they should probably also make sure to get rid of it through some sort of planning etc...

I haven't seen this happen, myself, but it's a very bad idea to act like you're married when you aren't. That's what they are doing when they share accounts and ownership. If they'd been married, he'd have some sort of protection and legal recourse but--you say he loves her, so maybe it doesn't matter. That woman is cutting off her nose to spite her face, as they used to say. Being stubborn and mean is only going to bring her misfortune that she is actually inviting! People are strange.

Emotions make me smart or dumb depending on what kind of emotion I experience. If I'm happy, I am smart. If I am sad, I am dumb.

Hey pat~ This is just a very bad situation! And it is only going to get worse if this woman doesn't wake up quick! She can't just make the debt just go away or hope her name will just disappear so she better wake up and see that she has to face the piper so to speak! I have wished many times that I didn't do some of the things that I have done, but can't blame anyone but myself! I never signed, co-signed anything for anybody thank the Lord! I have only myself to blame for the messess I have got myself in! Hope this one works out for the best!

I have seen a lot of people do some really crazy things people have done because of "love" per say. I think that some will risk all to get an ex back and I mean that in both ways..in their life or revenge. It makes some people do some nutty things indeed.

She is clearly cutting off her nose to spite her face. And perhaps he wants her back so doesn't want to do anything to sever all ties. It is very difficult to be sensible when all these emotions are involved. I hope they can sort this out beofre the disaster really hits. They probably need a mediator to help.

i agree with what you do.actually i think that the relationship has ended up between them.so he could not do for her,i dont say that as people we should be selffish and dont help someone.but we think whether it is significant to do like that.maybe it only waste spirit and time to do unsignificant thing.they have broken their relationship.they should live owned life and not interrupt each other,what he done for her only make trouble for him.

Though it seems like ur fiend is an idiot but its actually not................ He is deeply in love............. and what u have wriiten it seems he is too deeply in love to see anything realistically................ and his girlfrnd is also in love though it doesn't seems so but she also lover him.................. and because of that they are acting idiotically................ but emotions like love, hate makes people behave like idiot, makes them dumb.............. don't let them think rationally.................. ut that's the charm of love........................

Love makes you overlook faults. Resentment from a relationship going south will cause people to behave more badly than they ever thought they could. Yep, emotions, if you let them rule your behavior, can really make you do stupid things.

when my mom divorced my dad it took a while for her to contact creditors. They were married for 31 years and even though most of the business accounts were in her name. They had a checking and a couple of credits that were on there together. Because he spent his limit which like 15,000 dollars on one of them it really hurt my mom. Another thing that was hurting her was the fact that the house payment was in his name and she was paying where she was living there and he wasn't before the divorce. From this I have learned for one--- If I do get married he's gonna be to a rich man other than that my butt is staying right where I'm at because the way every one looks at being in a relationship these days where is the need for marriage if it is going to end in divorce. the only thing good about it was that my mom had the majority of her things in her name and his things in his, but it hurt him as well, because he ran up all his credit thinking it would hurt her but it only hurt her where her score was concerned. When she was able to explain to the mortgage person about the issues at hand they were able to over look her credit score to an extent. As in she had to have it up to a certain number but they only looked at recent accounts that were solely in her name after she got my dad to sign a paper saying that was his account. She also saved all the paperwork for it and for like 6 months paid every thing on time from the time she left the house til the time we bought our new house. She had paid four credit cards off on advice that a different lender had give and that helped some but she was also informed that she was better off to keep atleast 1/2 the amount on the cards if at all possible. Well, she ended up refinancing the house in februaury and since that was done she no longer has to deal with the situation of what's on her credit. Atleast not for the time being anyways.

'Love is blind' - yes, it is true that emotions can make you oversee faults and weaknesses of another person. But it probably is more than just the emotions of love. It is all the good times you had together, the memories and the fear of having to start from the beginning with another people or not even finding one. It takes a lot of courage to walk out of a long-term relationship.

Emotions can dull the common sense no matter what they are. They say love is blind. I think that is a very accurate summary. People overlook faults when they think they are in love. They make excuses, even if the obvious is staring them right in the face. It makes people not think clearly. So emotions can cause people to lose sight of common sense. Thus leading to dumb decisions, ones that are not in their best interests.