my grandmother has decided to just die

I sorry to hear about this. I know its really hard to except but like my fiance says life isn't enjoyable when we are in and out of hospitals and constantly taking meds that make us feel horrible. I definitely understand why she would want to do that, and maybe since she not taking her meds she will feel a little better until she passes. Im sorry, I know it has to be hard.

i can understnad her point, she might think and know she lived along life and know this will be a hard battle to fight as well putting stress on the family to care for her. when my mom was alive she was very ill and one day she told me she was tried of fighting. i told her i understood how she felt and its up to her we all would understand i would grant your grandma wish and still know she will always be with you no matter what, but most of all she's not in pain anymore and now she can rest.

Science has yet to come out with cures for Cancer. What they can do now is just to prolong ones existence devoid of life. If she has decided on this course I think you should respect her decision.

So far as know, hospital may not be the most effective way to cure Cancer. Living in hospital will easily make the patient felt upset and disappointed,especially for the aged person. If so, that will sharpen her illness and pain. Have you think about that ? You should take her home as her will, but it doesn't mean giving up the treatment. Your family should try to make her happy in her rest time and apply some effective traditional herbal medicine for her. Day be day, maybe her illness can be controlled and she will feel better as well.

I'm srry about your Grandma but what ever she chooses you should support her. I know you must feel sad but i can kind of relate to the story even though my grandad had a lot of problems with his health, he was sick for a while but suddenly he was gone, he went too soon even though we knew he was sick we didnt expected that to kill him.

It's different when you're old. If I'm around 70 years old and I have something like this . . . I won't decide to live the rest of my life in a hospital. I will prefer to live the last moments with joy, spending more time with my friends and relatives, saying "sorry" to the people that I hurt . . . things like these. Maybe writing a book to describe the most important moments of my life. To try to make a review of my life and find out what I've done and what I didn't, trying to clear my life and rest in peace with clear mind.

That is basically what my grandfather wants to do. He says he has lived his life and he is ready to die when it is his time to go. He is ready. I can see his views on it like I can see your grandmothers. It is hard on family to hear it, but in the end it is their choice and if they are at peace with it then we have to try to be as well.

I am very sorry to hear about the loss you are going to face. It is devastating to lose someone that is so dear. I have lost all my grandparents now and I think that at one point..there is a comfort in them knowing that it is time for them to go. It doesn't make it any easier for us to handle their passing but it helps to know that they were ready. It would make it harder if they were fighting mercilessly until the end wanting to live and leaving with things undone. I hope I am ready when it's my time. Take care of yourself and enjoy the time you have with her.

I can surely understand if she doesn't have the fight in her to do it anymore. Chemo can be from what I have heard really a horrible ordeal for the body and mind. If I were you I would just try to make her time left on this earth as wonderful for her as possible. May the dear lord bless her and keep her pain free.

hi friend,sorry to hear about this...but from her point of view ,she has to fight a lot with the pain and with her age its too hard also...dont think she is leaving you..her blessings ll be always be with you ever..for saying it might be easy..but i know its really very hard for you....all i can give you is my warm hug dear

hi pop I know that's a though decision you and your family made., and it's hard to accept. I have been through to that situation, when my mother is at stage 1 lympoma cancer, she doesn't want to take the treatment, because she know we need to spend much for the treatment,and other hospital bills and her maintenance., watching her suffering from pain is tortured us as well.so we have decided to take all the treatment for her, and be ready to face for the consequences.she have been through a series of chemotherapy and the good thing is she'd survived.we are very thankful to God for giving our mom a second life.God is really good. don't lose hope pop, miracles do really happen.prayer is powerful. God bless.

hello pop i understand wt u said.. bt sme times we feel dat .. the life is over nw... der is no use live more.. we loose hope...as ur grandmother wants to die..bcs she felt that the treatment ws going for d long time..nd dere is no use to get the treatment nd hpe for the better life

yes ur grand mother is right now because she has to enjoy her life this is the end of her life so it is right decision to live as how many days she live with happiness thats enough

hi! i can relate to your topics.. your grandmother choose to die. because she feels double in pain.. pain of the treatment she is having and the pain seeing her love ones also in pain because of her.. most patients having that kind of situation has a low self esteem and will just want to choose to die.. so sad to hear but a fact..

Hello Pop It is always a though time when somebody decides this is the end of life, but mostly important is that you accept and respect her decission and you try to get the best out of her last days. Often when people decide to give up life, they believe they have experienced what they need to go through in life, both possitive and negative experiences. And im confident your grandmother only want to be remembered for all positive experiences and moments you have had together.

Yes, although you contradict with her decision. Respect still her decision. In that way, you are able to understand her emotional set-backs, fears and pains. Your grandmother is in acceptance stage of her illness. It is better to give her many good moments and make her feel very important. This is the time she need all of you. Let her feel that she is normal, loved and secured through your care. If you can fulfill some things she wanted then do if for her. She need more of conversation to let her recover the pain and express thoughts at the same time for all of you to express the love, and good relationship you have.

thats truly sad :((........well...you must accept it...its problably her last wish...if that makes her happy...then to it...let her die happy...