Do you think it's possible to fall out of love?

United States
January 14, 2010 10:01am CST
Do you think it is possible to fall out of love? Or do you think if you fall out of love, you were never in love? What do you think the difference is, between being in love, and loving someone? Do you think relationships die after marrige?
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• Philippines
16 Aug 12
I think it's possible to fall out of love especially when the person treats you badly. It is also possible that you were never in love in the first place. marriage is a lifetime commitment so we must first think about it before you decide to go into it. There are couples who are able to hold on their vows but some file for divorce or annulment. It depends on how the couples feel for each other. Its a give and take relationship. There are times especially for the wives to just keep mum on several things, and I think its not healthy in a relationship. Because when you are full of hatred in yourself, the tendency is when you burst it out, you say things that are so hurtful. And a big argument will come in your way. Sometimes even simple things makes us irritable. That is because we grow tired of it. I think the best way to rekindle your feelings is have a vacation with your partner. Then try to feel for yourself if you are still happy being with that person. If not, then you need a lot of thinking before deciding.
@chiyosan (30184)
• Philippines
9 Jun 11
yes, i think so. i have fallen out of love before and i'd say its the ssame as falling in love.. you suddenly do not want to see the person you used to cannot live without.. you would suddenly feel not happy being around him/ her when you cannot stand being away from him/her before.. it happens.
@dhysanne (449)
• Philippines
14 Jan 10
Yes it is possible. For me, when I say I fell out of love, it means that I have loved that person, but I took less effort to let the love grow. In my case, I kept on waiting and thought that he love me the same way. Until I finally realize that if you really love a person, you must act on it. Being in love means you are in the state of love. While loving someone means that you are sharing the feeling of being in love to a very special person. Relationships don't die after marriage. Marriage is the confirmation of your relationship, which is another chapter of your life where you two are now exclusive to each other.
• Philippines
15 Jan 10
being in love, for me, is loving and being loved. it works both ways and one can never be without the other. loving someone is one way, meaning, one loves the other much more than what the other can give, relationships don't die after marriage, otherwise, there won't be any marriage. i do not think that it is possible to fall out of love because once you fall in, it just goes deeper and deeper. there is no turning back. people fall in love and that's it. there are no ifs and buts with love.
@obe212003 (2299)
• Philippines
14 Jan 10
To fall in love is not a choice, but by chance... We never choose who we will fall in love with, loves comes in an unexpected place and time and chances are when it happens, you will have that unexplainable feeling what we call love... Falling out of love is not a chance, but a choice.. if the chemistry is not right between two people, then sooner or later it will fail and it will be a matter of holding on or letting go, a choice that you have to make...
• Philippines
5 Feb 10
no.because if you really love that person,you wont never get tired of loving him/her
• United States
14 Jan 10
I do believe it is possible to fall out of love. A relationship can fall apart and not have the same feeling that it did in the beginning. Being "in love" with someone is different from just plan loving them because of the romance and the passion that comes with being "in love"... And no I don't believe that relationships die after marriage... I think that marriage can make a relationship stronger, but that it is the working together and doing everything as one that might take the passion away in some situations.
• United States
14 Jan 10
Sure people can fall out of love. People change, and the person you were in love with may not be the same person they once were. Sometimes choices people make in life change them so drastically over time that they are never the same person. That doesn't mean you were never in love to begin with, or that a part of you will not remember the person you once loved, and still love the memory of that person the way the were when you loved them.