If your parents get old, would you send them to nursing home or live with you?

by the grace of almighty god ,i won't send my parents to the nursing home ,because i can't imagine at that situation..because first i love my almighty god then second ilove my parents..see without god and parents you cannot be born easily..if you give a montain full of gold to your parents ,it is not comparable to a little bit before their love..i agree that some parents won't taking responsibilty on their beloved children.but for that we won't have to send them out or any nursing home..if you send your parents to out or any nursing home..definitely tomorrow your children will send you to the nursing home.. we should not send them out because of their old age..if we send them out,in future we are going to be the old person at that time we will realize about that....

When my parents get old (they're already getting there), I will still respect their decision. I would never force them to go into a nursing home or to live with me. It's up to them to decide what they want. If they want to stay in their own house, that's also fine with me. I will just visit them as often as they can and pay for someone to look after them. But if they want to move in where I live, I would gladly accept them.

nursing home is not that popular here in the philippines. we love our olds very dearly that we keep them in our house. my mom is half bodies paralyze and she lives with my sister. she has a nurse that will be attending to her needs but she lives with my sister. we visit them regularly and if one of us are celebrating birthdays, children or grand children we make it a point to celebrate it there in her house.

First off, let me say I'm a parent and getting older. If my son thinks he's going to put my in a home without my permission and with my mind in good thinking order , he's out of his gourd ! Give parents a chance to tell you their own wants and by all means dont make decisions for the persons who changed your diapers.

I don't think I'll have a choice. I would like to have her live with me, but she is in better physical and mental shape than I am. I would not be able to care for her. I can barely take care of myself. I don't know if I could afford it anyway. My house only has one bedroom, and I'd have to move. The best soultion would probably be to ask them which they would like. My aunt is in a nursing home and she loves it there. Some people have horror stories, but that's true of everything. Maybe we'll both be in a nursing home. If anything happens to her that might be best anyway. She could get the care she needs. Even if I were able bodied, I might not be able to care for her.

I would like for them to live with me. When I was growing up, my parents didn't send my grandparents to a nursing home. They took care of them, just like how they were taken care of. When I become older, I hope my children would ask me to stay with them. Just like how I would ask my parents to stay with me.

I think personally that if I needed looking after I would prefer to go into a nursing home and not have my family looking after me. - Derek

Hi,careguarden,I never thought of sending my parents to a nursing home,I can't accept it.I will definitely live with them and take care of them,they dedicated and keeps dedicating soooo much to me.Live with them and take care of them is my responsibility.All the best and happy mylotting.

i think there is only one way to me, i certainly wont send my parents to nursing home, but i will let them live with me/us, and i'll take care of them as possible as i can.

My mother lives in assisted living. I would not been able to have her live with me. She required too much care that I was not able to give. She likes where she lives and enjoys the company of the peers she is with. So I guess my answer is. Yes, I would put them in nursing home, no I would not let them live with me, and yes we asked her about going to a nursing - assisted living place first before we did it.

My friend, sure I won't be allowing them to stay in a nursing home my friend. Neither would I be asking them to stay with me my friend. I would wish my parents to live a prestigious life my friend. My parents must live the rest of their life very happily, roam around the world, love eachother a lot, and so on my friend. I would will to make them free from all tensions and make them to go to all the places wherever they wanted to go. Happy morning my friend.

Thank goodness my mother and I have already had this discussion with me, and she told me that she would go to a home that she would not want to put that burden on me and my family. However, had we not had this conversation, I would be quite torn. My mother has always been my rock and had always gone above and beyond for me. I suppose because of that, I would feel that I in turn should do the same for her and take care of her. So, depending on what her condition was, meaning if it was something that I could handle, I would have her come live with me. Luckily, we have had the conversation so I know what she would want to take place. Now, what is really difficult is that I was adopted and have met all of my parents, so theoretically there would be no feasible way that I could have that many parents living with me, lol.

I say nursing home. Nowadays there are some incredibly nice ones that offer a lot of assistance yet independence. Not all of them are the smelly coffins or the living that you hear about in the news lol!

my dad will go to a nursing home and I´ll keep mama at home

right now, they're already retired and enjoying their time at our house in our hometown. i'm living here in the city with my brother and aunt. we get to see them on weekends when i'm not on duty at the hospital. but when they get really old, i'm taking care of them, so they're living with me. they often tell me that i shouldn't mind them and have a life of my own, but still, taking care of them is the only way i could give gratitude to the love they gave me.

Its our culture to took care of our parents when they get old. Its not an obligation but a culture. There had been very few home for the aged here in our country and those living in them are the ones who had no families or relatives to take care of them. Its actually the opposite for most western countries who exercise sending their parents to nursing homes. I guess its we have different culture and I think I will stick to mine rather than sending my parents to nursing homes.

i would have them with me. They are my parents, and i would be having nightmares knowing that they are in a place where so many strangers are around them. and on the first place, they never send me to such place when they were busy working. It's time that i have to return the best favor they ever did to me.

hi friend never parents will like to go to nursery home they like to always live with their children,i will never send my parents to nursery home i will take care of them like how i take care of my children,in old age even parents are also like children only friend. have a nice day

I am not going to send my old parents to nursing home. I am living in a country having a trait of strong family ties. But it is not my main reason of choosing my parents to live with me rather than sending them to nursing homes. When we were still young, they are the one who took care of us and by the time our parents reached their olden age, it is our opportunity to pay them back. Careguarden, if you are consider being busy with work/carreer and cannot have much time of taking care of parents, it is better for me to ask/hire someone to take a good care of my parents but still live with me.

I would exhaust all efforts to allow them to live with me. They cared for me when I needed it and it's just the right thing to do whether I want to or not. Nursing homes should only be used in situations where NOTHING else can be done to care for a person. A word of advice, volunteer at a nursing home for any amount of time and see how things go down there. I wouldn't wish it on my worst enemy.