And he thinks I am crazy
By StaciLyn1988
@StaciLyn1988 (101)
United States
January 17, 2010 10:44am CST
Ok so i have been with my man for about four years, We have 2 kids together a boy who will be 3 in June and a 16 month old. We met in Il and moved to nc about 6months after being together I was prego we had been trying for about 4 months. I love him and thought he loved me too but a day after we got to North Carolina his mom was there to pick him up for no reason. He came back about a month later but just after christmas he left again for another women. (I had no idea at the time) Then he came back again in May just before I had our son in June but just a month to the day our son was born he walked out on us again. (I swore I was done) But I let him come back again in aug cuz I loved him and I wanted him to be there for his son. but he left again so he could spend his birthday with his "family" or so he said. he came back just before Christmas and said how he wanted another baby and I told him our son was only six months old and I was not ready but I ended up prego again the first night he got there... His mother tried to say its not his baby!(I hate her) He left a week after we found out I was prego. Needless to say I let him come back and he just keept leaving so I feel & felt stupid. He missed our little girls first chrismas I was with someone else and our son was calling him daddy and his "real" dad Kyle and still calls him Kyle... After Christmas we got back together and he stayed for a while but like always left again and came back.. Then we moved back to IL to live with his mother I didnt want to but we had no other choice.. So I was stuck there... He started talking to the wll I did leave and he took me so his ex (who he writes that he loves and wants to be the mother of his child) Well now she is getting married. Well my mom lives in Kentucky so just before xmas 09 we went there and spent a week then went back to IL for xmas and a few days later he was asking me if I wanted to go stay in Kentucky wth my kids and mom so here I am in kentucky...So I wanted to know what him and his ex talk about so I went on his myspace. and I found out he was telling her he wants me shot and he wants to beat me into acoma and I was stupid o bring my kids up there cuz now I could leave... So tell me who is crazy....
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9 responses
@OpinionatedLady (5965)
• United States
18 Jan 10
Look I will try not to be harsh and I am not judging you for I feel that deep down you know all I will say. You have made the same dumb mistakes over and over again. He is an a** but you are the one who made the mistakes. It is time to get over it and move on. Do get a good lawyer, get full custody, make it known he has made threats to your life and that you fear for your own as well as you children's safety. Yes you messed up over and over again, but it is time to put an end to the cycle and fix what you can. Good luck to you and your kids. DO your best to stop the damage to their little souls as you can, which by the way includes calling multiple men Daddy. This should only be done if you in fact marry another man, it is too confusing for the kids to have to many Daddies in their lives. This I have seen in my past work and please trust me the issues that will come up from this at age 13 or so will be total hell if you don't end that behavior now.
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@jerichojanine (12)
• Philippines
18 Jan 10
You really have to move on with your life and start thinking about the
future of your kids. How can someone LOVE you and in another day wants to beat
you up.
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@StaciLyn1988 (101)
• United States
18 Jan 10
He called lastnight to talk to our son and he told me that it was NORMAL to want to kill someone in a relationship! I told him he was crazy and hung up on him... There is nothing normail about someone who thinks like that.
@jennybianca (12912)
• Australia
18 Jan 10
This man siounds like he is bad news. Dont ever go back to him. He is completely unreliable and untrustworhty. Get him to pay child support for any of the children that are his. You can get a court order for that.
Report to the police his threat that he wants you shot.
Im sorry I dont have anything better to say about him.
@cream97 (29087)
• United States
17 Jan 10
Hi, StacyLyn1988. He is a no good man! You need to really leave him alone! All he wants is to lay up with you and make free babies. And then he leaves you to take care of them. He is no man, he is a sorry lunatic that is crazy in the head! Leave him alone and find another man that is going to be good for you to stay with him. All this leaving and coming back he is bound to be cheating on you. He lives a double life! How can he get on Myspace saying that he wants you shot and that he will beat you into a coma. He is just playing you for a major fool! Girl, leave this fool alone and raise your kids. His mom is already involved with her negative input claiming that this child is not his. Just leave this entire family alone, they mean you no good! This guy is just looking for someone that he can lay up with! Don't let him play you for a fool! 
Wisen up and leave this dogg! Also, if he comes near you and your kids with any kind of threats, get a restraining order! Be very careful! If I was you, I would make a copy of the Myspace message and show it to the cops so that they can see the threats that this guy has made towards you and to your life. Take care of yourself!
Wisen up and leave this dogg! Also, if he comes near you and your kids with any kind of threats, get a restraining order! Be very careful! If I was you, I would make a copy of the Myspace message and show it to the cops so that they can see the threats that this guy has made towards you and to your life. Take care of yourself!1 person likes this
@doryvien (2284)
• United States
18 Jan 10
Hi Staci,
That man is crazy, and you are in danger if you don't do something before he does. You need to let go of him, never take him back if he attempts to return to you again, move on and stay away from him as far as you can. He is a threat to your life and to your kids. You are the only one your children has now, be there for them, and stay alive and sane.
@chikahdorah (269)
• Philippines
18 Jan 10
well, no offense meant, but what you did over and over again is the craziest thing i have ever heard. Do you really love him that much to be so dumb and risking your future and the kids? They don't deserve to see those things.
you just have to get your life back. leave him. forget him. you are so better off without him. And you have so much to offer. he is not deserving.
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@teamrose (1492)
• United States
18 Jan 10
You are the one that is crazy. He has treated you like a tramp from the beginning. He has never showed you any respect because you didn't require any respect. Why buy the cow when you can get the milk free?
You spread your legs for him and gave him not one but two children without him showing you one bit of love or respect. What kind of values do you think your kids will have?
You are a very toxic mom and until you get some self-esteem, you will continue to be shat upon!
@ramos7881 (344)
• United States
17 Jan 10
Time to move on - this man is psycho. If I were you (and I was in a very similar situation), I would get an attorney to very specifically outline visitation with the kids. Make sure they know you could be in danger, so that you can set up a place for him to pick up the kids for visitation where there are other people around, such as a local police station. Then he will have no reason to ever be at your house. Then one of three things will happen: (1) he will show up to pick up the kids as scheduled and bring other women and say things that are emotionally abusive (2) he will show up for the first couple of months, then get bored when you don't respond by begging him to come back and stop showing up for visitation except for maybe holidays - just make sure you hold up your end of the bargain by making the kids available when they are supposed to be (very good for you in court later on) or (3) he just won't show up at all, because this is a sign that you are done with him. The thing is that this cannot be the only sign. You need to make it very clear that you are done by not engaging in any conversation when he calls or shows up, just kind of ignore him. Of course, the whole thing depends on you actually being over him, so you have to decide just how much you are willing to put up with.
Just my 2cents. Good luck.
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@saphrina (31551)
• South Africa
17 Jan 10
Do not get me wrong, but if you take him back again, you will be the crazy one. Sorry, is have this tendancy to be very straightforward. Just let him go and do not ask, tel him straight, never ever, to come back again. He doesn,t even deserve to be called a father to your children. Go on with your life. You really do not need that kind in your life. Yes 4 years, is a long time, so be it. Just do not take him back, he will start hurting you. And we do not want that.
