well my husband is gone

Boy, that did not take long. I am sorry that it came to this. The first thing I would do is go to your Job and Family services and see what kind of help you can get. I would apply for everything I can. You should be able to get WIC which would give you some help with groceries before the baby gets here and with formula and cereals once the baby is here. You can do this. Hold your head up high and don't look back.

Hi poppoppop111, sorry to hear that he left. But God hasn't. I will be praying for you. I'll flag the email indicating your response. And I will be praying for your husband. The man needs to learn to take responsibility and also needs to learn to honor life. Hopefully a church nearby can help you.

it sounds to me like you are a strong woman so i think you will do fine. you could try a church or agency to help you during this time. i hope everything turns out for you!

You can raise your child on your own, just be strong and dont hesitate to ask other people's help and ask God for guidance. Your husband is not worth a tear, he just revealed to you his true color. I would also do the same if I were on your shoes, I even would send him away if he wanted to abort our child. I would rather choose to lose him than being guilty for my whole life, I wouldnt be also happy if I chose him because the guilt would haunt me endlessly. I knew women who raises their children without husbands, they also dont have much money but they worked hard in able to survive. If they can do it then you can also make it. Goodluck and God bless.

Hi sweatie. You know, i know that you will make it. Okay, there is bills to pay and a baby to look after in the near future. Let me tell you, i am glad he left. You will do much better on your own. I know, now is not the time, but unfortunately it is. First of all, go to your family for help. I am sure that they will stand by you, no matter what. The most important thing now is to stay calm. Do not jump into anything. Take your time to sort everything out. And THAT one may have left you, but you make damn sure that he pulls his wait, when it comes to paying the bills. Do not let it lie. He behaved in an unforgiving way, so you can do exactly the same. You will not give up, do you hear me. Whatever advice we can give or help that you need, we are here. I know you are a strong and willfull person, so get up and get started. Please, anytime when you need to talk, i am here. ,My hubby said, to tell you, not to give up on all men, they are not all the same. You will find someone later, but not to dwell on it now. He said to tell you, good luck and do not let that one mess with you. Be strong. God Bless.

What a terribly inconsiderate and selfish husband. I am glad you decided not to have an abortion. Things will probably be hard these next few months, but I believe God has a plan for you and everything will be ok in the end. I will be praying for you and your family!

I am truly sorry that this happened. It will be tough. Being a single mother is not an easy thing to do. I know because I have been there. You dont need to get all stressed out about the things that are beyond your control. Focus on today, and what you can do yourself, and let the Lord take care of everything else. Do you work? Do you have family in your area? If not, get in touch with the local social service organizations. Churches and government agencies are there to help you. There should be no shame in asking for help, and it will ease some of your worries to know that you are not so alone after all. Whether he is living there or not, your husband should still do his part to pay bills and take care of you and your baby. If he is unwilling to help you, then you will need to go seek legal help to force him to live up to his responsibility. If I were in your shoes, I would give things a couple of days to "settle" in my own mind. You may come to realize the situation is not as hopeless as it may seem right now. In my own experience, I have always found that I was stronger than I thought I was when faced with difficulty. I believe you will discover that you are too. My heart aches for you and the misery you are going through. I will continue to keep you in my prayers.

That must be so hard for you but keeping the baby is a great decision, you just have to be strong for it and dont think about your stupid husband. The baby will make you more happy and I hope that you overcome all the obstacles on your way.

I'm truly sorry. I understand the worry. I was in a similiar positon-but had 2 children already. He was cheating on me, got her pregnant-moved in with her. I didn't know what hit me. Left me with everything-including paying for the divorce. But I managed somehow. You can do it! There are lots of us single mothers out there. What doesn't kill you only makes you stronger :)

You made a very hard decision. It sounds like you know deep down that you were right. Keep on keepin' on - you can do this! Just don't forget to ask for help when you need it.

hi pop just the other day when I responded to your discussion,and so shocking when I read your discussion now, your husband has left really so fast, he's serious with what he had said, his threat really for real, what a devil husband. well, you made the right decision pop, though things must be hard for you by now, emotionally,physically and financially but I know you can do it,be strong pop Do not give up..your baby will be your inspiration, your baby will give you strength..ask help to your family, your family won't let you down..family will always be there..with arms open. Ask guidance and more wisdom to our God, believe me prayer is powerful., I'll include you always in my prayer.Good luck.

Rascal fellow. Disgusting step taken by him. He is such mean person. It should not be the way to live or maintain the relation ship. You must keep you cool, concentrate on the child inside you. Just think of him/her when ever you feel bit nervous or frustrated. All will set. Any kind of support you need, I am ready to what ever I possible for me. Take Good care of your self as well as of your baby. God Bless you!!!!!

oh this is sad. i am pregnant too, but my husband is always by my side. though he is caring before, he is even more caring right now. he should be inspired because you are carrying his child. i think he is man enough to take his responsibility. abortion? oh God forgive him for thinking of that. girl, everything will be fine and do not worry too much. think of your baby's health. God never and will never ever leave you. He will be there for you so entrust everything to Him. surrender everything and see what he can do for you. you should be happy for the baby. its a gift anyone cannot replace. you can find another man to love ok? try to seek help from you family, your parents, siblings... you need them most at this time and you need someone to take care of you... iknow this is tough but be strong for the baby ok? take care and pray always.

I just read your post reagrding abortion of your baby yesterday. Your husband is not worth to spend the rest of your life. He just showed his true color. Keep your baby in you and I know you can raise them properly. I am not aware of the laws/regulations in Canada regarding your status. Just keep in mind this saying..."If somebody closes his door, someone will open their windows..." Keep moving! I know you can make it, just be strong. Once you raised your children by your own, you can stand up and tell everyone what you did and be proud of it! GOD BLESS!

I have been praying for you in the past couple of days, since reading your first post. I know it will be a long tough road ahead of you, but congratulations on your independence!!! Are there people in your family who can help? How about organizations? Churches, government, etc? There is no shame in asking for help, especially after you you felt was right. Were I in your shoes, I would have done exactly what you did.

Hi Pop, Ive been following your story here. It is tough and it will be tough. Your husband may reconsider once he realizes that you are serious. He may not. In the meantime, you need to file some paperwork and make sure that you are not stuck with all his debt. I am sure there are agencies that can help you. I see you live in Canada so the services available may be different than what they offer here in the states. Here there would be all sorts of help for women in your situation. I hope there are there. Whether your husband likes it or not, this is his child and he will have to help support it. I raised 4 on my own and it can be done. Stay tough. I am sure you won't regret your decision! {{{{HUGS!}}}}}

Sounds like you have more than a tough couple of days ahead of you....... I can relate to what you are saying. Even though I've never been married or had kids I have been homeless 4 times in my life because it was so difficult to find work and pay my bills. It was a very stressful time in my life. Have you tried calling Social Services? Most cities have shelters that serve lunch and dinner. Apply for food stamps too. Maybe you will have to go into a shelter for awhile until you can get back on your feet again. I wish you all the luck. Purrs, Catwoman=^..^= & Mija

You are not in a frame of mind that will allow you to think on right lines. Give yourself sometime. Go somewhere. Have a nice time with friends and then when you are more settled ideas will definitely come to you. You seem to have your head on your shoulder with this decision that you have taken and so I am positive your future will also be sound ground.

Well, from what you just stated, I think he's not worth it. I know that you will be able to work things out on your own. Work and save up for the baby. You can fully work again after giving birth, hire a nanny to look after the baby or have a family member do this for you. It seems so easy to say, but I know that all those are difficult. But everything will be fine, just have lots of faith in Him and in yourself.

First, I must congratulate you for continuing with your pregnancy and not heeding your husband's wish. You see, you are blessed to have that baby, not all women are given the opportunity to bear a child, however they would want to. That baby is a blessing and you are so lucky. Second, I am so sorry this has got to happen, this thing you have to choose between your husband and the baby. For me you got it right, choose the baby over that SOB of a father. He's a worthless man, you don't deserve him, let him go. You can do it, you can raise the baby on your own, you have friends, you have relatives to turn to, ask for God's guidance. Do remember that God doesn't give us a cross we cannot carry. It's just one of the challenges you have to face to become a better person. I'm praying that you'll be over this and do hope that someday, somehow you will still can find someone who will love you no matter what, someone who will love you whoever you are and someone who will stand by you through thick and thin, in good time and bad times. GOD BLESS!