ok if you get married is your in laws or your own parnets still your family ?
By syankee525
@syankee525 (6261)
United States
January 23, 2010 7:47am CST
ok i often think my daughter in law is just a jerk. she claims my wife, my daughter and i arent her family. i know the whole extened family thing. but i told her, no matter how she look at it, we are still part of her family because of my son who's still part of our's. and she is apart of our family as well.
and i know she would want nothing more to keep my son away from us, but i told if she does that and it damage our relationship with our son then it will cause damage with her and him.
to me when i married my wife, i became apart of her family as well as she did with my.
what is your thought on this ? and let throw this out. even if you dont get along or dont like your brother or sister in law would you at least show them respect in thier own house? and i think if she is rude to my daughter in our house i have the right to speak up ?
3 responses
@banban (601)
• China
23 Jan 10
We Chinese people put the family in a very important position. And there is a saying that "Blook is thicker than water" which means that once you are a part of a family, you can never deny that and you treat your family better than others.
Once two people get married, a larger family is built. Members of two families are forming a lager one.
Well, I'm sorry to hear that your daughter in-law is not nice to you, and other family member. I don't know much of people's opinion about family in other countries.
@syankee525 (6261)
• United States
23 Jan 10
yeah i see it the same way, i know growing up being part of irish, german and ittallain (spelled that wrong) if you married then the family grows larger and you should have respect for everyone.
with our daughter in law her family is still her family. like her mom, grandma, aunts and all. with my wife, daughter and i we're not. she's isnt a nice person
ive asked her once before when i was getting check for a brain tumor to get along and the next day she started a big fight, and to me if she had respect for us she would at least try to get along with our daughter for our sake, at least be well manner
thank you have a great day
@nanajanet (4436)
• United States
23 Jan 10
My in-laws are my family! I love my in-laws as if they were my blood relatives, even the ones who do not feel the same way.
Choose your battles and drop the subject with her. You cannot change how others think or act but you can change your reaction to them.
Just always treat her with love, respect and kindness, even if she does not. WWJD? (What would Jesus do?). Depending on your faith it could be what would someone else do, but you get my drift.
