How is your relationship with your siblings?

Sorry about your sister. Kind of makes you want to wrap up a box of bubblewrap for her, doens't it? Actually the bright side is that you don't have to get her a gift. It's not right for her to use your mother to deliver the message to you. Unfairly puts her in the middle..downright cowardly. I have one brother, who is back in Massachusetts. We don't talk very often, but when we do, we get along ok. Different story when we were growing up though. I was the 'mouth' and he was the 'muscle'. Needless to say, we both spent plenty of time in 'time out' waiting for 'dad to get home'. We didn't really get along until he went alway to college. Now it's just the two of us. Sad. When you start losing people close to you, you become more appreciative of times spent now. My folks are both gone, and the friend who helped me move to Oklahoma was murdered in September. You never know when the 'last time' you see some one really is the last time. I hope your sister realizes that when she grows up and changes her attitude.

that is so sad. i mean sisters... family... should be together or at least get along well together. what you did, re-assuring your mom that it was kinda okay for you not to go, was good on her behalf. no mother would like to keep her family apart, but no mother would like to see her children in a fight too. so by not going, you could be saving yourselves from bigger arguments. but it still is sad. hei, what causes your back pain? ever tried herbal tea? try some tea with agaricus blazei murill. works wonders. drink lots of water, even after tea to flush out the toxins. more often, if we have no injuries visible, something was wrong with our blood/arteries. perhaps lacking enough oxygen in the blood. but back to your discussion, i'm pretty close to all of my sisters and brothers. we are 8 siblings. back when we were kids we had squabbles too. but nothing too serious. however i have a mean eldest sister while growing up. i think she was mean to everybody back then. my eldest sister was 14 years older than i am. i'm the 7th by the way. one time i forgot to iron her work uniform because i got too busy for studying for my exams in highschool. early the next morning she was really mad and even threatened me with the hot iron herself. now she's claiming she can't remember that episode. it's okay now. it doesn't matter anymore because we are all adults. we just kinda talk about our childhood and those mean episodes as just topics for reminiscing the past. everyone gets along much better as adults compared to when some were adults and some were still kids. no one plays the eldest sibling anymore because some of us have stronger personalities than our older siblings. had i only been an only child, i'd have wanted a sister. but as it happens i am sandwiched between two brothers, with 4 years age difference each. but that's okay, i have 4 other sisters and an older brother to complete the 8. we're a happy bunch now, tight knit and very supportive of each other.

Never really fought with them but I did find out that when our mom was in the hospital on 2004 this month. That even when I went up there to stay with mom in the hospital that they didnt want me there! They didnt think I coukld stay int he hospital 24/7 I proved them wrong! as I had done it with my hubbies people for years. I should have figured it out that when I laned I had to rent a car for my sisiters hubby wouldnt let her drive to pick me up for it had a big snow before I got there. Oh well I sttayed 17 dayts got mom out of the hospital and walking with out walker before I left and she drove again for a couple of more years!

Hiya Amber. By any chance you wouldn't happen to be the younger one, would you? I'd have to say that my relationship with my sister is non existent (her choice). It was kind of okay when we were little, but once I hit first grade it all went downhill from there. LOL And the older we got the worse it became. By the time we were teenagers we were avoiding each other like the plague. LOL After my sister moved out of our mom's place we didn't see her again for 11 years. (She and our mom had had a falling out and in the end my sister wanted nothing to do with our mom's side of the family.) Surprisingly she had come to my boys' birthday party back in 2001. I was shocked, to say the least. But I was still very happy to see her, as she is my sister, after all. That is, until I said hello to her. She snubbed me just like she used to, like nothing had changed between us. So that was the end of me talking to her at the party. And that was the last time I've seen her. I did contact her last year on mother's day for our mother's sake. It was the longest conversation I've had with her in years. It lasted about 1 minute! It's not an exaggeration either as it stated it on my phone. LOL She was working, but still. The way she had said good bye to me was so final. Like she was warning me never to call her again. Oh well, it is her choice. I'm not about to push myself on somebody that doesn't want anything to do with me...even if it is my own sister. However, if she ever wants to have a sisterly relationship with me, she knows where to find me. How's that for a relationship between siblings?

Sorry your sister did you that way. Being the oldest of seven, we have had our share of run ins with each other. But over all when it comes down to it, we get past the issues and move on. Sometimes it has taken longer than other times to get over them. And with there being seven of us, there are some that I am closer to than others, and the same with my other siblings. But let someone dis one of our siblings and were right there to take up for them. After all we are FAMILY.

hi ambiePam my sister wherever the hell she is,must stay away from me. I gave up years ago when she became a who@e and that was that. She brought nothing but pain and hurt to my family when my husband was alive, so she wanted to have nothing to do with me, nor I with her. I do not like her life style, and want her to stay away from me, this may seem harsh but it would take a month to tell all the trouble she caused. No she is ev idently happy to be what she is, and I am happy she has left us alone. Sometimes you have to do this with a toxic person.

I have one sister. She is 3 years younger than me. We aren't very close. There was a time before I moved out where we couldn't stand each other. We fought all the time. Then after I moved out it got a little better. it was even better then when I had kids because she loved being an aunt. For a few years I saw her often, she loved to stop in and see the kids and we'd hang out on her lunch break. Then she met the guy who is now her husband. He demanded all her attention. If she tried to go anywhere without him he'd throw a baby fit. If she took him like to a family picnic he would pout if she tried to talk to anyone else and left him go. Finally she just quit trying to do anything to avoid his baby fits. So that started the strain on our relationship. Then last year she left him for a few weeks. It seemed like he was cheating and really he is a poor excuse for a man. But because she is depressed and didn't want to raise their son on her on, she went back. I was vocal about my objections and now there is even more distance between us. That is pretty rude what your sister did to you and not fair to make your mother have to tell you you couldn't go.

Well, I just have one brother and we are very close. We are very good friends and we talk about everything. I remembered when I was 10 years old, he was 7 years old, we always fought but we would be ok in a few minutes. I believe that most of sisters and brothers have this experience. But if I had the choice, I would like to be an elder brother because it's a little bit hard to be the first child in a family. I remembered one sentence my brother said which moved me so much was that if you gave birth to a child, I must be there. Well, he said this because one day we talked about one of our cousins was going to give birth to a child, and I asked him whether to come home, and he said like that. I think that love among family members is the most precious thing in the world so with their support, I can live happily.

My brother and I used to be close. However, we got older moved to different areas and have become more distant. Over the holiday's we talked about making a better effort, however I am not keeping up with my end and I really miss him. I need to start calling him more often, however he and I our so busy it's hard to make time. But I need to make the time. Thanks for this topic, it makes me sad that I don't have a better relationship with my brother and I hope to change that now.

I get along with all of my siblings. I have three brothers and three sisters. Two of my sisters are older than me and my three brothers and one sister are younger than me. We have always gotten along, pretty much. I don't think there ever was an argument or a fight that has ever kept any of us apart. I don't see my siblings as much as I used to though. I moved away in 2001 and then moved back home in 2007 and have moved away again in 2008. But I go back home a few times a year. I was just home for christmas and visited for 10 days. In those 10 days I never had even one day or evening to myself. I was busy with each and everyone of my siblings and then there is also my son and daughter-in-law and my baby granddaughter.

I don’t understand why she wouldn’t want her own sister visiting her for her birthday, I don’t get that, I really don’t! My sister and I are quite close although there is 15 years between us; I am the older one and there are no other siblings in the family. The uncanny thing is that, not only do we not acknowledge the age difference between us but we ended up having our first babies at the same time; in fact our girls were born 12 days apart. Our parents are the ones we have trouble with but I’ll save that for another discussion! I am sorry your sister has made the decision she has; she is the one missing out...

I'm an only child so I've never had to deal with sibling issues. Sometimes I wish that I did. It can be hard, but there are many good things that come with having brothers and sisters.

I have two siblings, a brother 9 yrs. older and a sister 13 yrs. older. My sister did not like me very much at all. She would have to baby sit me when Mom went to work and that interfered with her personal life. Most days she would take me to my Aunt Hatties and drop me off, then come back and pick me up before Mom woould get home from work. She wouldn't even wait to make sure that she was home before she took off. I remember a bunch of times setting on Aunt Hatties porch waiting for her to get home. I never told Mom about it because I thought that was what she was supposed to do. Then one day Mom came home early and cold busted my sister. She walked in on her and her boyfriend "snuggling" on the couch. After that things just got worse between the two of us. She really hated me and told me so every chance she got. The first time she got married it was in our house and she told Mom that she wanted me to go some where, any where as long as I wasn't there for the wedding. It hurt me to know that my sister hated me that much, but I was just a kid and that was the way it was between us. It wasn't until I was in my twenties that she tried talking to me. It started on a night that my ex-boyfriend beat me sensless and I for some reason showed up on her door step. We sat there for a long time not saying anything. She helped me to get cleaned up and fixed me a bag of ice to put on my face. After a few minuts she asked me if I wanted a drink to settle my nerves and I said yes. We sat there for a little bit not saying much and then she just started talking to me like I was a real person for the first time I could remember. We sat up the rest of the night talking and we found out just how much we had in common. Both of us had a really "ruff" childhood were our Dad was concerned. She never saw what he had done to me and thought that I didn't get treated the way she had. I had no idea that he had done any of those thing to her either. I just thought it was because I was so much younger than her that made her hate me like she did. That was quite a few years ago and now we have a better relationship. Although we love each other and talk on the phone often we still can't be around each other for more than a few days before we start getting on each others nerves and start snapping back and forth because we are so much alike and so bullheaded and set in our ways. It still feels strange sometimes talking to her or being around her because for the better part of my childhood and young adulthood I didn't have a sister and now I do. And I have to admit that even though it might be 2 am. I like the fact that she will call me when she is upset about something and that I can do the same thing to her, and have done so on numerous occasions.

I'm sorry to hear that :( I have a very good relationship with my sisters. They are both older than me. They often treat me like a little girl. We fight lots of times, but we always forgive each other. Once I really mad with one of my sister because she made me cry in front of my friends. I ignored her for a week, but she's sorry so I forgive her eventually. It was a long time ago and now I'm so happy to have her as my sister. Good thing about having sisters is that I can tell them everything. It's fun and easy because we have same point of view that no one else rarely understood.

My sister does this same thing to me. Like when they all went to go to Wild Waters. I couldn't go because of the heat. I get shaky in the heat so I felt real left out and betrayed when they all went and left me because I couldn't go. My sister does have a way of putting me out even before I knew I was disabled it seemed like her and momma would make their own plans and leave me out.

I have a very strong connection with my elder sister and younger brother. We usually spend some time in the internet chatting... When we were still young we do have some small fight but as of now... we usually get excited everytime we are given a chance to get together and have a chitchat.. catching up with some updates about each other

Hi Ambiepam :) My relationship with my younger brother is plain okayy. :) We're not that open when it comes to personal stuffs because he has different interests than mine (since I'm a girl and I have other stuffs too while he also have other interests) but I'd say that our relationship is okay. :) There are some occasions that we'll fight over the biggest chicken in the dining table or who's gonna use the TV first, but our conflict only ends there :) We fight like kids but end as brothers and sisters again :) Hahahaha.. yes we fight over childish things but that's only it :) I love him for who he is and I know he loves me too. :) On some occasions he's been my buddy and my companion each time we need a back-up on each other.. :) though we often fight with nonsense things, still we remember that we're siblings and we should help each other :)

just like most of us, we sometimes had arguments but it never affected our good relationship to each other. we were very closed ever since. we used to sleep in one room, we share clothes and other personal things (i.e. tootbrush, socks), sometimes we fight over toys, we compete while playing games with other kids and all those crazy things. but those experiences made our relationships grew stronger that not even the hardest problem now can break us apart.

I and my brother is five and half years apart so may be that is a factor that keeps our relationship strong. We o have fights and that too real ugly ones where our mother has to intervene to stop us saying bad things to each other but later we just make it up. His being younger to me he sometimes feels that he will have to live up to parents expectations and prove himself better than me in everything but he excepts that I am his senior competitior and asks me to "help him to do better than me"! What keeps us strong after our fights is the honesty and ability to own up that we had hurt each other. I knwo that I will be there for him always and we are each others family n matter what happens or where we go. All the cousins (joint family-big Indian one)are close too and four share a room so my cousin sister is my closest and best friend. What your sister did is really bad and ugly and I am sorry as I know it must hurt. You are her family and how can she expect her children to love and take care of her if she can't do that with her sibling.

Well I am an only child so I guess I am fairly lucky there just for the fact that I don't have to be in situations similar to yours. This would really upset me if I knew that I had just told my sister that I was coming down and she then told my mom not to bring me. I wouldn't care if it was her birthday or not, you think that she would be thankful that you are wanting to come visit her on her birthday and could put any of her unwanted hurtful feelings aside for that one day.