Why do People ......

good morning gabs, THERE ARE JUST SOME PEOPLE WHO ARE MISERABLE & WANT EVERYBODY ELSE TO BE I THINK. i USE TO WORRY ABOUT WHAT FOLKS SAID ABOUT ME BUT I GOT OVER THAT long time ago. I found out they would talk about u if they wanted to to the point of making things up if need be. People can be very unkind to others & i think it's a very unhappy person that does this.

IMO it is because they are sneaky cowards who are afraid to say their crap to a persons face.

Well I cant either . No person has a right to talk bad of someone if they dont know them. I always got to know the peron make my own judgement!

There is a reason Gaby, maybe not in all cases, but in a lot. A psychologist will tell you that very often, those who talk negatively about others have a low self esteem. By denigrating others, they make themselves feel better. By pointing out faults in another person, they are putting themselves one step up the ladder. Another reason is that the majority of people prefer to hear bad things about people. Want proof? Look at any magazine. What sells copies? Gossip! Bad gossip, of course, because good news stories don't sell. Too many people prefer scandal. I know you and I and many people do NOT like gossip and don't want to hear negative talk, but I'm afraid statistics show that most do.

Hi gabs It has been a while since I have been on here. A whole another story on my part. As for your discussion, I think that people like that are down on themselves and don't know how to correct themselves. As in return they have to gossip to make others feel just as bad as they do. They are not happy unless they can bad mouth another. Hi Gissi...It aunt rose...How have you been doing? I have missed you and want to apologize for not checking in with you for a while. I will try to do better now. Keep smiling.

This happens all the time, as if a certain person knows us very well, talking about us to other people, judging us, pretending that they are knew us very well. But what a heck? At least I know I crossed into their minds regularly. hehe.

Gabs, gossip is as old as humanity. Some people don't have life, so they have to talk about other people business. They don't have pets, passion, they don't read books. They know how to watch TV and talk about others. Gossip is often about people's imagination, not fact. HUGS

I don't really know the answer to this one gabs. I too have encountered this type of persecution of another. I don't know why someone would spread rumors about another person that they don't even know or have not even met. But they do! I think some people just have to spread rumors and gossip. They must make another person or persons miserable some times because they are. As it is said misery loves company. It would be much better and more fair to all concerned if rumors would not be spread about another person. It makes the person you are talking to miss out on getting to know another person if they listen to this. It is always best to not listen to rumors of bad things about another. I don't listen when someone does this. I politely ask them not to tell me bad things about people. That I will not believe things unless I experience it for myself. So I cut it off before it really gets started....with me anyway.

"People will talk" as the saying goes... even if they don't know what they're talking about. Good for you for taking the charitable approach to Person.

Hi gabs, You must have been reading my mind today because I've been thinking the same way. Small towns are especially known for this kind of behavior and it seems that many people have nothing better to do. Destroying a person's character can be as much of a crime as murder and one that people can get away with. I have literally seen people laid desolate by lies. If you can't say something good about another, don't say anything is the best advice that anyone can be given. Once the rumor mill is started, it will work overtime to make sure it finishes the job. There are many murderers among us who have never been charged. Unlike many, I see real hope in the generation growing up today, the problem of course is to keep them from being indoctrinated by their elders. If this seems extreme, it's only because I've been around longer than most. The majority of people are of course, still well meaning people, but can't seem to resist repeating some juicy gossip, although they would never start it. Sorry for the rant. Blessings.

there is no reason at all. because some people are just hateful and spikeful and think they are better then others, these people are not happy unless they are causing drama or making someone else feel bad. too me when someone does this to me, i will confront them and speak up to them got something to say to me come and say to my face and not a chicken butt do it behind my back. with me people who knows me, know i dont talk about no one behind thier backs. if i got something to say i will say to thier face. people these days just sucks

Hi there, is such a good question..this happened to you? i am so sorry really; seems that everybody can be judge , no body is untouchable. I hate too, when peoples like to talk behind my back, even they don t know me well. Are people, who think that they are superior, who they think that can blame,even they don t know about who they talking about.I have same questions about peoples who like to criticize even they don t know what kind of person they talk about; http://www.mylot.com/w/discussions/2228785.aspx Is good if sometimes we ask our self how can we blame somebody, if we don t like when somebody else will judge us? All in this life, each paying for one time when he did so, criticized and insulted, even if it knew that person.

From me point of view,I think people like to fantasy and imagine.It is a bit like curiosity but quite an irritating one. Although they don't know this certain person,but they might have seen this person before when he or she did something that caught their eyes. It is like seeing a senior-aged rich man accompanied by a young sexy girl. Some people will immediately start to think that they are related and the man is a sugar-daddy. This maybe a little exaggerated,but quite true around me. People may have seen a specific scene for several times and their brain would react exactly that way they did before which can be defined as stereotype. In addition,too many soap operas pollute our minds,which sometimes mislead people. They do not have the right to judge someone they don't know,however,they like to do so.And only by socializing with them can erase some misunderstandings and prejudice.

I don't know why people who are saying bad things about someone they don't even know, maybe they are jealous so they like to say bad things? Or maybe they judging you after seeing your apparence, you face, your style of cloth? It's sad to see how people like to hurt someone, humans are cruels! Or maybe they heard rumors about this person?

I can't understand that sort of behaviour either. When I was living at home, my parents always told me that if I didn't have something good to say about somebody, then I shouldn't say anything and I in turn preach the same thing to my children. I prefer to make my own judgements and I don't like to listen to people who speak ill of others.

Some people are just petty and mean

I have a weird tactic with online people like that. When I get warned about somebody, I often go and add them as a friend and get to know them. Usually I end up being OK with the person or even being pretty good friends with them. Of course, there are a few jerks in capes, but those seem to be the exception.

hi gabs , i am really sorry i talked about u to my husband, about ur fall, ur grandmother, ur home experience, about the nurse visits, ur new home and about gissi too .. but nothing bad though .. but as u said, there r lots of people who share their judgements about another person without knowing the,.. and the person who hears this then spreads that as rumour to others .. they are just behaving like human i think and they have lots of time to spare cheers

You know, this is why a lot of the time I prefer animals to humans! My parents are great at criticizing people they don’t even know and it infuriates me! The first thing I ask is what is so great about them that makes them feel they have the right to judge others? One perfect example of my family’s style happened around 17 years ago when I first met my husband. I phoned my mother and told her I would be bringing him to my birthday dinner that weekend and that would give her and dad the chance to meet him. Well to cut a long story short, my mother decided they didn’t like him because he is younger than me; bear in mind that they had never laid eyes on him when they made the decision! It caused a lot of friction and I ended up not going to my birthday dinner. Of course as time went on and we decided to get married they met and accepted him and I overheard my mother telling my husband’s mum what a nice boy her new son in law was! Grrr!!! All they had to do was get to know him!!

Hi..I think, there is no body have a right to judgement others even she/he know about someone well.Sometimes, maybe you feel that someone does not know about you but they think when they know about you even a litle bit, they felt that they know everything about you.It's no fair but the truth will come.