Who do you love the most?
By nautilus33
@nautilus33 (1827)
January 25, 2010 4:38am CST
Hi! Well, who do you love the most- your parents, your brother/sister, your wife/husband or girlfriend/boyfriend or somebody else? I think I love my relatives and my girlfriend on the same way, because when I am far from them, they both- my relatives and my girlfriend miss me equal!~
And what about you? who the you love the most and who do you miss the most, when you are far away?
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20 responses
@allknowing (135331)
• India
25 Jan 10
I love myself the most as only then will I take care of myself in every way so that I am there for others when they need me. How else can one remain happy, healthy and contented if one neglects oneself. My motto in life is 'Love oneself and help save planet earth' as it is only when one loves oneself that this whole world will be a lovely place to live as those who love themselves will ensure that they have a clean soul too.
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@nautilus33 (1827)
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25 Jan 10
wow! I am not so glad to hear that! Don't you have someone to love? don't you have relatives or friends, who do you love more than yourself? because it is really sad to know, that one man, love himself the most, and there is no place for other people in his heart! it is very sad, because such people never know what love means and what actually love means. If you have never felt the love, then you don't know what means to be alive!
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@nautilus33 (1827)
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27 Jan 10
well, that's good what you have made, but I think you should started with this thing. And don't be mad to me, I didn't want to hurt you, but I don't accept people, who love themselves the most. I just can't! don't you have parents or brothers and sisters, or a girl/boyfriend, who you can love more than yourself?
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@allknowing (135331)
• India
26 Jan 10
I said I love myself the most that does not mean I do not love others. I have countless people who I love. Recently I gave an xmas party for 80 orphaned children at my house. I would not do it if I did not love them. I have a huge garden full of plants and trees and a bird bath that invites birds in countless numbers.I also have pets. I sponsored a girl child who I educated and got her married at my expense. I have a huge family who have a place in my heart. I hope you have now understood what I have said in my response.
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@thugstyle21 (419)
• India
25 Jan 10
It is tough to say anything mainly its love that we give to every one and want to get from them wether their our parents, bros and sister or our relatives and our girlfriend of so. I love every one and show equal love to every one and every one loves me a lot they are of much importance to me in my life. Parents always are bigin everyones life especialy in life i love them the most and they are the ones whom i miss dearly so.
@nautilus33 (1827)
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25 Jan 10
HI! you are not the only one, who says that the paernts are the most important persons in his/her life! As I see on the top 1 place there are maybe, if I can call them so, two winners- the parents and the own children. The both things are something from us, they are a part of us or we are a part of them. in both cases in our and their veins flows the same blood and it connects us!
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@nautilus33 (1827)
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27 Jan 10
Yes, it is so! We must love our parents, well some have problems with them, but we must always know, that they have gave us life and everything we needed and we must be thankful to them for all they have done and will do for us!
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@thugstyle21 (419)
• India
27 Jan 10
That is what i meant also, as we come from our parents it is our duty mostly first to think of them and then only someone else of so. By the way thanks for gesturing with me it was a decent experience and hope to remain in the near future. bye, have a nice day .
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@anthony89 (154)
• United States
25 Jan 10
I love all of my family equally. It's just that my mom is the reason I have all the things I have. A roof over my head, a bed, food, clothes, and everything else. Without her life would be very hard to deal with. I love all of the family equally but my mom is the backbone of this family. Without her many things would seem impossible, and I'll always have a strong love and respect for her.
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@nautilus33 (1827)
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25 Jan 10
yes, we must be very thankful to our parents, because they have gave us all we have and all we know as our home and our own territory, well maybe not for all of us, just for these ones, who still live by their parents, and there is nothing wrong with it. We must know, that they have gave up from many things, that we have everything we need!~
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@monkeylong (3139)
• Guangzhou, China
25 Jan 10
As far as I am concerned , I think I love my parents so much .My parents bring me up by themselves by overcoming a lot of difficulties in our daily life. When we have something uncomfortable ,they will worry about me now and then. They care me so much and do not want me stand any unfair.They love me just want to put me into their hands in which I will be not harmed.So I love my parents so much.
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@nautilus33 (1827)
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25 Jan 10
well, parents are really the most important persons in our life, because they gave us the life, and they took care for us until we grow up. They give everything, just to know that we are happy and we don't miss anything! parents are our support in life, they help us in many hard moments and we must love and respect them!
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@nautilus33 (1827)
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27 Jan 10
Yeah, you are right about the children Elly, but maybe I can't understand you so fully, because I don't have any children. Maybe someday when I become a father, I will experience, what are you talking about, and I even can't wait for this moment to come, but I think, I am not readdy to have a child, because I must spare some more money for it and I also want to have my own house, where the child will grow!
@thewayis (646)
• Bulgaria
25 Jan 10
I think that love changes with years. At first we love our parents and brother/sisters most. Then our love transfer to our husband/wives and then there are our childrens which usually become our universe. It is notural for things to works this way. As I don't have my own family yet, I can say that I am in the first category: my parents and my brother are the most important people in my life
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@nautilus33 (1827)
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25 Jan 10
hi! maybe you are right, but don't you think you can love all these people equal. I mean can't you love your parents on the same way like you love your brother, and can't you love your wife/husband so much as you love your relatives, because you love them and don't think you will love them less when you find the person with whom you will spend the rest of your life, I don't think our love to the relatives can disappear so fast, and a even don't think it can disappear at all!
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@thewayis (646)
• Bulgaria
26 Jan 10
I am not talking about disappearing of love! It is hard even to talk about more/less love. The point is that our love changes throughout time and our love is different and uniqie for every single person. You can love your mother/father/brother/sister/child etc equally, but not in the same way. When you fell in love, for example, you still love your relatives, because that love never disappeares, but the focus of your feeling is changed - they are focused more on your boyfriend/husband, which don't mean that you love your family less, becaue of that. We all have big hearts and there is room for love there. Lets not assume that we have love only for one person in our hearts
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@salmanzak (10)
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25 Jan 10
I believe our love changes with the age and surrounding. when were kids we loved our parents and now we have more importance for (I would say) girl friend. After having kids we will love our kids the most.
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@nautilus33 (1827)
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25 Jan 10
Hi! As I have responded to someone else in this discussion, but don't remember who it was, I don't think our love changes with the time- at least for me. Well, when I have met my girlfriend, I can't say, that I began to love my parents less then before. No, I still love them of the same way, but now I feel the same love to my girlfriend. I just split it between all my beloved ones, so that nobody feels less loved!
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@thugstyle21 (419)
• India
19 Feb 10
dude love never changes for anybody its always increasing.according to me thy are du*b a** who love their spouse more than their parents.
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@neelianoscet (9615)
• Philippines
26 Jan 10
I love them all although they have favorites as much as possible i would like to ttreat them equally and in return i like them to treat me fairly without any favorites among my sibling. Though, i am more closer to my father than to my mom and up tp now since he is very quiet, patience and kind. he does not nag me or always have a sense of humor unlike my mom who have short temper and would not stop criticizing until we get to follow her demands so we just follow her so that their would be no arguments since if i reason out i would be ending as the one being blame most of the times. When I am far away i dearly miss my family and all of them but their are times I live with my brother for 2 years and at the start i miss my family and becomes feel isolated. but the longer time i stay on the place I manage to be happy and control myself though i never see them personally i could still communicate with them through voice call and sms messaging which i am very happy that i start to adjust with the places.
@nautilus33 (1827)
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26 Jan 10
HI! you say, you are more closer with your father than with your mom, but as I know girls are more closer to their dads and boys to their moms. I am more closer to my mom, and I think it is so, because I have been punished from my dad very often in my childhood! I also miss my family very much when I am away from them, I also miss my girlfriend, because I love her too! But I haven't been for more than 3 month away from them, I mean really far away!
@bingchen (1119)
• China
27 Jan 10
the most love is my boyfriend.but he left me and lost conncetion.although i have marry a goodness and honest man,but i could not love my husband than before.maybe it is fate.because i should not love this man.this man could not belong to me.i only select the man who love me,not i love.i often miss him in my heart and in my dream and see him come back with me.but it is dream.it is very long distance from my dream.maybe i should learn to accept the truth and treat my husband well and love him with my heart.because he love me very hard and give me what i want,i find that i was loved by my husband is happy thing.
@nautilus33 (1827)
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27 Jan 10
hi! yes, I remember your story, I was rote it couple of months ago and I think then you have discussed on my discussion. then I have asked you, why did you married that guy, when you don't love him? Your story is really very sad, because for me it is the biggest pain to live with someone, you don't love. Well, it is good that he loves you, but when you don't love him, that is something like betrayal! does he know about your feelings?
@pentagan12 (757)
• Philippines
25 Jan 10
Well first and foremost, I do love God above all. He is the reason for all our existence. He is everything to me. But aside from Him, I really do love may parents and my boyfriend equally. I love my parents simply because I came from them. They are God's instruments for me to be born here in the world. They are the reason why I have achieved the things I already have now. I also love my boyfriend because he is the one who makes me happy. Without him, my life would have been boring. He is my inspiration in almost everything I do.
@nautilus33 (1827)
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25 Jan 10
Hi! As I see you are very religious person, and there is nothing bad in it! I really have wondered many times how can some people love god more than their parents or beloved ones? You are so rigth that without our beloved ones our life will be so boring and full of unhappy moments! I think many of us don't realize how precious are the parents and the partners for us!
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@azedicus (43)
• Philippines
25 Jan 10
the one that I love most is God, no one compares to Him and my love for Him. He's my first love, my best love and great love. oh well, that's if I would include God from among your choices.
going back to your choices, i love my parents most, how could i not love them the most if they've loved me in full. my love for my siblings is of a different level, but they are as special as my parents. the rest of my relatives, they're part of my being, but the affection i have for them is far inferior than what i have for my family.
@elly1384 (352)
• Bulgaria
25 Jan 10
if i say my dog do you really trust me?
NO i am jocking
i love my family - my son and my boyfriend ( husband)
and i think when you have a family there is no more important
my friend often says that the man who has`t family he is like a tree without stability, do you think that.
But there are some people who forget their own children and they are become more careful to their pets
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@nautilus33 (1827)
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25 Jan 10
Hi! I think your friend is right about that, what he says, that a man without a family is like a tree without a stability! The family is the most important thing in my life toO! I also think we must not love some one else more than our family, maybe the boy/girlfriend, but not someone else. I love my family very much, because they support me in every moment and help me a lot!
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@nautilus33 (1827)
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27 Jan 10
yes, parents are always number one, at least for the most people. My girlfriend I think i love equal as my family, because we are from more than 4 year together and have experienced so much that we can't live for a log time far from each other. why do you make difference between wife and girlfriend, if you love your girlfriends really very much, then there must be no difference between gf and wife
@nautilus33 (1827)
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27 Jan 10
HI! for me there is no defference, if I really love my girlfriend and know, that some day I will marrie her. I take her as my future wife and I am 100% sure, that after we marrie I will not love her more, just because I love her with all my heart and don't think I can love stronger than that!
@nautilus33 (1827)
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26 Jan 10
HI! Yesm, family is the most important in man's life. We all must love them, because we are part of them and they have gave us life! The famuly supports us, when we have som problems, the family helps us if we need something, and they always think of us and try to protect us. I also miss my family very much when I am away, because I love them very much!
@Jessica39 (5)
• China
26 Jan 10
I love my husband very much.Because he always trusts me and encourages me . He lets me feel that I'm beautiful and clever. So I feel happiness with him.
@nautilus33 (1827)
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26 Jan 10
HI! yes, wife/husband is one of the most loved persons in our life. Have you got children? I ask you , because you haven't mentioned it and I guess you haven't. but if you have had some, than you will love them also so much as you love your husband.
@nautilus33 (1827)
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27 Jan 10
yes, but if you want it to treat you, just like you treat your parents, then you have to educate it very well, because with quarrels and fight you will not make the things better! Well, sometimes, when it makes something bad or wrong, you must quarrel to it, but not with some strong voice, because you will scare it. and try to talk about everything with it, so that you become its best friend!
@Jessica39 (5)
• China
27 Jan 10
You are right, I haven't children. But If I have a child , I think he will be as important as my parents for me. I love my parents very much. And I believe my child will treat my as I put on my parents.
@gunagohan (3414)
• India
26 Jan 10
I love myself, i wanted to be me first, Every human should like his own first and then get devoted to others, i love my parents at all cost at any cost and at all cost..
I don't have a girl friend or i'm not into any relationship because i'm little young, i always love my parents and will love them forever, whatever brings me up in future, a girl or after i get married
@nautilus33 (1827)
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26 Jan 10
Hi! i don't agree with you, that every person loves himself the most. This thing calls egoism and is a very line of many people! I think people, who love themselves the most they are not really humans. i mean A human is some one, who knows what love and hate is, who know what happiness and sadness is, and someone who didn't love someone else I can't say it is a real human!
@singuri (571)
• India
26 Jan 10
I love my parents.I don't have girl friend.I am not in touch with most of my relatives.All I know are my parents and my little sister.My parents got Married with out the consent of their parents and relatives.So all their relatives won't talk to us.If some one comes to our house they just come because of the work they had in our place.No affection from their side.
@nautilus33 (1827)
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26 Jan 10
Hi! How old are you actually? I ask you, because you said, you don't have a girlfriend? is it because you are too small or you just don't have at the moment? It is nothing wrong in it, there are many people, who don't have a boy/girlfriend, and maybe it is good to wait and to to rush the thing, when you search for the perfect person. that about your parents is really sad, but when they love each other, i think they must listen to no one
@Java09 (3075)
• United States
25 Jan 10
The only one in my life only a daily basis is my daughter.I love her the best.I see her everyday and we live together.She's very thoughtful of me.My mother lives upstairs from me so I love my relatives the most.I don't think I can choose.I don't have any friends I socialize with,all I have are relatives.
@nautilus33 (1827)
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25 Jan 10
yes, relatives are the most important persons in our life- our parents, our kids, our brothers and sisters, our grand parents, our nephews. we must know, that this people are our family, and in the most cases they take care of us and always help us, and we must love and help them too. They are our own blood and we are part of them so like they are part of us!
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@ravich (242)
• India
26 Jan 10
hi friend i love my parents ,who are along with me always helping in all ways....i too love others not much more than parents and i am single that is not married " a student" so don't have a wife to have a share in my love ...i have girls as friends but not a girl friend so need not share love for them and i have have a brother i love him too and also my friends and relatives but my parents are the first...i never felt i missed some one ..ones who love me ,or like me are always with me ...and not others
@nautilus33 (1827)
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26 Jan 10
HI! yes, we all love our parents the most and our wifes/husbands too. I also love my parents the most, because as you said it, they have gave me all I have and all I need, well, now I am independent and don't ask them for any help, because I am aerady 23 and thnk I must get more indeendent. My parents have their own life and own worreis, so I must leave them and not asking them for help, because now I am the man, who must help!
@vince06 (98)
• Philippines
26 Jan 10
for me their are only 3 girls in my life my mother, sister and my girlfriend and i love them all..im not that showy to my mom that i love her but i can tell that i love her and hoping that when i grow old these three girls will always be in my side..but i do miss my sister now cause we're far from each other.
@nautilus33 (1827)
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26 Jan 10
Hi! don't you love your father too? I ask all the people who you love not only the girls :) yes, I also love these three women the most in my life, but there are also several people, who I love equal as my mom, sis, and girl. That are my dad, my grandma, my aunt and my cousin, because we, I mean I, my mom , dad and sis, have lived with them 14 years and I love them so much as I love my parents and my sister!
@KarlDeVicky (26)
• Canada
26 Jan 10
I defintiely love my girlfriend the most. No disrespect to my family and relatives but it's just not the same kind of love. Significant others selectively seek each other out and choose to engage a loving relationship.
@nautilus33 (1827)
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26 Jan 10
Hi! I know it is not the same kind of love between you and your girlfriend and you and you and your parents and relatives, but it is actually love. we must not separate the love to the relatives and this to our wife/husband or girl/boyfriend, because the love is LOVE. even different the feling is the same- when you are away you miss the people you love, no matter relatives or beloved ones!
