religion in a relationship

Hello Sparklingpink, With regard to yr topic I am writing my own experience. I am a Hindu by religion and my husband belongs to sikh religion and religion has not been a problem between us. I go along with him to his religious gurudwara and he also accompanies me when I hv to go to a Hindu temple. We do not discuss at home on our respective religions. Special affection for yr own religion is always their, but this has not been allowed to be an issue between us.

hi there sparklingpink. believe me i really know how you feel. i open your profile but u didnt put w/c country you came from. im from the conservative country w/c religion really matters. and im also a member of a religion who prohibits us to have a relationship outside of our church. When i was on my teens i really followed the rules and of course i still living w/ my parents so i must follow all the rules and regulation at home and also of my religion. and now that im working and living far from my family and also exposing my self in a new group of people. and starting to have relationship outside my religion. at 1st me and my ex bf really dont bother about our situation (in terms of religion) we got the problem when the time we introduce each other to each families. he is catholic and he knows that he need to be baptized on my religion before we decide to get married. because he love me that much theres no problem about him if he will going to convert on my religion but his family really refused. my parents just giving me advice but they know that no one can push me to convert t other religion. if someone will marry me my husband to be will be the one who will be convert. He started to attend doctrines and he also came w/ me everytime i go to church proving that he really loves me. but to make the story short he didnt pursue because lots of things went wrong. he is married now and im still single :) its really a matter of decision from both of you:) gudluck

I belive that religion is important in a relationship. I may think this way becuase I have a strong belief in my religion. I never wanted to marry somebody out of my religion for love. I think it doesn't matter for people who are not strong supporters of their religion. Otherwise, it becomes an issue when it is the time of their children to decide on their religion.

I believe that faith should be in people's heart deep inside and doesn't have to be shared or explained why you believe in that.If you really love each other, you should accept each other as a whole. Your second concern, generation gap, always has been one of the important issues. I don't know how your relationship is with your parents but if you guys broke up, physiologically you chose your parents rather than your bf. You should live YOUR life, not your parents. Unfortunately, they wont be there in our whole life. We ,people, should make our choices wisely. I hope it will help :) Cheers,

My dad is a Wiccan Unitarian Univesalist and my mom is Catholic. They have been happily married for over 30 years. I think it can totally work.

i could feel what you are going through since i have been there myself years ago. Her family reiterated the fact that how can we live together if there are conflicts in faith based on one's religion. i have opted to change my religion just for her, but only to realize that it was'nt right to turn my back on my faith just for the sake of being appreciated by her family. i was embracing their religion because of my desire to go on with our relationship, a wrong reason for her family to accept....

It really gepends on how compatible the two religions are. Family ties are very strong, and how you were raised will affect your relationships and how you see the world and how you react to things and what you expect out of life. I was brought up a Lutheran and married a Baptist...both Christian, but very different in worship and traditions. It caused a problem for many years. We stayed out of church for most of my childrens early years...that is not good. I later, out of desperate need for worship, joined a church alone and went for many years without my husband. He later joined my church also, but just realize...religion for many people is deeply ingrained in who they are.

you are not still married to one another and that is A-Ok, No one should be telling you what you should and should not do especially when it comes to religion. It does work, my mom is a protestant and my dad was a catholic, my sibling and I are cathoic and we don't have any problems with that. Now, unless, you do not believe in the same christ then that is where the problem lies. You better talk things out before you tie the not, if ever. but if it's juat a relationship , for now then it's ok.

My love and I are of different religions and it isn't an issue. We respect each other's faith .But we don't have the pressure of the families' views.

If you care about your faith at all, it should make a difference in your relationship. When I married, I thought that my husband's lack of faith would not make a difference, but it has.

Yes it is, or should be a big issue. My advice would be to find someone of similar faith, unless you believe your faith is wrong. In which case you should find God first, then follow his directions in your life.

Hi there friend I think it's not the family but the different belief's that you have is the reason why you have been separated. Well, Don't be upset with that I know that you know that words of GOd. "Everything happens for a pupose" and all things work together for our good" Whatever happens between you and your boyfriend has a pupose. What's the purpose? You'l know it earlier.

Yes, religion is a big issue in relationship in our society. I hope true love and friendship to cross the boundaries in the days to come.

hi.. personally, i believe religion is one of the most important aspect in a person's life. it's one thing that makes a person whole. and for that matter, it is a big concern for me when it comes to a relationship. are you really devoted to your religion? if so, then i think you need to picture out the future with your boyfriend. are you willing to sacrifice your beliefs when the time comes that ur bf goes against it? would you accept his beliefs too, which are against your religion? and eventually, if you both get married and have kids, what religion are they going to follow without being confused? well, we all say that love can surpass anything. but you need to think how much you and ur bf can sacrifice without hurting anyone including yourselves in the long run. ;-)

When two people from different religions love each other and want to marry, there will always be some issues.In spite of that many people marry. Some have a successful marriage, and for some it had ended in disaster. The main problem is culture. Forget about inter religion, in places like India, even inter caste marriage ends in disaster. I am not talking anything bad about love marriages, but people should realize, that once they marry, they have to understand the others cultures. This is very easy when we are preaching, but in practice it is quite difficult. The ways of worship or the ways of food habits are just a small example.One must think not once twice or three times, but hundred times before committing to a inter religious marriage.

Yes, your religious faith can be a issue. The way you believe is a big part of who you are. I know my son and his wife is having problems with this. If there is a big deference in the way you believe, if you can not accept the way the other one believes, can cause problems. Happy posting.

I do think that religion in a relationship is very important. If there are two different religions, It hink that people are asking for fights and deep discussiosn that could be avoided if you dated within the same religion.

ya, for me, religion is the key aspect for make a seriously relationship in other. off course, with a same religion, we can get many same when see something or view the problems. live with a different religion make us is difficult.

I think religion is a very important issue in a relationship because I was raised in a very religious family. For me, religion is the center of my life and it would be too hard, and maybe a little hypocritical to try and raise my own children with the standards and religious beliefs that I have when my partner may not agree. I think religion can really unite a family.

Religion is not an issue for me. It doesn't matter on what religion you are into for as long as you both love each other and you fight for that relationship to last to what we call forever. Our parents can do nothing with it, they'll just oppose it at first but later accept it in the end. They'll be the ones to give up, not you. After all it is not them that you will live and be with for the rest of your life, but your soon husband/wife.