my husband always telling ..this is my home..this is my car...like that

I would just suggest keeping reminding him: your car, your house, after it will be your fridge, your bed...then why am I in your life? I don't mean anything to you? etc... sometimes, i have a feeling that my boyfriend is meaning my appartment, my...etc....I am really strick about this and he tries not to talk like that! I think a peson who is talking like that is EGOIST!!! Try to get more your things then, buy something new, buy a new TV or laptop and then you will be able to tell him - my..my...hovewer, I don't think that it is a good idea...it is very bad to say my, my.... Wish you good luck!!!

How long have you been together? How long has he been telling you these things? If he has always had this attitude, then I do not believe his "character" can be changed. Are you a religious person? Is he? Spend some time in prayer, and let God take care of it. You can not change him, but you can change how you react to it. I would not let him know that it bothers me.I would just continue to do my duties as the wife and try to be patient. Make yourself believe that you own these things as much as he does. Remind yourself of it. Ignore him when he spouts off. Soon, he will notice that he isnt hurting you with this stuff, and he will stop saying them. Even when he is in a bad mood, he should not say such things to you. This has reminded me once again that I am so blessed to have my husband.

I'm sorry to hear that. It is very irritating. I felt that my husband is very particular about his things, when I moved to his house after marriage. I personally told him about the way I felt and he took effort to change his attitude. He told me sorry about it and it was because he had been living alone for 28 years of his life and it takes him some time to adjust to the situation of sharing his life with another person. May be your husband is also in the same situation. Sometimes, it will take some for people to be open minded after being alone for many days. You can talk to him personally and share your feeling about this. I hope he will understand you and put effort to change himself. A husband and wife together for a single person and there should not be sayings like 'this is mine' instead 'this is ours'. Soon after marriage, my husband was particular about his things. He had a set of ear buds, soap, choclates, etc. which he wants to use and he didn't prefer me to use that even though he didn't tell that open. When I bought some fruits, he was supposing me to have all of them and he didn't want to have any of them because I bought them. It was painful for me because I considered things in common and there was no 'you' or 'I' in my mind and there was only 'we'. Luckily, he changed.

Since you have tried to correct him and see to development, why not try the reverse psychology approach. Start owning also the things you both share. Instead of "We", try using the word "Mine/My" that way he will be given his own medicine. I really hope this will work.

Spend time with God, through prayers! As a wife we have to humble ourselves! as yourself also have you done something why he think that way to you?

it is very funny , when i firstly heard your words , i think your husband is sometime childish ,if you go to kindgarden ,you may find it is a phenomenon that kids are always announce some toys or other playing belong to theirselves, so from the deep emotion ,your husband still have the childhood affection , another side ,perhaps he regard himself as the star of family lify,so everything should be undercontroled , perhaps it can make him safe, maybe you can suggest him to the shrink , or just ignore it .

OH WOW!! If my husband EVER pulled that on me I would slap him in his mouth..Especially over the "this is MY home"..if he were to ever say that to me I would pack up my kids and walk out the door. as for you though, I would say that you need to let him know that his words are hurting you and when you married him it was to be a JOINT thing..NOT a "mine vs yours" thing...If you have tried to tell him and he's just not listening or its falling on deaf ears I would seriously take a cold hard look at your marriage and see if staying is really such a good thing..

If you have tried to talk to him and yet he does not realise that things are to be shared then there really are two options for you. I would suggest that you either tell him what's yours and give him a taste of his own medicine. Or you leave someone who seems to be very selfish. When you marry someone surely you should be prepared to share your whole life with them and I would recommend that you tell him this as well.

Oh, mmm, friend, there is nothing in it, yeah, i think, that is a part of his character as you said. And doesn't mean he is not loving you and you may want him to say 'our home', 'our car',right? no matter friend. I think, you are one of the inactive users here in my friend list. Hope you will be active further,and can meet in more topics. Have a great time here... Good day friend.

Well maybe your husband is only at the point of anger, tiredness or self- pitty when he usually say so. The next time he will tell you that, just smile,stay kind, dont show any sign that you are affected. Don't reason out, don't shout, don't complain. In other words, use the reverse psychology's art. I tell you, he will realize his own mistake and weakness. Remember, as husband and wife, after getting married, you become one. What is owned by anyone of you, is automatically owed by the other, unless there is a pre-nuptial agreement regarding your property settlement. Goodlack

If Its Really Own By Him, So Its Not Problem That He's Talking These Things. But If You are Owning Home,Car and All These Things Both and He's Talikng That This is My, and Only My - This is Not Good From His Side... I Think Need To Wait a Moment When He Feels Quite Good and Try To Speak About That Situation... Just Show Him That You Don't Care What He's Speaking, But You Just "Interested" Why He Is Speaking Like That... The Main- Character, That Nobody Could Change, Only The Persons Themselves, and Only When They Want. If He Loves You and Wants To Live all Left Life With You, He Must Change His Character ASAP.

Its a kind of attitude he used to, he doesn't want to hurt you but he did because of his way of talking why not try to sit with him and discuss this matters with him, You may want to try to tell him the same thing and see will it works, will he gonna be hurt the way you do,otherwise ignore him when his telling you this.