Don't you know its unhealthy to be so fat? Say what!

Hi Hatley, I am also overweight. :) But I am ok with most others calling me fat, except a few of my friends or relatives who are a bit sarcastic. So when they say it, I tend to react (not that I have on this issue, but on other issues). I am concerned about my weight, and I am trying to bring it down. Hopefully by year end, I would be down at least one kg. :) I am 61 kgs. now. :)

Hi Hatley I've been skinny, fat, and everywhere in between, and yup, my mirror and my doctor were all I needed to let me know how I looked and what was healthy and what wasn't. People are rude and thoughtless. Trouble is, these things often come back to bite them in the behind! Karen

It happens to skinny people too. But no matter which it is, commenting upon a person's appearance that way is just RUDE. Sometimes I think nobody has any manners any more. Or maybe they just think you're stupid? Well really, I doubt most of those people are deliberately being insulting, they probably just think they're being helpful when they're really being clueless. I remember Dear Abby or Ann Landers had a comeback, something like this, "why ever would you want to ask such a question", accompanied by an offended look. If that doesn't get the message across, the person is just hopelessly dense!

A stranger has absolutely no right to come up to anyone and make any sort of comment on a person's pysical appearance. It's amazing to me that people feel so free to comment on a person's weight. Would they walk up to an unattractive person and tell them that they are ugly? In terms of skinny people, just yesterday, I heard of a term that I've never heard before, normal weight obesity. It seems that you can be a normal weight for your height and still have a body fat percentage that puts you at risk for diseases that are typically associated with obesity.

Unfortunately, I think that some people feel the need to put down and make fun of others to feel better about themselves. I never understood this way of thinking, but I have encountered it so many times in my life that I know that there are truly people out there that believe this way of thinking makes sense. It seems obvious to me that if you want to feel better about yourself, then you should try to change the things that you are not happy with in yourself. Apparently this is not as obvious to everyone, though. After my last pregnancy, I did not lose the weight that I had gained during my pregnancy. Don't get me wrong, I tried to lose it, but there were complications from my C-section and other factors that were working against me. The doctors were not concerned with my weight and said that I would lose it in time, but I needed to be patient. There were one or two people that were a little rude to me about the weight, especially one particular time I was not moving fast enough for this couple when I was walking out of the store. As soon as they realized that I had a newborn baby with me, though, then they seemed embarrassed and even held the door for me as I left.

Hi Hatley! It's really rude to do that. It's not nice to make fun of someone no matter what the reason is. I have a very close friend and also a cousin who is overweight. Sometimes they would ask me if I think they should loose weight. I would ask back, "Do you want to loose weight?" They would usually say Yes. I would ask them why they want to loose weight. Most of the time their answer will be because they want to be sexy and be beautiful. I would tell them that if they want to loose wieght then do it for their own good not because other people are telling them that they have to. I mean they are both beautiful and I'm always telling that to them. I even think my cousin is kind of overreacting because I don't think she is overweight. I always tell her she is just voluptous and I think it's sexy. She's comparing her self to me. I used to be skinny. My waistline was only 23 then and she wants to have the same waistine as mine. I kept telling her it is impossible because we have a different bone structure. She is a big girl and I am petite and I told her she wouldn't look good with a waistline of 23. She's really beautiful and I don't know why it seems she does not want to believe me. I told her she does not need to be skinny like the supermodels to be beautiful. I even told her she's not a ramp model so why would she want to be skinny. It's not like she's going to loose her job unless being skinny is part of the qualifications right? My friend though gave up on sulking because of her weight and I'm happy for her. Sometimes whenever we are together children would make fun of her. I don't know why even children at their very young age could be like that. That's the reason I told my self I would make sure my children will not be like that. I could not blame their parents because nowadays children are more exposed in media (t.v. programs, internet, etc.). If you are going to watch T.V. programs and even commercials sometimes their topic for fun would be the gender, race, weight of the person, etc.

i never approach a person to say that he/she is overweight... it is just plain rude and it is just not appropriate to do that especially to a stranger... i don't know why people can be so rude and do that... i think people should start to mind their own business and stop butting into other people's business... take care and have a nice day...

It's their problem Hatley. They are ignorant but always hide behind "I'm just concerned for your health"! Pah - have another slice of apple pie and don't stint with the ice cream!

Lol!!! So right you are. A few years back overweight people were called healthy instead of heavy. At least around my hometown.

Hi Hatley, I'm sorry to say but that is part of the human nature, people always love to say things about other people before they themselves look in the mirror, I was few pounds over weight and family and friends always say something about it my weight, well now that I have lost weight they don't even complement me . Tamara

LOL GREAT POST. I've never had anyone say this to me before but I can imagine it happening and I've heard of it happening to other people. You're definitely right in everything you say. We don't need judgement from strangers, period, and that's all it is. A condescending way to judge us. It's not as if these people actually really care about our health (the majority of them don't anyway), and are usually saying this just to get on our nerves.

certainly this people have not right to value us.but what he said is right.too fat would be damaged with my health.especially we could easy have hypertension.so i think that too fat is not well for our health,we should keep weight,at the same time i dont like so skinny.it seems not well for them.we should do some exercise and eat some nutritional food to keep good health.i think that it is important for us.whatever someone say anything.do what you want is most important.

That's where the problems in this society come into play. The people that have eating disorders aren't told on a regular basis that they have a problem with their weight because our society smiles upon the people that are thin to the point of being unhealthy. Never have I heard a doctor say to anyone that they are too thin, but they don'thave a problem at all with telling someone that they are overweight. You don't really see people staring at an individual that is really thin, but people certainly will stare at a person that is overweight.

It's not polite to make fun of the fat people,I think,one who is too fat or too skinny are all unhealthy,but others have no right to question them or make fun of them,it is just their private.so they don't have to wear a board around their neck also.

the roomie was in Walmart and some guy came up, put his hand on her shoulder and said "Two words, gastric bypass." She said "I had it last month" and pulled up her shirt to show him her scars... I hope that shuts one of them up!

People are always telling me, "You're sooo white." No, really? I didn't know that. I was born a red head, my hair fell out and came back in blond. My skin stayed like I was a red head. People say stupid things to many groups of people. Yes, I had friends that were skinny and people were always making comments about how skinny they were. I had friends with disabilities and people said stupid things. I have black relatives and people say stupid things.

I think people should mind their own business, too, and they should try to look at things from the overweight person's point of view. It could be maybe this person has tried all kinds of diets but just hasn't had any luck with them. This person may have been to all kinds of doctors to help them. You just never know what their situation might be. We're all human, too. We all like to eat. The person making this remark should think that might be him/her someday if not already. I think the reason why people make these remarks is if they are overweight themselves they might be trying to make themselves feel better by putting the other person down. The same is true for skinny people, too. We used to have a store in our local mall that sold t-shirts and I remember one time I saw a t-shirt in there that said "I may be fat but you're ugly. I can lose weight". I thought that was funny, lol! Kathy.

that is just plain rude. why would someone accost a complete stranger and give them unasked for advice?

Hi friend! Too much of something is very bad, fat or skinny. Those who are so fat often faces many difficulties on various situations. And those who are so skinny also suffer from some physical imbalances. The best solution is to keep in a well-fitted physical form, neither fat nor skinny. We should regularly take exercises, eat healthy and balanced foods and take enough rest. Then we can live a long and healthy life.

That's so rude but people won't understand that