Hopeless Romantic
By lampar
@lampar (7584)
United States
January 30, 2010 3:41pm CST
This discussion is mainly about your personality, what will be your reaction if you find out someone that you love so much and who profess his/her love to you daily is making up with another person behind your back. What will you usually do after knowing about the truth about this man/woman of your life?
Will you acted out like it is not only the end of the world but also end of your own happiness, and feeling great loss on yourself and expecting pity from others like family members and friends, suffer from emotional stress with sudden outburst or cry like a baby. Or you will continue to live with your usual pride and take stride in yourself for remaining faithful in this lousy/ cheating love relationship, treat it as a lesson to learn in your life and end your love relationship with him/her forcefully and never look back again on this person. Or you may take some others action that i didn't mention here. Don't be shy to share your view with all of us here. 
9 responses
@bystander (2292)
• Philippines
31 Jan 10
if it's just hearsay you got about another fellow, check it out. if you've witnessed it personally, then the only thing that you should do is junk that fellow. what's good in having someone to love who is a two-timer. you will only get heartaches and some trouble... that is aside from the stress that goes with such a kind of relationship... besides, trust, apparently, no longer exists between you... why would the fellow have another?
@lampar (7584)
• United States
31 Jan 10
You are obviously an analytical fellow with a clear mind of you own. bystander! Of course you have to make sure it is real and not a hearsay, before you prepare to take any action, if not, you will make a fool out of yourself and make a big mistake in your life. lol..
Thank for sharing in here... 
Thank for sharing in here... @bystander (2292)
• Philippines
1 Feb 10
and remember, lampar, hopeless romantics are sometimes fatalist. they romanticize a lot of things and drool over failed expectations. and after much drooling, they get depressed... that's a sure candidate for the fatalistic lot...
@deedee328 (1122)
• United States
31 Jan 10
If I were to find out that my husband was cheating on me, I would pack my things and move on with my life. I would be sad at the loss. I would surely feel like a bit of a fool. I would have no problem leaving him though, because if he could cheat on me or lie to me, then he would not be the person that I thought he was or the one I fell in love with.
It would not be the end of the world for me. I am pretty independant and I do not need a man to make me feel whole. I would miss the companionship of my spouse, but I could find someone else to talk to. I do have sisters and a couple close friends.
Over all, if he could cheat on me, I would cut my losses and get on with my life.
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@lampar (7584)
• United States
31 Jan 10
I like that attitude, cut your losses and get on with life. It is just a "him" after all, nothing worth crying for, right!! There are sure many more "him" out there that is better and worth living for and can make you smile again for anyone who has a cheating relationship. lol... 
Thank for sharing with us .
Thank for sharing with us . @deedee328 (1122)
• United States
1 Feb 10
I did say that I would be sad about the loss. I would miss the man that I had thought he was. I would not necessarily go looking for another man to replace him.
I didn't mean to sound cold. He has been cheated on and knows what that feels like, so if he could do that to me, then he would not be who I thought he was. If he is not the person that I thought he was, then what would I be loosing?
I would not even be vengeful like most women I know. He could keep everything (except my car!)
@lampar (7584)
• United States
1 Feb 10
I can't agree you sound cold, on the contrary, i think it is quite an appropriate way to handle it except that you want to give away everything you got but not your car, is that for real? You treated someone who cheated you this way, well i will like to think may be he is the most lucky guy and understand now why he want to cheat on you. lol!
@shamsta19 (3224)
• United States
31 Jan 10
As someone who's been through this before, I can tell you exactly how I'd react. I would never touch her again. If I knew she had cheated on me, it's over, I'd expect no less from any woman either. Sometimes good people try to hold on to the things they thought were good in the relationship. It's normal but can lead to depressing situations as well. One should just pick themselves up and move on.
I suppose one might want to ask themselves why this person cheated on them. Maybe it would be a good time for personal reflection. Or just realization that the one you were with wasn't even worth your time..
@shamsta19 (3224)
• United States
1 Feb 10
Also realize though, it isn't always our faults. Some people are just impossible to coexist with. Like my ex-girlfriend. lol
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@lampar (7584)
• United States
31 Jan 10
May be by looking at this lousy relationship as a failure to realize your own mistake instead of as a loss in your life will make you feel better and make it a lot easier to handle the situation. if i am in this situation, i will like to think this way. lol.
Thank for sharing your view. Cheer!!
Thank for sharing your view. Cheer!! 1 person likes this
Happy mylotting , Pal!!
@se7enthbird (8307)
• Philippines
3 Feb 10
i will walk out of our relationship when i find that out. this happened already to me, and i am a very honest person so i expect that my partner will be honest with me as well. so when i found out that she was cheating on me i told her its over. i wont allow her to do it to me again and i dont like to hear her sorry sorry for i know it is not true. i am a hopeless romantic but not that hopeless har har har.
@lampar (7584)
• United States
4 Feb 10
Actually you can't consider as 'Hopeless' but 'Romantic', you just told her it is over instead of crying all over the discovery and believe giving her another chance will put everything back to normal again. Me too will have the same reaction like you, never put up with her lying tale if that happen; i will fulfill her wish to stay with the other guy and told her to bye bye... ha ha ha..
Thank for sharing your view, Happy Mylotting , Pal!
Thank for sharing your view, Happy Mylotting , Pal! @laura_lmaxi (678)
• United States
31 Jan 10
Well this is my opinion, if I would be in that situation I would think my couple is a hypocrite and doesn't even deserve my love. Love is respect and if that person said that she/he loves you and go and make up with another behind your back, he/she really doesn't love you, maybe he/she is a master manipulator, they think if they sweet talk you, they can get all they want, and even worst, you will forgive and forget all the bad things that they do, they think that because they are affectionate, that gave them right to be unfaithful, because making up behind your back is a form of infidelity.
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Thank for sharing with us. @prarthanapushp (4)
• India
31 Jan 10
My dear Everything is fair in love and war. Everything is taught by situation itself in which we are. But for me i have gone through this situation and i have not did any of those you have suggested. In the beginning i felt like totally gone..but i choose to remain in that situation for some time and time taught me. All anyone have to do who is facing whatever you have told is to remain in that situation and nothing to decided for himself of that person(boy/girl)and one need to try to understand that situation. Then one will find totally different different action is taken place in once mind....what the situation..one will find his way..........this can not be explained by theory but by his own experience....
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@mlno054321 (212)
• Philippines
31 Jan 10
my reaction to her is so feeling well , every time will i see her im gonna talk to him in a nice way so therefore we become friends in the future. and maybe we become a good special someone.
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@lampar (7584)
• United States
31 Jan 10
So may be you should be happy for her because she found another man who is better than you as lover, so you can get to know him and become good friend later on, that is a really positive attitude from you in dealing with this 'calamity' for some people. lol...
Thank for sharing your view.
Thank for sharing your view. @sofear (42)
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30 Jan 10
Mhhhm!What can I say?It happened to me once.I cried like a baby and at the time it felt like the end of the world but time healed my wounds and these days when I remember how I wailed on and on for days because of him,I laugh about it.What cannot kill you, always makes you stronger.I learned from it and am glad I had that experience because I know that it's leading to a better man for me in the future.
@cloud31 (5809)
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31 Jan 10
Well for me, its simply annoying knowing that hes making up with another person, i maybe mad at first but its normal because you get cheated,but i think its easy to move on,its not yet the end of the world, its a new beginning lucky indeed because i've known it earlier than takes long until i can no longer afford to lose him
@lampar (7584)
• United States
31 Jan 10
A very big mistake indeed, lol... lucky if he is just a lover, so it is still in the beginning stage, there is less problem to deal with at this time. I was watching some of the reality show, for some people, the discovery is like 'end of the world' scenario where crying, shouting, and hysterical outbursts is quite common among some if not all, i am just mystified by it.
Thank for sharing your view.
Thank for sharing your view. 