How many of you feel comfortable talking with strangers?
By gracce
@gracce (335)
India
January 31, 2010 12:41pm CST
Hi friends, I'm quite introvert person, whenever i move out alone or travel alone, generally i don't take itiative to talk with strangers.So What about you? How many of you feel comfortable talking with strangers?
8 responses
@maximax8 (31046)
• United Kingdom
2 Feb 10
I am a friendly person. I am not a shy person. My sister is a shy person and so is her younger son. He is an elective mute. I love traveling to different countries and chatting to other travelers. I can find out where they are from and which places they are going to on their trip. I have made friends with some other travelers from different countries. I went to stay with my friend that lives in Australia. I had my German friend and my Polish friend visit me in my home country. I find it fascinating when I get to chat to the local people in the destinations that I go to. In Kenya I met the Masai Mara tribe. I met some very clever people in Jordan that lived near Petra. I like to talk to strangers but I stay safe.
@chriszh22 (432)
• China
1 Feb 10
Hi gracce, actually people live in cities are less and less interested in talking with strangers, they tend to care about themselves only, so if they have to a talk with strangers, none of them will feel very comfortable. Mostly I would ask for direction or some other little help from strangers, and as a requester, I'll gather all my breath and courage to open my mouth, especially in big cities. It's more comfortable to talk with olders and children, they'll give less presure when you talk to them. I think we shall open our hearts to each other before communicate with strangers, a warm smile is always necessary.
@johndur (3052)
• Pasig, Philippines
31 Jan 10
i feel comfortable talking to strangers.maybe its because of the nature of my work were i meet people who i dont know and talk to them.i dont see anything wrong in talking to strangers.as long as you know how to handle them i dont see anything that would make me uncomfortable talking to them.for instance if you are lost,you have to ask for directions but i dont just ask one person but i ask several person to make sure they show me the right way because sometime some people answers you even if in reality they also dont know what you are asking them.
@Biomechanoid (2923)
• Estonia
31 Jan 10
I have no problem with interacting with strange people. I usually don't start conversation just for fun, but if I could really use some help, I ask strange people to help me. I am usually ready to help other people too.
@batcountry72 (219)
• United States
31 Jan 10
I was an introvert when I was younger. Just kind of shy because I didn't have a lot of experience with people. I had friends, but we were all from the same town. We went to school together from elementary through high school. It was a pretty small town. It was easy to live within the safety of that little bubble. I was dying for a change, so I moved to Germany. I started to learn about people. After 2 years I moved back to the states, and went to college. That was the end of being an introvert. College taught me as much about interpersonal relationships as it did anything else. I still enjoy quite a bit of time to myself. I also like to travel alone, and even go out alone. It's a great way to make new friends. That being said, I am a guy. While I'm all for female empowerment, please do be careful when you strike up a conversation with a stranger. I noticed someone else posted that too. It's good advice. I've met quite a few oddballs in my travels.
@benz87333angel (104)
• United States
1 Feb 10
I almost never talk with stranger for the hell of it. Only when I have to like in a store or someone getting in touch with me for a writing job. But, if I was walking down the street with someone sitting on a bench that I was going to sit on too, I would not start a convo. with them. Who knows what kind of person they are or if they can hurt you. I guess I have had too many bad experiences with strangers that I am now afraid to go out and just start talking with anyone.
@cutepenguin (6431)
• Canada
31 Jan 10
I'm usually fine with it. Sometimes I can feel shy, but usually I'm okay with just chatting with anyone.
@mylesnarvaez (5451)
• Philippines
31 Jan 10
i have developed a genuine interest with people. i'm the type who can chat pretty easily even with strangers. it can make traveling alone more interesting.
but it used to be different when i was younger. i used to shy away from strangers before... being an introvert myself too. i used to just stay in my room when there's a party in the house. i didn't like interacting with strangers. until i learned it could be fun. until it made me curious to learn about other people and other cultures and other places... stuff i used to just read in books and magazines.
now, i find that many strangers approach me to ask for directions (like i have a map on my face) hehe even when i was a tourist like them in the first place. some would just ask for the time and before we knew it, we've been chatting for a few minutes already. i meet people casually on the road, in terminals, in train stations. i meet lots of people in my line of work. there's something that feels good when you look into a crowd and see a familiar face even if you don't know the person at all, or a friendly face at least who's kind enough to spare a smile in your direction. i find it a comforting thought that not everyone is a stranger at least.
sooner or later you'll realize there's no harm interacting with other people. and it can easily be done even starting off with a smile. i have met my bestfriend as we exchanged smiles while meeting in the stairs of our apartment building. well... it was a start of a beautiful friendship of two different people, poles apart in personalities yet was able to stick for more than 16 years now.
people are strangers until you meet them and get to know them. some people, you will let into your life as your friends, colleagues, acquaintances etc... some will stay for a few minutes or a season and some will be bound to stay for a lifetime. don't be too shy about it, coz you might be missing out on great people that you should have met in your lifetime... that would make your life more fun and interesting with every passing day.