Death Of A Child-- Need Best Advice
By hotpress
@hotpress (205)
United States
November 15, 2006 12:18pm CST
They say the hardest death to deal with is the death of a child. Please give your best advice for parents dealing with the death of a child. My advice is that since they are with God, no harm or pain will ever come to them again. What's your advice?
3 responses
@gifana (4833)
• Portugal
14 Dec 06
I have no children but I did suffer a loss of a child. When I was in Saigon just before it fell I was asked to take a Vietnamese orphan into my home until arrangements could be made for his immigration to another country. He was in good health and the orphanage where he was living was receiving a lot of refugees fleeing the Viet Cong. Dutch was about 18 months old....they didn't know because he didn't have any documents when he was brought to the orphanage. He stayed with me for 10 days when arrangements had been made for him and 30 others to be taken to Australia. It was difficult to take him back to the orphanage for final preparations but I did it. Three days later I was going home for lunch when I saw a bus parked in front of my apt house. One of the nurses at the orphanaged stepped out of the bus and I asked her if Dutch had gotten off all right. She said he was on his way but was sitting in the bus. I then did one of the most stupid things I had ever done in my life up to that time. I got into the bus and there he was sitting in the second row. When he saw me he held up his arms as if he wanted me to take him. I couldn't find the strength. I simply kissed him on the cheek and said my goodbyes. I went into my apartment and sat their and cried. My maid couldn't understand what had happened and when I told her she ran downstairs but by tha time the bus had left. I had to ask for sick leave for the rest of the day because I just couldn't bear to face my co-workers.
If this is anything like losing one's own child I can certainly understand the pain of parting. It took a few days before I could get back to normal.
@gifana (4833)
• Portugal
31 Dec 06
I forgot to add that I think of Dutch often and wonder if he is okay in Australia. I would like very to try to track him down but have no idea of how to go about it. I mean to say that you never really get over the pain or the loss and you will always remember, but with the passage of time you will think of the good things that happened while he was with you and glad that you had him even for a short time.
@mobyfriend (1017)
• Netherlands
18 Mar 07
Never give the advice you mentioned in your post to a parent. Although they can accept it from their faith it is not a comfort. Instead of saying something you should listen to their grief and be there for them.
