Offering real advice

I think it is often a case of not wanting to upset someone or hurt their feelings but if it is really for the good of someone then yes you need to say something. For example if you found a friend was going back with an ex who had hit her in the past.

Hello, I don't think being nice has anything to do with giving advice. Being nice is one's own characteristic and is of course, admirable. The true strength in advice lies in its arguments only. Being coarse doesn't make one's advice more effective. Of course, one should give advice with a firmness and conviction. They do help in serving the purpose. If I personally omit any negative part, it is quite deliberately done. One who is already down should be encouraged by reminding his positive features. They are the real treasures we have. And I always admire a positive attitude in everything. Take care God bless you

A negative advice, if it is meant for our good, can be welcomed. bt one has to be very careful while offreing such advice and diplomatic because nobody likes negative advice. We do not like it when somebody points out our faults. Others also do not like it when we point out their flaws. Moreover, all of us have faults and none is perfect. I do not feel we should consider it our responsibility to advise anybody. Personally, I do not offer advice to people unless somebody asks for it. If somebody's actions hurt me however, it is a different matter.

I share my opinions and give advice whether its negative or not. I am always true to myself... I think it is very hard to say things that aren't true and are not coming from my heart... I rather shut my mouth than say things that is not me... or against my views.

i've been in this case of situations often. It's not that they don't say it just beacsue they don't wanr to but simply because they don't want to upset you. I've done this thing too.

We can say honest about other...but we have to wait at the right time.To make sure we not make other people felt useless..or they get low down..

If someone is going to trust me enough to ask me for my opinion about something...I'm going to give them my opinion whether they like it or not. I'll try not to be unkind but I'm not going to simply say what they want to hear. Case in point. My husband and I are good friends with a couple who have been having problems. They have a 15 year old (hers) and a six month old baby (theirs). Lately, they've been breaking up every week. It doesn't help that the wife is friends with a woman who owns a real estate agency so she can put her in an apartment on short notice. I stayed out of it until my friend asked me what I thought...which is when I told her. This yo-yo back and forth lifestyle is driving not only them but the 15 year old daughter nuts! She smarts off to step-dad because she's angry and believes that he will no longer be an authority figure in her life. A day or two later she's back under his roof. Meanwhile, my friend and her husband are developing serious trust and communication issues. I suggested that they remove the revolving door and get professional help. My friend didn't seemed too pleased with me...I guess her husband was supposed to be an automatic azzhole since she's my friend but what both of them are doing with this moving issue is wrong.

Hello 3cardmonte, I had a real problem way way back and i posted it in this discussion. instead of advice, the people were so furious and mad at me for some reason, but i really didn't know what to do then. after that the discussion got deleted. they were honest and some were a bit hateful but some how they were right, if only the discussion still exist probably i would have thank them for such advice.

Hi 3cardmonte,Well in sharing my advice,I truly gave what is in my heart and based in reality and sometimes based on my experiences.I don't expect for them to follow what i've adviced,as long as I've express to them my sincere oppinion.Have a nice day!

"Advice" and the present generation do not go hand in hand. "Stop lecturing" is what one will hear the moment advice is given. I have given up but watch with dismay at some of the blunders these youngsters commit. So let it be. Let them learn by their experience and that is what they keep saying.

I give my advise if it is asked to. In a way, even if you have no bad intentions when you advise, sometimes it is ignored or brushed aside, either because it was not they were looking for or it is not an affirmation they wanted.

Unfortunately, Im rather direct and Ive lost friends over this but its who I am. I dont believe in saying something just to please the person. Oh I wouldnt go up to someone and tell them they're wearing an ugly dress but if they ask me, and I dont like the dress, I'll say so, I'll say its not a dress I would wear as I dont like the color or shape or whatever. If someone asks for my advice, Im thinking they want my true, honest to goodness opinion since they asked. Im like that, if I ask someone for their advice, I expect them to be honest with me and not say what they think I want to hear. Now if someone could tell my sister what I just said haha.

I usually say what I want to say. I understand that what I am saying is just my opinion and my advice and not the end all and be all. What I have to say should be taken with a grain of salt and be used as a reference. It is not an instruction and should never be taken as that.

hi each and every one need helps to others. such cases i give my honest opinion about all things to every one. if i don't know about it then i asked my friends and take good suggestions then i forward to who need help "if possible help to anyone,even he is your enemy why because we are human beings " . thank you have a nice day

i give the truth,all my friends know this,so if they don't want to hear the truth when asking my advice,don't ask,,what's the point in beating about the bush,,people should never be scared to say what they think