when you forgive, do you really forget?

Forgive but not exactly forget , maybe I can control my self to not bring the pain again and act nothing happened but surely it will never leave inside of me.

Hi, you are saying about the reality. We all just a human being. Although we can forgive but it is not possible to forget it. Just try not to remember it. Have a nice day. Best wishes,

There is no way i am going to forgive and forget about cheating.I am not going to take back a cheater so this issue doesn't exist for me. Once trust is broken it is very difficult to build it once again.

Forgiveness is always easier than forgetting as we always know with human nature... It takes awhile to heal those broken wounds... Although I have forgiven my ex for all the abuse it has been hard to forget because of the anxiety, and nightmares. It has been almost 5 years since I departed from him and 4 since the divorce and I still experience nightmares over the abuse.

I would like to say that forgive does not mean agree, and forget is put down something for the present.

I'm definitely quick to forgive but i never forget especially when the issue at hand is about TRUST. For me TRUST is a very important thing in establishing relationships, some people abuse it and some are just not avid fans of this very precious element of a relationship. I am also a strong believer of RESPECT and without TRUST there is definiteley no RESPECT. So with issues about forgiveness...it is an issue about TRUST IN ONESELF...but when it comes to forgetting...it is an issue about TRUST FOR ANOTHER PERSON.

Well,i will go with you but for me it depends upon the matter and the person it concern.Yes it very difficult to forget and forgive but we can try it.

I think we can forgive but not totally forget. But the most important thing is that we forgive and move on with our life.

When we forgive someone we should forget the things that he/she did to ust. But it is really hard to forgive and forget. When we get hurt by someone it leaves a scar in our hearts which makes us sad and lonely. The scar will serve as a reminder so how can we forgive and forget.

to be honest, i can forgive and forget.. but then it also takes some time to do so.. i do believe that time heals.. in due time, you will be able to move on completely of what you have experienced.. after all we are just human.. they cant expect us to forget that easily.. but then again it all comes down to YOU whether you have it in you to forget what had happened and try to move forward with your life.. dwelling in the past wont keep your life moving and when that happens, you will constantly be reminded of the pain that you have experienced.. moving forward also means that you would like to start all over.. kind of like a new beginning for you.. think of ways for you not to dwell with your past... keep a busy life and try to stay happy.. as long as you always remember what happened, you will never really be able to live life to the fullest.. have a good day alen..

Hello, When one forgives it essentially means that one can forget too. If there is a scar left behind that means that the forgiveness was not genuine and wisely made. Most of us can't take all the responsibilities of the things that has happened to us. It is hard to accept the fact that we are the soul initiator of whatever happened to us. Though somebody speaks a lot about self realization, but I wonder how many of them actually know the meaning of those words and applied it successfully in their lives. Taking responsibilities doesn't mean blaming oneself. It is just a process when you identify your flaws and then derive a positive conclusion out of it. The realization that what happened at least left me with a very positive and improved life, is a positive conclusion in itself. The key factor in the entire voluntary forgetting process is that you surrender everything to god and think that god has protected me from further damaging my own life. Everybody has flaws, so have you. Each time a finger you point to somebody else, a thousand finger can be pointed to you. It is quite normal to have those flaws. Some of them are acquired some are inherited. But none need to be ashamed of it. Its perfectly normal. Now, one has to understand that if one has the right to have these flaws, then everybody else also does. None is flawless,perfect. No matter how grave mistakes may look like, it is pardonable and of course forgettable. Take care God bless you

Me too, alen. Maybe because we want to remember it as a lesson and a reference in the future. I find it quite impossible to forget. What has been done has been done and the hurt is irreparable.

It's normal that we forgive but to forget the pain, it's somewhat impossible. We can always forgive the ones who sinned against us, but as long as we remember the name of that person we can always remember the pain that he gave us.

I do feel for you alen. We can easily forgive, especially if the person is close to our hearts, but it's hard to forget the things he/she did that hurted us. It's like trust, once broken, will not be easily fixed perfectly. It takes time, and eventually, it will heal all things. But forgetting is another story. It's like we are relieving it in our minds over and over again. For me, I have a strong memory so I don't easily forget. But it's much more healthy if you don't constantly reopen your wounds that will bring you pain. Past is past and move on to the present. Hope this helps. Best of Luck ;)

I think to forget is the hardest thing to do. And i agree with you, when people hurt us, or broke our heart, they can never return our heart to the condition just like before its broken. The scar will always remain in our heart. And i think there is no treatment to erase the scar, even though we already forgive the mistake. Forgiven but not forgotten, totally agree with this quote

Forgive but not forget.:(