If someone insults you what would you do?

Good day to you Scaflone8, I have experienced almost the same thing. I also have a friend that instead of giving me a nice response, she just slap my face with an insulting words that I did not expect. I remember those time, I was about to buy a skirt (a pencil cut type skirt), and because my legs is quite big, there are pencil cut type skirt that sometimes does not fit on me. I asked her during those times, if the skirt fits me and if it is okay with me, what she have responded is a big insult to me. She told me that I should not wear those types of clothes and I dont have the right to wear it because it does not fits me due to my big legs. Since then, I did not ask her anymore. I did not consult anything at all. Thinking that only insulting words might slap on my face again.

I just ignore them if only a short words but if she keep repeating it and many heard her nasty comments on me such as in public places I would talk to her calmly to stop and then if she shout or name calling i would ignore her totally and left the places. I would not retaliate to her since it only show her is indecent and a symbol of being unprofessional with low morale and low ethics. She would be the one who put herself in an embarrassing situation and not mine. So if she hurt me not just verbally or physically and not just once but repetitively then i would fight back and stand firm on my grounds, or else I would end up as the pitiful one if I tolerate her abuses as long as she never hurt me I could stand to ignore her bad remarks but when she hurt me, of course i would fight. i have this adage, I am good if you are good on me and bad if you are bad at me and this I applies to in real situation, since I do not like to be hypocrite.

Well, I can say that some people are such spontanous, talking without even thinking what might happen, or even what other people might feel. I have met some people like this. All I can say is this kind of people is not good enough to become friends. To people like this, I always keep my guard up. I almost always don't give them a chance to insult myself.

Maybe i am just ignore it,, or just insult back

i'm just answered them 'GOB BLESS YOU! that's it no argument anymore.

ohhhhh!,if that were me,id beat him and knock the hell out of him.

LMAO dude I am sure that he was just making a joke with you...I don't think you should be mad at him...just remember...don't get mad...get even...LOL That is what friends do man...they give each other a hard time about stuff. Maybe you do need to lose some weight...I know I do...but I am sure your friend was just joking with you man... I have to say that it WAS pretty funny LMAO

You said you two were closed. Friends are not perfect you can always work it out with him. I know he realizes his mistakes. Just tell him what hurts you. Talk it out in a nice way. If someone insults you just pray for him. Never start a fight.

My friends and I make a joke out of my weight so it doesn't hurt that bad when they make comments on my weight. I take it as constructive criticisms and in a way it shows that they accept me for who I am. Anyway, they don't make jokes that they know that would hurt me. But if that comment was made by some person whom I don't know, well sorry for his or her ego because I'll crush it then and there. Often I will ask him or her if what she said makes him or her more righteous, beautiful, or intelligent. After which I would tell him "Go on, reassure your ego; I doubt if that would make a difference on the obvious" and look at the flaw of that person..It really feels good when the person ends up looking stupid because he does not know what I'm talking about or at least pretend not to know because their ego is shrinking to the size of a raisin..muhahaha

lately i was also insulted by my two friend (not actually a close friend) i took it as if nothing to me but behind my back it hurts me, after that i stop hanging out with them...

Sounds like a joke to me, anyways don't get all riled up over it.

You know i have this habit of "delayed reaction" and i really hate it. Then i would be so angry inside for being able to show this freak how bad he is or how ugly he is or how mismannered he is. But i will always hope that i will have that chance to show this freak how i despise him/her . If not, im sure she/he will get his karma from somebody else.

It was just probably a joke man and you weren't in the right mood for a joke. It is typical for friends to do that. He was not that careful of how you felt about it. You should to talk to him about how you feel. Friends always try to work things out unless his got pride issues then I won't bother to be his friend again. Now he got the message that you had enough and that was a good move actually. Don't worry you will work this out. If you ask me I'd do the same too. Cheers ^^

Nothing, I just let them. it's their opinion and I have to respect it even if it is against me. Words won't kill me, so Let them do all the talking. I don't care!

scaflone8, Somehow, I just cannot blame you and you are probably having a bad day and definitely some issues with your body weight. No offense taken, but I am just trying to state the case from experience. Honestly, I feel that your friend did not mean with any ill intentions and he is just trying to be humorous without any expectation of it being taken in the wrong light. Especially, when he considers you mutually as a friend. On the other hand, when that remark came over to you, you just did not see anything on the humor side and you just felt rubbed in. So, on that account I would say that it is not entirely your fault as you probably have had a bad day to begin with. I mean you could always try and see things from another side and banter on with another remark, jokingly of course. I feel that as friends, I just do not advocate cold wars as to over open minded communications where you learn to say "Hey, would you mind? I've already been casted for next season's Porky Pig..." or something along those lines that says that "I resent that!" All of us, just have our soft and untouchable spots, you're no different but that does not mean you are not entitled to be hurt and get angry when someone like a friend comes "trampling". But, then again, you need to see that the other side is your friend who may just come off as unintentional then taking to be callous on his or her part. I'd just don't think a real friend would want to put a friendship on the line by being insensitive and callous. And, hey...I make mistakes too and I don't suppose we preempt people that we are telling a joke or do you? Learn to see things in a different light and be positive always. Take care and have a nice day.

We'll reality often hurts. If I am too fat and he told me that it would hurt me for sure but I would just say "yeah I know I'm just asking for it because my sister wanted to do that." I would play safe and he wouldn't know I was hurt. Or else if I really feel the pain in what he said then I would tell him honestly that I felt insulted that way he would know his mistake and probably he will not do it again. Then I'll tell him if he ever do it again I'll never talk to him anymore. Thanks!

If anybody insults me, whether it be a joke or not (because most of the time, the whole "it was a joke" thing is just a cover-up, and the person actually means it), I will insult them back with a witty come-back of my own I won't just stand there and let somebody make an idiot of me and belittle me.

My friend he also always insults me and I can't take it because he is always calling me not smart and other names which I don't like. Still it's best if you have a talk with your friend and tell him that it bothered you. I'm also going to have a talk with my friend.

I would say "thank you" Lol,But do you think he was kidding that time? His your friend does he know you will get hurt on what he said? Im afraid he was just kidding after all his your friend, forgive him and let things sort out between you and him.And next time if hes going to do the same thing again and that's the time to confront him,you can just tell simply you are friends not to make others down but to lift and respect each other.That's it.. Have a nice day and God bless!

It's really a harsh joke. I strongly believe that jokes are half meant. There are really people who are insulting, especially if they feel insecured to you. They really find ways to hit your ego just to proove to theirselves that they are much better than you do. When someone hits me jokes like that, I usually hits back especially if it's really hurtful. Sometimes, we have to tease back so that he'she will see his/her mistakes.