Who do you Prefer To LOvE?...the one you love OR the one who love you?

hello krystalheart, for me, i think i will go for the man who loves me. i know with all the love that he has given me, time will come that i will also learn to love him & appreciate all the efforts, care & affection the he shows... unlike with someone who don't or can't love me back...time will come that my heart will be tired of loving him as well...specially if he don't treat me well. and i don't like pushing myself to someone who don't love me. maybe i can love him in my mind, but that's it...sooner that love will also fade... let me share this something that i read... [i] Sometimes, in our relentless efforts to find the person you love, we fail to recognize and appreciate the people who love us. We miss out on so many beautiful things and simply because we allow ourselves to be enslave by our own selfish concerns. Go for deeds and not for the man of words, for you will find rewarding happiness not with the man you love but the man whom loves you more. You don’t have to forget someone you love. What you need to learned is how to accept the verdict of reality without being bitter or sorry for yourself. Believe me, you would be better off living that dedication and love to someone more deserving. Don’t let your heart run your life, be sensible, and let your mind speak for itself. Listen not only to your feelings but to reason as well. When I lost you, I was the one who loved you most, but between us you lost more. For someday, I can love someone the way I love you, but you will never be loved again the way I did.”[/i]

The answer is right easy for me. I wouldn't want to love either. The reason is very simple, I wouldn't want to be with someone who doesn't love me no more than I'd want to be with someone that I don't love. I've been in both situations and neither is pretty, instead it's very heart wrenching. I'd much rather be with someone who loves me as I love them and that's what I have with my husband of 18 years and counting.

I totally agree with you. How can we love a person on whom we do not have any soft feelings? At least with the person who does not love us but we love him/her, we have a hope that we may get love from them by our showing real love on them.

Well, for me you definitely have to go with your heart. If you don't it is a total waste of time and life. Feelings are feelings and you can't muster them up out of no where. Nor can you pretend for very long to care for someone you don't really care for no matter how sweet they are or endearing. If you don't have feelings you need to move on tactfully as possible. Life is too short.

I agree with you... I prefer to love the one i love. I mean... thats love, it sucks when you love someone who doesnt feel the same for you. But when both feel the same its the greatest thing that could happend to you.

this kinda goes both ways for me. I still very much love one guy, and after everything he is still my bestfriend. He may not love me in return, but i do know he cares about me and that is enough for me. I am with someone who loves me very dearly, and i do love him in return. he is the father of my children, and does everything he can for me no matter what it is. I think in a sense i have the best of both worlds. I get to remember and still talk to my first love, and i get to be loved by the one im with, and be in a happy fulfilled relationship. i'm not complaining.

krystalheart well I would get very sick of one sided love myself,it would hurt too much to love someone who did not love you, and su rely you would not want to marry someone who did not love you. what a twisted existence that would be. No I would let them both go, and find someone who can love me and whom I can love, or else be single and just wait until I found that some one, but no living together for me . It I were young again I would still do like I did marry someone who love me and whom I loved.

Hi krystalheart I think I prefer the later one because, if we prefer the first one, and inspite of our incessant efforts to make him love me, and if i am failed in my attempt, then it will be tiring and I will be left with disappointment. But if I prefer the one who really loves me, then it will be nothing but living in heaven, always happiness coz, I too realize that I must reciprocate the love and affection, he showers on me and if both of us love each others, there will not be any dearth for the happiness and contendness.

I prefer THE ONE WHO LOVES ME.. because if u get someone whom u love then u will be happy but disappointed but if u get someone who loves u then he/she will make u happy ..... whatever u are/do..

Hello krystalheart, Time here is 10:51am, Jan 14th. First of all, happy valentine's day:P I definitelly choose to be with someone who love me. It is a tough thing to catch someone's heart which seems like not belongs you. If you compete with someone who is staying at the man's heart you love, you may become a crazy woman as quite a lot problems and suspicions between yours. Of course, that is the awkward situation. The man who love you is not as much as you love him, i think, his silence prove that break up will be the last pace. The situation can be quite different if you to be with someone who love you. Maybe what he does is infulential to relaitionship little by little, be loved always letting us a bright mood to open our hearts.

i prefer both :) lets GOD be my light way, if i have to choose over hard choice like that. because both of them have their own consequences.

If it were an either/or, I would prefer to be with someone who loves me. I love easily, and barring something truly repugnant about the one who loves me, it would not be long 'til the love was returned. As for the one I love or desire who doesn't love or want me, pffft! I don't have time for that crap.

I agree with the idea that loving the one I love is easier and I prefer to love the one I love.But I think this is not a good choice.We should try our best to find someone who loves us and we also love.That's really "falling in love".

For me I would choose someone i love rather than someone that love me but i don't love at all. I would be very happy and satisfied in my life if I'm going to spend my life with the one i love. And it simply because I just need the man who will complete me.

I have to be honest with myself, although I will look dumb because of it but I'd rather choose the one I love than the one who loves me. For the reason of, I will not be happy there. I am happy when seeing the one I love, it do not have him to love me too, I just want to love him if he allows me. Maybe in the right time he will love me too, but the right thing is do not expect to be loved in return. If he refuse my love, I will not force a second chance, I will just love him discreetly. On the side of the person who loves me, there is no one around so I am not imagining myself to be loved. I am always the one who loves them , but they don't care for my love, because they don't know it. I can love quietly. And when someone loves me I really don't know if I will be feeling the way he feels about me, because for the first time that I saw him and I don't like him, it will never happen that I will like him in the future.

It's so much better when it's both, don't you think?

i would perfer to love the one i love, then someone who love me. because i'm a kind of guy if a female loves me, and i couldnt be with the one i love, i wouldnt want to be with someone i dont love. to me its wrong. but i am lucky i am with someone i love and they love me too

I would not really want either because my ideal is to be with someone I love and who loves me but if I had to choose between the one that loves me and the one I love I would rather be with the one who loves me because he would be sure to be nice to me and treat me well and I may grow to love him in return whereas the other way I around I would just be hurt adoring someone who didn’t care about me that would be way too painful!

It is so much better to love the one that loves you than the one you love. No heartbreak is bigger than the heartbreak of loving someone that does not love you.

Very difficult question. well i prefer both. A person whom i will love and he will also love me. But if it's not possible then i will prefer who loves me. If one person truly love me then i will fall in love with him one day But a person whom i love if he doesn't love then it's really difficult to live. So i will prefer a person who loves me.