I'm not sure what to do.....

Well, your sister is not the one going out with the guy right? I'm sure she means well and she treasures you more than her "friendship" with that guy and she'll understand you. Maybe not now when she thinks she's right about this, but she will when you show her you are okay. Maybe she's worried you're sad or having trouble being single (you are, right?) It's fun to play the matchmaker and sometimes the matchmaker forgets that a person doesn't need to be "matched with someone". She's just looking out for you and a good talk would solve just about anything.

don't say anything just locate yourself next to your sister before class starts and prove your innocence

Hi, bluehibiscus. You should do what is best for you. If you feel no affection or feelings towards this guy, then it is best to not pursue a relationship with him. You can choose to be friends with him, but that is your choice. But, to have a romantic relationship with him is another thing. If you are not interested in him, then don't accept his invitation. Your sister will just have to understand. It is great that she wants to see you two together. But, you have to do what makes you feel good.

Oh well, as i read your comment here, you are engage already. Is this the same guy you are talking about? Well, there you go... I hope you are not engage just because of pressure. Being in a relationship where only other people work out for it, is very stressful. It is hard to be with someone you don't love or even like. Marriage is not an easy game to play. It needs hard work how much more if you are not in love with your mate? I hope you would be able to accept each other's differences and would learn to love him.

I don't think you have to think about making a match. However, what harm can come from going out on a nice friendly date. Who knows, after being out with the guy for a few hours you may find you really enjoy his company. At the very worst, if you find he is totally not someone you want to be around, you will have valid reasons, other than he is too light and has a southern accent.

Well you have to do what makes you happpy, not your sister, if your gut feeling tells you that you shouldn't go, don't do it. I learned the hard way to trust in my intuition, and it always works, and when I don't follow what my intuition is telling me, things always goes wrong. The fact about the age and incompatibility is not that much of a problem, the real problem is that it looks like you don't like him, and if this happens there is nothing else to do. Remember your sister probably pick her husband herself, so don't let other people decide your love life.

Be honest with your sister about how you feel. Don't do anything you don't want to do because you are afraid of how your sister will react. Being honest in my opinion is the best thing.

Despite the difference you never know! He is into computers? Doesnt mean you have to be does it and at end if day if you have different interests it means you can talk about new things. On the other hand as someone else said it is not your sister dating him is it? You can not be with someone in order to avoid upsetting your sister. Maybe it would work with this guy but you can not try for the sake of your sister. That would not be fair on any of you.

If your mind is not ok with him them please please avoid him. I am saying for your betterment. Sometimes everything is fine but somehow our mind don't allow or can say an x-factor does not coincide. In this case you should avoid it........

Hi there, If you ask me,I'd say that you are letting others make critical life changing decisions for you. I know I'm harsh in saying this but, don't let others rush you into a relationship, when you have every right and liberty to make your own verdict. You i presume are old enough to decide whats right for you and whats not. And I know people would generally support your sisters decision, but I'm totally against such a kind of arrangement. You See that your family will help you make choices for you, until a certain point in life, after which you need to realize and also your family needs to realize, that you are on your own now. In this case, opposites should never attract.I believe you have a portion of your being that says, I need to respect my family and the decision they make for me, but simultaneously you are struggling to get along with them( and their decision). Family can tell you only so much, but it's all upto you to now. You need to tell them that you respect their concern but,but You are mature enough to commit to legible relationship. I would certainly not want to discuss the age difference as it's a whole different story, but I would not recommend you to go ahead with this. I may be a little delayed, or may be slightly early, to convey this to you, but I would want you to go do something that will keep you happy and content for as long as you are alive. Rash decisions will ruin or disrupt you personally. I think I've said enough, and leave you with the thought, that you are in charge of your life, keep moving with what your gut feeling tell you to.

I seriously feel you should give him a try...

If you feel pressure in doing things that you are not interested in, then you are only making a fool of yourself, as well as the guy being matched to you. Though your sister is really concerned and happy about the match up, it is still your call... But if you really don't want your sister to get upset, then i would suggest that you go on with the present setup but not on the pretense of having a relationship but as friends, try to know him and give him a chance to try to prove himself... you may never know, sometimes cupid is foolish enough to hit your heart to make you fall for someone you really don't like, lol! To make it easier on you.. i am 11 years older than my wife and we have two different worlds considering the generation gap and the conflict of interest. She did'nt like me, in fact i dont even come close to his ideal guy, but to make the story short, she fell madly in love with me... The rest is history, we have six kids now... and when i asked her regarding the matter of falling in love with me, she only stated, "I really dont know! My mind tells me your not for me, but my heart compels me to be with you."

I just cant see any reason why you have to force yourself if you dont want to. If you dont want to upset your sister then just tell her nicely that you are not happy about it. She is your sister after all so she will understand.

going out with someone and doing friendship is not a bad idea even that person is just opposite of you in every aspect!!!!! but you shuold not think of taking your relationship further with that person!!!! and who knows if you go out woth that person you may start liking him!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Hi!! I think your sister is thinking for your better may be she finds you alone and sad sometimes which she don't like and want to see you happy. If you don't like the guy then explain your sister well that you don't like him and your thinking is completely different from him and it is not easy to make a relation with him. I am sure she will try to understand you if you will give her valid reasons for not liking that guy. Another way is make your sister sure that you will find someone or someone is there in your eyes who can keep you more happy than that guy so that she will not worry much about you. It is your life dear and you have to lead it...You are not a kid that you will be thinking all time what others want..Your choice matters...you have to live your life...what is use of this match if you live with him because your sister want and find yourself uncomfortable. Its better to explain your sister well.