If you see someone in a public place who is attacked, you interfere?
By icesmile
@icesmile (7160)
Romania
February 20, 2010 2:06pm CST
Or just you do not care, and move on?
Can be a wife assaulted by husband, even verbal, or a mother who hit her child or a thief to strike the old to steal a purse,you get involved or just you go faster because you do not want to have problems?
How much civic sense do you have, or how much spirit of conservation?
Scare you all this or you know to keep your cold blood?
I was several times in situations like this, of course i got not into a fight with someone, but I tried to make noise to call attention to others who are around ... and i remember,when i I was at the supermarket, and i see a lady who wait to pay , and one Gypsy was behind her with hand in her bag, and I saw him, he looked into my eyes and made me sign it shut, as if not, I take my head ... mark by hand. I calculated risks immediately, and because many people was there in a public place, I warned the lady, and men around us immobilized thief and call guardians from supermarket, even he had a knife at him.
To be honest, some days I kept looking behind me on the street, but then I asked the police what happened to that thief, and they said he was arrested and will be sentenced, and this make me to feel in safe.
You will interfere in such a situation, or just move on, just because is not your business?
You were in a situation like this, and how you reacted?
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25 responses
@cobrateacher (8432)
• United States
20 Feb 10
Hi, Ice!
If I witnessed an assault, I don't think I could stand to live with myself if I didn't do everything possible to help. Even if all I could do would be to call 911 for emergency help, at least I could help in some way! Too often, people don't want to get involved, and things turn out much worse for the victim than they would have if someone had intervened!
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@icesmile (7160)
• Romania
20 Feb 10
Hi teacher, this is the idea that people every day become more immune from the situations of this kind, but I wonder if he would be in a situation like this? and nobody helps?
I think these days, people used increasingly more often these words;
"I am immune, is not possible to happened
to me."
to me."@cobrateacher (8432)
• United States
20 Feb 10
Ice,
People who think that are terribly naive! It can happen to anyone, anywhere, at any time. Besides, we must be our brothers' and sisters' keepers and protectors.
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@warmweatherwoman (2233)
• Atlantic City, New Jersey
20 Feb 10
Oh Hell NO! I'm way to much of a loud mouth to walk by a situation where someone was being attacked and not say anything. I have been on the other end of that- being attacked when i was younger by gangs of girls with onlookers not doing anything about it. Its a terrible thing to know that there are people in the world that can just stand by and watch another human being being abused.
I am like neighborhood watch in my community when it comes to kids and fights...If I see some comotion that I think is someone being attacked I make sure to make it known that I am watching- AND - that I WILL call the authorities!
@warmweatherwoman (2233)
• Atlantic City, New Jersey
20 Feb 10
There is a show here, "What would you do"...but John Quinones I believe is the host..I'm actually not sure if its on the air anymore- havent seen it in a while...but maybe you can youtube it to check it out. anyway...they basically put people in the exact situations as you metioned above and see if passers by will allow the abuse- or step in to help. It is very interesting to see the reactions of some.
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@icesmile (7160)
• Romania
20 Feb 10
I think you and binoculars to see better
, it means you have a highly developed sense of ethics and that is good for this society what day by day is more ill.
More and more people just don t care, and is really sad for us, for all..
I like to see humans reactions in this kind of situations, really, i am curious.
, it means you have a highly developed sense of ethics and that is good for this society what day by day is more ill.
More and more people just don t care, and is really sad for us, for all..
I like to see humans reactions in this kind of situations, really, i am curious.
@geminipunk (573)
• India
20 Feb 10
Indeed i would interfere. And i have done a many times too. I am not bragging but yes i have interfere even if it was to hold the guy who was attacking till the public comes and beats that guy but yes i have done it.
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@Canellita (12029)
• United States
21 Feb 10
It is never a good idea to interfere unless you can actually help. It is better to call for assistance even if just from other people around until the police can arrive. You were fortunate in this situation.
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@Canellita (12029)
• United States
4 Mar 10
It is good you were able to help and not risk your own safety.
@cowboyofhell (3063)
• Philippines
20 Feb 10
If it is clear that help is readily available and many people had already offered their help, I tend to not help anymore since the help is sufficient already. But if someone did have trouble and in bad need of help and I'm the only person who can help him, I do my best to assist him.
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@cowboyofhell (3063)
• Philippines
20 Feb 10
firstly I will beat the crap out of them for not helping the severed person then offer my help if i can.
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@pandaeyes (2065)
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21 Feb 10
I think I would use my telephone to call the police but I would not go to help because there have been a few instances of people being killed when they went to aide the victim.
MY husband has assisted a few times when he has seen trouble but he is a reserve policeman and knows some unarmed combat techniques. He got a broken hand one time and a black eye the other time.
Both times the police were called and the attacker was caught.
He tells me to steer clear and just let the police handle it if I see anything like that.
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@icesmile (7160)
• Romania
21 Feb 10
to use the phone, is the best solution...but i will tell you what happened to me years ago;
When I was a student, lived in a building, eight floor, in a campus, and in one night, I went out on the balcony to get air for my headache, it was dark, and quiet, not heard anything.
I looked down and saw two boys who tried to steal from a car tire that was parked in front of the block, i calculated, they can t see me, because they were concerned to undo the wheel of the car, and I did not know what to do, I took a bottle, i had the balcony, and I threw it down, right next to her, and you can imagine what made noise in the night, and how bad it got scared thieves have escaped, but I honestly thought they had a heart attack due to noise. not looked up, they forget where to run, I laughed, I passed the headache, the man stayed with the car tire, all things are done well, but if i call the police, until they came, thieves run,i had to go to the police to give statement ... and maybe I have done a good and thieves, as they have escaped that little jail time...
@icesmile (7160)
• Romania
21 Feb 10
I laughed a long time, just when I imagine what faces had thieves in the night, and still my light was extinguished, and I have let down not see me ... but anyway it looked just before where to flee.
maybe they think that is a comet , something , between tall buildings, it makes a big noise when is silence .
@pandaeyes (2065)
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21 Feb 10
That was a very good idea.
I like how the thieves were alarmed by the noise.
It would tell everyone to look out of their windows and they would fear being seen.
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@rogue13xmen13 (14402)
• United States
20 Feb 10
I don't know about the rest of the people on MyLot, but I would to everything I could to stop the attackers if I saw someone being attacked. I know what those situations are like, and no one, no matter what, deserves that kind of abuse. Even if the person was armed, I would still try to stop because hurting people violently isn't right.
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@mflower2053 (3223)
• United States
21 Feb 10
I dont' think I would be able to interfere as far as beating someone up. Of course right now I am pregnant and my kids are usually with me so I wouldn't want to put their lives in danger but I would scream for help and call the police for them.
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@icesmile (7160)
• Romania
21 Feb 10
To scream, to make noise, to let the criminal know that somebody see him is a good strategy if you know that are people around, if not, maybe for you as pregnant woman is better just try to hide and call police.congratulation for future baby...they are so cute...
ke noise, to let the criminal know that somebody see him is a good strategy if you know that are people around, if not, maybe for you as pregnant woman is better just try to hide and call police.congratulation for future baby...they are so cute...
@Rollo1 (16679)
• Boston, Massachusetts
21 Feb 10
Since I am disabled, I wouldn't run after a purse thief or anything like that, but in a situation where I could call the police or get attention to the situation, I definitely would. We had an incident here where a girl was beaten up by two other girls at a train station and three security guards stood by watching and did nothing to stop it. People just don't want to get involved and it's very sad to see.
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@varron (453)
• Philippines
20 Feb 10
It depends upon the situation.In the case that i assume that I can handle the matter well, Then I will going ti interfere to prevent someone from being hurt. In the case that I know that i cannot handle the situation and it is dangerous former to intervene, all I can do is to call on somebody for help or call the authorities up.
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@prasunsam (356)
• India
20 Feb 10
Well for those situation i think we can not say how we would behave at that moment well for me i would react according to the situation.
I would like to save the life of other people when they are in danger but i would take care of myself also so that i don't get hurt.
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@mandybeau (279)
• New Zealand
21 Feb 10
Altho I am a female, I am very strong, so this is my experience. Quite some time ago, I watched from acros one of one of those Zebra crosing things, and a Guy was bashing his girlfriend/wife whatevers head into the stripey pole.
I watched while a pile of people just walked past. I did not I Got my arm around his throat, and while a Tourist chucked down his back pack, and got hold of his waist, the woman got away.
She went probably 2 metres from us and stood behind the Tourist, where she kept yelling at the Guy continuing to provoke him. He stuck his fist up, so I let him have it.
I couldn't believe what happened next, the crazy woman, all covered in cut, screamed at me stop it stop it you're hurting him.
I picked up my bag the Tourist picked up his and both of us left them to it. More than we could get our heads around.
Some years later a woman threw his girlfriend through a plate glass window, she was very lucky, to be fairly unscathed, same thing I don't want him charged, Police came to this one, "She said he'll be fine hes just had a few to many to drink.
Looking back I would probably still help someone in the same situations, but seriously don't expect any thanks for it, quite the reverse. in fact.
Good Topic
mandy
@verptc (246)
• Philippines
21 Feb 10
I will evaluate first the situation.Sometimes it's a private matter and no need for help from anyone. If it's a situation that requires to do so then action is more better than watching.But I have to be very careful, sometimes dangerous that I will be involved in such trouble situation. I have experienced it before.
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@icesmile (7160)
• Romania
21 Feb 10
What mean private matter for you? Mean a fight wife-husband or mother-children?
I have experience when I spoke between my friend and her husband, and then they were reconciled, and I have not talked to any.
But even if they have reconciled, I intervened and bone before, even if they are not grateful, just because i don t like when 2 persons fight each other.
@danishcanadian (28955)
• Canada
23 Feb 10
I would definitely interfere. I don't always have the physical ability to stop the fight with my own bare hands, but if I am witnessing an attack, I will have no problem picking up my cellphone and calling for help. I have had to do that a few times, and it's always worked. My husband is a Viet Nam Veteran, so if he needed to jump in and stop them with his bare hands, he would be able to do it, and he'd have no problems doing it.
@ronaldinu (12422)
• Malta
22 Feb 10
I will make a quick risk assessment of the situation. If there is any chance that any of my relatives or myself be hurt I won't intervene myself but I will call the police or an emergency service. If I can handle the situation yes, I won't let someone else be violent on another person.
@bellis716 (4799)
• United States
22 Feb 10
You were right. In the case of theft, it was best to speak up. The other two situations are more iffy. I would not interfere unless someone was in eliminate physical danger.
@faridmadeabillion (1127)
• Bangladesh
2 Mar 10
Well, my friend. I've witnessed some cases in which the attacked has done something wrong to the attacker for which he is being beaten. But when the situation is quite different, i.e. someone is being attacked unfairly, people around take actions trying to stop fighting. I never had to get involve in these situations. Frankly speaking, I pray to Allah so that people don't have to engage in fighting and resolve their matter peacefully. Have a peaceful day.
@cerebellum (3863)
• United States
21 Feb 10
I don't know what I would do! When I was younger I probably would have tried to help the person that was being attacked. Now I am handicapped and there is not much I could do physically. Maybe I would go get help from someone else. Report it to the store manager or the cops or something. I have never been in this situation, but I would like to think I would do what I could to help.
@kooltiger (848)
• Pakistan
21 Feb 10
well i will interfere if its suitable for me to interfere ... there are many different situations on which we have to act... if we cannot do any thing then we can call someone who could handle that... if its a thief then we can call police... but it totally depends on the situation...
