ok finally ready to talk about it, I lost the baby

Oh my gosh sweetie! I'm so sorry to hear of your loss!! Bless your kind heart! With your husband leaving because of the baby which caused unneeded stress which caused you to lose your baby is selfish and oh so uncalled for!! Now he wants to get back with you? Oh how convenient. How convenient. Sweetie, it's up to you whether to take him back or not but I can tell you this, he hurt you once, he'll hurt you again. He's a selfish azz so let him wallow in his own undoing. Protect your heart and don't let him back in. What if you get pregnant again? Then what? However, I support your decision in what ever you do for I do understand how the heart beats for another. Bless your heart!!

There are no words to express at such a loss. So I won't give you any platitudes. But I have been where you are, and I do understand the depth of your feelings. As for your hubs............the first thing you need to do is come to terms with your own grief before you take on the stress of dealing with him. To leave you while you were pregnant because HE didn't want kids is outrageous. That's not love, that's selfishness. To want now to come back is also selfishness and not love. I don't know your situation enough to give you advice, but my gut and my experience tells me, despite how you feel now, this man is no good and in your shoes I'd get rid of him. I did with mine when this happened to me............Let us know how it turns out, but please stay strong. You are woman. HE is just a man............lol

I am sorry that this happened. I would have to think long and hard over taking him back after him leaving you like that. Vows say for better or worse, not run when you don't like what is happening. Good luck with what you decide.

hello pop, Yeah,i also know and read and even commented from you previous posts. So,he really did leave huh... And,it's so sad to hear about your loss(the baby) Maybe God has had purpose on this(why this has to happen) And,regarding your husband...it's up to you dear. It is only you who knows what to do with him... And i believed that,you are wise enough to make the rightful one(decision)

Hi sweetie. So sorry to hear about your loss. Only time can heal such a thing, but i now you are strong and you will do what is best for yourself. About the other one, make sure you are healed and strong enough, before making any decisions. It won't help to get hurt again. I wish you the best of luck and i know you will make the right decision. Good Luck. TATA.

hELLO pOP! i'M sorry to hear about your baby. I wasn't able to read some of you posts and I don't really know what happened. I think that when you want to get back with you husband you have to think of this thing If its gonna happen again, will he leave me?

Sorry to hear about that... but i think stresing out is not a solution to the problems.. you should have tried to persuaded him at that time... sorry if i am sounding rude its certainly not my intention i just want to tell you that talking out things is always a better thing than stressing out. At this moment if he is trying to get back i also think that you oculd give him a chance to mend his mistakes..

Hello there. I have been following your discussions. I am so very sorry to hear that due to all the stress you lost your baby. I hope that you are alright and that life will get happier for you. I know that you have been through a difficult time lately. Maybe you will split up with your husband. I think that you and him need to discuss things. He was so nasty to you when he found out you were pregnant. Hug.

I am so sorry! I know how you feel...I haven't lost a baby, but my sister did and I was very upset about it. You said your husband didn't want MORE kids...he left you and the children you already had because you were pregnant again? I'm personally not sure if I could get back together with a guy that did that to me...but this is all about how you feel! Do you still love him despite what he did, can you forgive him for it. AND the big one, do YOU want more kids? Because that's a big thing to not agree on in a marriage. Just some things to think about! Good luck!

First I would like to say that I am sorry for your loss. Secondly I have to say that your husband should be ashamed of himself. Just think about it for a second, he basically made it clear that you weren't good enough for him while you were pregnant, now that you have lost the baby he wants to come crawling back! What happens if you get pregnant again? Is he going to take off again? Why would you want to put yourself through that again? Why? So that you can be let down again. Personally I would cut my losses and move on. I hope that you can move forward with your life, and that you find all that you are looking for. Remember that when you need to talk, those of us here on mylot will be here to listen. Whatever you do, just remember that you are wonderful and that you deserve the best.

I am so sorry to hear about the loss. I would look deep inside yourself to make the decision about your husband. Things always seem to have a way of working out.

Yes, i've been following your discussions. And Im sorry to here your lost. And about your heartless husband???. It is only YOU can decide about this matter.. But, yes..everybody deserves a second chance., but If I were you I wont take him back, what if you got pregnant again?? anyway, the decision is yours. Good luck

Oh no that's horrible that you lost the baby that's really sad the baby didn't get a chance at life. Sorry for that loss that you have to endure now. Really your husband wants to get back with you now that the baby is lost if I were you I would not even consider taking him back because he doesn't seem like a very considerate and reliable person no offense. Still you must do what is right to you and what you feel the right thing to do in your heart is. Anyway hope you do what is right to yourself and be honest to yourself too.

Hello! I'm very sorry about what happened. I think it is very good for you to say it out loud because it means you are now in the healing process. It is very sad what your husband did to you, and I know many would suggest to you to leave him. But you need to think no longer about what he did. Just think in your future, do you still want to be with him? Will you forgive him or the problem will grow? If you too separate, how are you going to feel being alone? Is there still love in your heart for him? Well answer yourself and hope to be helpful. Take care, Libna.

poppoppop111 I am so sorry to hear you lost your baby. Thats really heartbreaking. and now your husband wants to come back, just like that after putting you through the stress meat grinder? oh no think long and hard about that. I myself would not take him back if I were you, but its your own decision and only you know what you ultimately want to do. I do know that I wish you the best, and good luck and God Bless you and yours.

My sympathy & condolences for your loss. No matter how much I try to understand & sypathize with you, words can't replace how you must be feeling. That being said, out with your hubby. You deserve more than what your husband did. You don't abandon someone at the moment of need. Person's true color comes out at the darkest moment. If he couldn't stand by your side through your pregnancy, he'd be the first to run the next time when something comes up.

I know saying sorry does not really do nothing at all. Considering you have heard it proable a million times. I am not in your shoes and I can not judge your husband. But, the only thing I am wondering is and you do not even have to responed the answer to me. I can understand you husband not wanting anymore childern its a hard world, I can also understand you maybe wanting more. It don't make no sense to me about him leaving cause weather he was there or not he was going to have to pay one way or another.I am sure you love you husband and I would just ask your self this if you want more kids I do not think that it's fare for you to compromise that for the love of your husband. and if he does come back then what is he going to do if you conceive again. These are all questions I would be asking myself. It seems to me that that if he left that easy this time and caused you that kind of pain then are you ready to have to maybe go through that again. You will be in my prayers.I pray god give you the strength to make that best choice for you!

Hi Pop, Sorry about the baby, whatever happened, you just be careful next time, so you don't get pregnant again(if you're not ready yet), and not to lose a baby (in case it happens again). It's sad that your husband left because of the baby, and now that he knew you lost it, he wants you back. I think he's a jerk, sorry for the word. As if it was your fault alone that you got pregnant, hello! it takes to to tango, in the same way that it takes two to make a baby. History has a habit of repeating itself, so think may times before taking him back.

I am new and haven't read your posts but I am very sorry for the loss of your beautiful angel now in Heaven. First take all the time you need to mourn the loss of your child. As for your husband the only thing I can suggest is to pray about it and just let God lead you to the right answer. My heart goes out to you and I will pray for you and your baby. God Bless You

I am sorry to hear that.I know you feeling.being a woman I know what is cherish for us.I think you need to take a deep talk with your husband.best wishes to you.