I want a long and happy marriage. Any advice?

Hey,I wanna say your aunt and uncle are a admiring couple. when looking at this topic ,I think of myself,my ideal marriage is that a man and a woman love each other very much ,they go through many difficluties,they have the same target.The most essiental factor is :they are in the same position.They have the same condition of economy ,the same education degree...Only in this way can they conquer strait together,and live with happiness:) What I advise you is:try to find a person who is in the same degree and take care of you no matter what happens!

i also want my marriage to last for 70 years or even longer if i can... that will still be a long long long way to go for me as i am still only in my 4th year of marriage and going... i think the secret of any long and happy relationship is trust and respect... these two virtues are very important for me in a relationship because without these two virtues, there is no point of carrying on with the relationship... on top of that, i also think that open communication is also very important... i always try to practice these three virtues in my relationship with my hubby and so far is doing really well... take care and have a nice day...

first of all congratulations to your uncle and aunt for being together for so long…I really think we should all post more of such example on the net, just to let people know that in these times of quick marriage and quicker divorce, there are couple who are such wonderful examples to us. You too have a lot to learn from them and if both you and your spouse can follow their example, you too will have a long happy married life. I always believe that once you are married, there should be minimum ‘you’ and ‘me’…it should be more of ‘us’…so you know, whenever you are sacrificing or compromising or making up, you don’t feel as if you are belittling yourself in front of another entity. Also when you are buying or spending or helping, its like you are doing for both of you…so the small differences that crop up like ‘I did this, you did not’…etc don’t crop up at all. Also it has to be a both way game…I mean we should try and love and give more than we expect from our spouse. And trust should always be there…complete commitment.

I think communication is one of the most important things to bring to a marriage. Also respect and good character. Be sure the person that you marry is a good friend and a good person. Your boundaries and what you expect from one another should be steadfast and well talked out. Morals and character is important and knowing yourself as well as your partner is very important.

Hello, Like one of our friends has already mentioned, the strength to forgive and to love comes right from God. We analyze a lot about external factors. I think that is a total wastage of time. People analyze a lot in order to find an excuse for not donating to beggars. I tell them that they should only think about their own duties and then leave the rest in the hands of God. There shouldn't be any analysis, predictions and further interpretation in your responsibilities. To live a life beyond all mediocrity, love is essential. Love beyond material needs. We involve ourselves in bitter disagreements when we overlook the major facts and go for secondary and minor details. Appreciate him first as a human being and then as your husband. Don't overlook his flaws, because that would be partial judgment. Rather accept his flaws arguing that you have flaws too. Every human have right to have flaws. Its quite normal. If you want to change it, you can only do it by first accepting it. God bless both of you

Any marriage will last long provided each partner will respect each other's opinion and whatever problems arises in between. Be not hotheaded whenever a dialog has been ensued by each one.Listen first and give solution, Be careful not to hurt feelings of your love ones especially your children who will remember all situation.Be a two way street of, not only you are right in any discussion, not being the boss in control of everything, but being a considerate person who has good judgment.Love and respect, patience and forgiveness are the keys to a happy ending..

My advice is to find someone who you have compatible with (values, careers, ideals, and so one). I feel like if more people did this comparison thing there'd be less divorces. Your aunt is right. Don't exspect to agree always, but kiss and make-up. Grudges aren't a good thing for any relationship. The point is to find wait you enjoy doing together and always make time for "dates." Even when you're 90 or have 5 kids. My parents say it's vital and they just had their silver anniversary.

The most important necessity for a long and happy marriage is that both partners are committed to working together and to treating each other well. Understanding and forgiveness is very important because none of us are perfect and we're all going to have our moments and disagreements. IMO, love is a living thing and has to be nurtured. My husband and I have our little routines, little things we do that show our love and affection for each other. Some folks might find them silly but they are comforting and nice.

Learn to love the Lord your God, and learn to forgive your husband as the Lord has forgiven you. Do not let the sun go down on your anger, but resolve issues as quickly as possible. Live in mutual submission, him to you, and you to him. Banish pride from your marriage, and be humble. Guide your husband with a gentle and quiet spirit, because a wise and Godly women, is better than all the gold and diamonds in the world.

Oh wow...your aunt and uncle are some lucky couple. They can be an inspiration for many married couples out there. In my opinion it really takes a lot of courage, patience and understanding in order to keep the marriage long and happy. During the marriage ceremony when we exchange "I dos" with your partner it literally means forever and you are supposed to love that person for the rest of your life....it's pretty difficult don't you think? Because people change and so does love..because there's no constant thing in this world...in the realistic point of view. But married couples who stayed long enough to really outpass the challenges of married life may have the secret of true friendship within the marriage. I believe the essence of friendship should forever be instilled in marriage so that they could last long enough for them to grow old together. Without friendship how can couples understand each other more? It is because with friendship...respect, understanding, patience, and other good things will follow through and that will make the relationship much stronger...even the marriage cannot be put apart that easily. Don't you agree? Nice topic you started here louisefrank...happy mylotting.