My partner will be dating someone else on our planned trip

That is the problem with 'open relationships'. You cannot expect to give your partner the freedom to date other people but expect him to be with just you. It does sound as though you were looking forward to some alone time with him, however it seems as if he has other ideas. What you need to do is call him yourself and clarify the situation. Do you still want to go on the trip anyway with the situation being as it is?

I'm glad you have lasted for 14 months in your open relationship. but the question is - your commitment with each other. how committed are you with your relationship? as i see it, she is not committed with your relationship by her answer that she is willing to be with another guy during your trip. and why did you tell her she could be with the other person for two days when in fact you were planning to be together on that special day? i am just puzzled with this kind of relationship. the bottom line here is commitment with each other. well, its for you to decide... "to be or not to be". good luck.

For me if ok with your feeling why not? then go and make things not ok with them.

Relationships should not be toyed with like that. I don't much care for open relationships for that reason. I say don't go. Its obvious that there is no real care for you and you're the "friend". If they cared about you at all there would be no need for "open" relationships. Nor would there be a need for the way you feel because its obvious he doesn't want to spend his time with you..

Well my friend if your guts says you shouldn't, then don't before you waste money and time.It is more likely that something fishy is going on. Long distance relationship has a lesser chance of survival, i know. Trust is very important.Although trust has its limitations for you really don't know much what he is doing,i believe that the truth will always prevail. So when you sense something is wrong, don't let yourself be blinded by love.

Hello, I just say strictly by my own. I think it's better for you to be happy. If you do not feel happy, just talk with him streightly. Let him know what you think. Then both of you will decide how to do further. Good luck!

That is the problem with an open relationship, plus it's also a long distance one. It is really not advisable as it is very weak and very prone to third party. You can't hold tight to your partner and you should never expect that he or she is only yours. There's no assurance that he or she is not dating somebody else. That's why temptation is always present. It's like a relationship with no commitment. In this kind of relationship, you should also be open minded, patient, understanding and not easily get hurt and jealous. Well, for me, this is not a serious relationship, it's more of a game. So if I were you, I will get out of this kind of relationship, find a real and serious relationship where you will be committed to each other. This is what I can say. Take good care of your self. Happy myLotting!

You signed up for an open relationship, and now that he's acting like it's an open relationship, you seem to be unhappy about it. Your 'partner' is right to be angry. You agreed to this opened ended thing, and then complained about him taking advantage of the deal you agreed with. If I tell you that you can rent out my spare bedroom for $10 dollars a month, can I then complain you don't pay enough? Didn't I sign up for the deal to begin with? Wouldn't you be angry at me for complaining about a deal I setup? Look, if you want a deep committed one on one, marriage type relationship, you are not going to get it with a 'partner' in an open relationship. You can't get a great high paying job by working part time without getting an education or learning a skill. Everyone knows this. Well, guess what... you can't have a committed relationship like a marriage, by doing the opposite of getting married. So, I'd suggest you determine what you want and stick with it. If you don't want a marriage to last a life time, if you just want this sort of open ended 'partner' deal, then accept that is what you choose, and don't get upset about it. Personally I don't do 'partners'. If I'm going to get with a girl, it's going to be the real deal, and I'm getting married.

You're in an open relationship, so I think you should accept those. I guess you should think at the first place what could be the consequences of that case. Also long distance relationships are seldom working. I guess you should forget that guy and move on, he doesnt love you anyway because he is more interested in the other girl.

I bet a "closed relationship" is looking pretty good right about now...Huh?!

Maybe I am a bit conservative but, I think it would be better if you cancel that trip based on the following: 1. Spare yourself from further heartaches, though you claim an open relationship but his plans in meeting this new friend already affects you, how much more if you will witness his actions in entertaining this new friend. 2. Your partner should have at least considered how you would feel in this situation but as it seems, he's only interested in enjoying your and his new friend's company, unmindful of how it will affect you. I see this as an act of selfishness from his part. 3. You want to go to that trip to enjoy, with that new friend tagging along, do you think you will enjoy going to? Sorry to have responded this way but I'm just honest with my opinion. God bless

Either she has felt due to this 'open relationship',that you do not care for her at all due to lack of signs like jealousy or possessiveness,or she is trying to test how you do you react in this circumstance.I hope the later is true.You'd go with them,and always take charge of the chances to show you are her boyfriend.Remember you came in her life first.Hence you have a greater impact upon her.Kick the bloody man off from her silently.See how do I react!

It seems like he's more eager to meet that 'friend' of his for the trip. You could tell him though that if he wants to have this trip, he still could meet his friend but not book another room for his friend. It supposes to be your trip together right? Since you're fine if he were to plan the trip some other time with that friend of his, tell him that but this time it should only be for the both of you. Now everything turned cold, if you think having this trip will sort things out then go ahead, if not, settle everything first before you go for the planned trip. Hope everything work out for you.

I'm not sure about this kind of relationship because I feel this way if you are with someone then be with them but do not be bringing someone else into the relationship this is very unfair to both of you and if this is what the one of you want then why even be in a relation ship?

i will not go on the trip if i am in your position... but it is entirely up to you... ultimately, you are the one who has to make the decision whether you will be comfortable or not to go on this trip... i suggest that you have a chat with her and ask her for the reasons of her actions... may be after you have a heart-to-heart chat with her you will understand her better and you can also express your feelings and opinions to her... good luck... take care and have a nice day...

I think you should talk to your partner. It's one thing to have an open relationship, but I think that it's fair to draw a few boundaries - like having vacation trips be with one partner only. Open relationships only work if both partners are honest and considerate. It isn't necessary to push another partner in your partner's face.

HOld your horses! You can see the red light! If I were you I would be wary of such situation. Is he in a relationship with you or is his friend much more important for him? He seems he would like to have the best of both worlds. I think you need to talk it over with him and then decide how you are going to proceed. Good luck!

Please do not go with your partner it will only hurt you instead. Your partner disregards your feelings.

Hello Not sure how close the two of you are if it was me I would not go, I would not put myself in any uncomfortable situation when it can be avoided, your partner is wrong especially since you stated you were not aware the relationship was open, move on my friend, who needs that. Thanks for sharing, hope things will work out for the best for you in the future.

First, did you guys set any ground rules on special days or arrangements? If there was none and he is not sensitive to your needs, is he really worth the effort? Is this type of relationship that is right for you? Are you more emotionally involved than he is? I mean, I do not know much about these types of relationships but in any relationship each should person should know where they stand, what to expect from their partners, and what is expected form them. At the very least common courtesy. Can you handle going on the trip that set for you knowing you will have to be without him? Or maybe bring another person with you while he is with this other person. It sounds like he really hurt you and you need to take care of you before you can deal with another person. Just ask yourself what do you want and tell him how you feel about the whole situation. Any relationship is hard to maintain when one person is not happy. You deserve to be happy. Best wishes and take care.