why do parents get angry when someone else spank their child?

I believe in spanking, but no one better a lay a HAND on my kid. That is not for anyone else to do. I think a big part of the problem today is that children don't get spanked anymore. The authorities stick their noses where they don't belong, so now people are afraid to discipline their children. Even the kids know, I have heard kids threaten to call SRS on their parents. Now I'm not saying beat your kid, but physical discipline has its place. But that is not for schools and teachers to do, although I would gladly give my permission, no one does it these days.

Where I come from it is illegal for a parent to hit a child around the head, even though I see people do it in public all the time. It is also illegal to hit a child in school if you are a teacher. If anyone else ever spanked my children I would be mortified. I don't agree with smacking in the first place, so if I don't do it to my own children I don't expect anyone else to do it either and that includes grandparents and other family members.

No because it different a parent (Legal Guardian of said kid) has certain rights to punish there kid. You can spank a kid as long as it doesn't leave marks and a bunch of other things. Teachers or Non Guardians/Parents are not allowed to hit the children because they have no legal responsibility to the kid except to keep them safe and maintain an safe environment. Foster Parents are also not allowed to hit there "kids" because of the fact the legally they are not the Guardians of those kids the DHS Case worker is so yeah that is the legal side of things. Parents get angry because that isn't the said persons job to punish there kid even if the kid is being a pain in the you know what. Also teachers are suppose to maintain a Professional Relationship with students which would no be spanking them for something they did wrong.

Hi, ksmita. I am a parent of three and I don't like it when someone else spanks on my child. Even with my own sister, I don't... I don't like when she hits my child without getting my permission. I don't like it when my grandmother hits my child either. Nor my mother-in-law, whom takes pride in spanking.. I don't want the school to lay a hand on my child either. That is just how I am. People take this position of spanking and they abuse it. So, nobody but me and their father should be given permission to spank their own child.

Disciplining children has become a complex term through the ages. Most don't agree with spanking their children but I think a kid needs to be taught a lesson that way once. I know I was, and I knew I had it coming because I did something. While there are kids with slow temperament that can be easily disciplined, other children might need more than simple reprimand. I say kids need to be spanked but not be brutally hurt, physically. As for why parents get angry when someone else spanks their child, I think it makes parents think that that someone else who spanks their child think they are not good parents (so sorry for the bad sentence construction). It is the duty of the parents to discipline their children. If people other than them discipline their children, it would seem like they are not good parents who can't handle and can't discipline their own children. Also, it's like personal space that other people must not invade.

I also spanked my son if he did or say something bad,.and as a mother I have all the right to discipline my son, its for him to realize and learn the things that he shouldn't do..I think its normal to every parents to get mad if someone's spanked their children..even grandparents,aunt,uncle and teachers are not allowed to spank cos they do not have the right to do so.

I trust, a kid should never be physically punished. Physical punishments cause humiliation of a kid's mind. I wonder, how some people expect their little kids to see the things from their points of view and when they (the kids) fail in that these people don't hesitate to slap them. That is awful! I have heard that there a few countries where anyone (even parents) who harms a child, is punished. I wish my country had such laws too, because I have taken a lot of beating till I was with my parents. I get frightful dreams of being beaten by my parents even to this day. It is natural for a mom or dad to feel irritated, if their kids are slapped by the teachers. Many of the parents in our country treat their kids as their personal property. Their ego goes high with the kid's achievements. They forget that these young buds also have minds and feelings and emotions. They try to be protective and when the young mind rebels, they punish them. I think all the newly weds should go through the 'parent psychology' course.

I would be extremely upset of my childs teacher spanked my child at school. It is not their responsibility to displine my child in that manner. If either one of my children did something that bad that required a spanking then the teacher needs to call me immediately and I will handle the problem. I am the only one that gives my child a spanking, no matter what. I do not think that parents should not be arrested (with the exception of extreme cases.) When I was younger the teacher would call my parents at work or home and tell them what I had done, and my parents would come to the school to discipline me or waited til they picked me up. I personally think that is not the teachers place, I would rather them discipline them in other ways and if they are that unruly sent them to the office and have their parents contacted.

Hi ksmita, I don't judge the parents who do use spanking as a means of discipline. I did not use it to discipline my girls. I would be furious if a teacher took it upon themselves to get physically aggressive with any one of my children. If my child acted out in school they should be sent to the principals office and I would be notified and discipline my child as I see fit. The school can give them a detention or suspension but they had better not lay a hand on my child. It's not their place to make that choice. These days more parents are using alternative means of discipline that don't involve physical punishment. In the states, it is actually illegal for a teacher or caregiver to physically punish a child.

I dont have children but do not agree with smacking. I think it is difficult to teach children not to hit if they are being hit themselves. I do understand however that parents can sometimes "snap" under stressful situations like if they feel the child is in danger (about to touch a hot kettle e.g.) I do not however think it is an any way responsible for anyone to smack a child who is not their own.

where I live it is illegal for even the parents to spank their kids or it was at least when I was a child. Someone told me they recently made it legal as long as you don't leave marks but I'm not buying that crap for a second. Either way spanking is not the end all and be all of punishment and it has no effect what soever on some kids. I expect these teachers are trained in dealing with children who are not their own. If spanking is the only thing they can think of then they don't need to seek another career field because they're obviously to dumb for that one.

I believe spanking is not the way to punish your children, children are human too they have reason for every act they did, as grown up person you will very hate someone who spank you, just talk to them, ask to go their room, no dinner, or no money for a week, and if anything not work go to expert to get help. Spanking also hurt child body, they just children with fragile body and still grow up, i don't wanna anyone lay their hand on my children. If you spank your children they will think its ok to spank the person who they don't like/ make mistake to them.

My dad would hit me every time I got out of line. He would always apologize shortly after, and I understood that is how my family is, a tough family, and my grandpa was a steelworker(cheated him out of his benefits when it went under, cheap boys disguised as men payed some people full until money ran out, 30 years and a union, but nothing to do it was all legal jazz by then), and great grandfather from Italy a coal miner. My dad was in the military(U.S) so I understand being tough. Teachers do not hit the students anymore in the US, i don't know maybe the feminists are to blame ;) they had physical discipline when my dad was a kid also but it is gone now.

I think for parents they should more think about children's feelings, but for teachers, the rules are more important,because there are too many students in one class and teachers really can't think about everyone's feeling for sometimes.

I slapped my daughter twice but I have never spanked my son. I felt so terrible after slapping my daughter I vowed I would never do it again and I havent. I know a lot of parents who are anti-spanking and many that do spank their kids. I am totally against spanking I dont think it helps at all. I think it teaches them that its ok to be violent. I would be furious if anyone spanked my children and that includes teachers or any care giver.

Well first off theres a big difference between spanking a child, and child abuse. and when it comes to punishing a child I do think its ok if a teacher or other authority figures punishes the child but not physically only by taking privilege's away or calling the childs parents, not spanking or striking the child in any form. I think that parents should make those decisions or close relatives, not strangers, teachers, or friends. if the parent feels that spanking the child is necessary and the form of punishment for them, then thats there right as long as the child is not bruised or battered or seriously hurt I'm talking about mild spankings, not beating or abusing. but as for other people outside of family spanking the child No! I dont have kids but if I did, I would not feel comfortable with the teacher or friend spanking my child. I dont mind some other form of punishment if my kid did something wrong for example taking certain privilege's or no play time, somthing like that. but no one should have the right to spank a child but the parent. besides, who knows for sure if the persion giving the spaking did it properly, and the authority figure didn't get carried away or go overboard. I think thats why a lot of parents dont like it when other authority figures spank there kids, another reason is not all parents agree with giving there child a spanking to punish bad behaviour, some parents prefer time outs instead. and who knows especially if the parent wasn't present during the so called spaking I dont think its safe to let strangers spank kids because not all outside authority figures are honest and righteous, just my opinion people are very sensitive about who punishes there child understandably so because some people use spankings as an excuse to abuse a child these days you just dont know for sure what peoples intentions are.

There is a big difference between parents and teachers when it comes to children. With due respect to teachers their bond with a child is not as strong as it is with a mother and that hitting could be for diffent reasons - perhaps to vent out their own frustration. This sure is a no no as teachers are trained to handle children in ways that do not include hitting.

There have been some positions taken in the past about smacking or not kids. I personally that now and then when a kid doesn't behave should get a soft smacking, nothing that will hurt the kid too much. And sometimes parents should do that, but only when it's deserved, but even then i do not agree with other people smacking other people's children, It becomes difficult for me to explain, probably the answer lies in nature, we all know how some animals can get agressive when it comes to their little ones.. so I would get pretty angry if someone would hit my children.

You don't touch or assault another person's child, you can get arrested.

Parents get angry once their child is spank by someone because they love their child. They would also feel the pain. But, for some good reason a child could be spank once they cannot be taught by speaking to them. Because, others will be disciplined that way. It does not mean that we have to do it everyday. At least once in their life as long as it is not abusively done.