People say they like honest people,but how many can really handle the truth

there is a big difference in being honest when ASKED for an oppinion.. and just being cruel and hiding behind the guise of "always honest". no one wants unsolicited comments or advice.. so just randomly saying to someone, gee.. youve gained a whole lot of weight.. to hurt them and then responding to their pain with a casual" hey, im honest!" is just rather inhuman. but i think most folks, when they REQUEST input.. really want the honest reply. i know i do, or i wouldnt ask for it

There is truth - and there is truth. I admire truth, but there is a difference between blurting out a truth which although true, is unkind, unnecessary, unasked for and hurtful - and truth that is spoken in kindness for the good of the person and often in response to a request for advice or opinion. Truth, tact and kindness should be partners.

Personally this is why I think there are some things out there in life that are better left alone, and really not to be discussed. When it comes to issues like weight especially this is something that can be hurtful and detrimental to some and especially if it is in name calling, etc. Because I personally feel that too many people are made to think being a skinny 110 pd 5' 8" model is the role model for all women and if you are not that you are too thin. But personally it offends most people when they are feeling like everyone is picking on them, and a self esteem hurter as well.

I believe that honesty is good, but there's such a thing as being honest and being unnecessarily rude. I don't really care if people point out things about me. Yes, I'm overweight and need to lose weight. I know that sometimes my hair is nasty or doesn't look good, I have acne, etc. I don't care if you say what you're thinking, most times, but it's about how you say it. If you point it out, that's fine, but don't ridicule someone for it, be nasty about it, etc. That's not honesty.

Always honest people are loved and regarded,and are also respected by many. To be honest is something very difficult in this world now a days. But-still some are there. The only practical thing I have observed that these people are not getting their true benefits.Only their honesty is being exploited and because of their sincerity they shut their mouths. Very Bad to see this..

lol , that's why when someone asks me to tell the truth i yell "you can't handle the truth" =)

I can handle the truth long as it really is that. Don't sit there and lie up a storm and expect me to believe the crap spewing outta your mouth either. Most times, I can tell when a person is lying and will react accordingly.

This is a tricky one. I say Im fat (because I beleive I am) and others say Im not and that annoys me but it would really hurt me if someone agreed with me! I know that sounds so wrong. I would never tell someone they were fat even if they were. I would maybe say it in a polite way if they really wnated me to be honest however. Im not sure. Sometimes being truthful can hurt someones feelings so is it really worth it?

I haven't found a lot of true honesty in my experience. I seem to be one of few that are honest. I find it disconcerting, when asking someone for an honest response, that they hide the truth for varying reasons. Many hide behind the story that they didn't want to hurt your feelings, but I would rather hear the truth when I ask for it, then some shady lie. I mean, when I ask, "Do these pants make my butt look fat", I really want to know. Only a REAL friend seems to want to answer questions like that truly honestly. Acquaintances, not so much. They take the cowardly way out, to avoid conflict. Although, that said, there are ways to be honest, without being too hurtful, and mindful of other's feelings, but most people just can't be bothered, unfortunately.

I think that it is important to be honest the majority of the time. However, I would never say something to someone that would blatently hurt their feelings. What I mean is that I would be honest when directly asked a question about someone's appearance, but I wouldn't, however, volunteer to tell someone that they were fat, etc. That, I think is just a matter of being rude to someone. So, yes, I can handle the truth and I also know that the truth does hurt sometimes. Beyond that, I think that people need to be careful with the information that they choose to divulge.

I think people like others that are honest. However, those people cannot be too honest. They want the truth but they do not want the entire truth. They want a sugar coated and sanitized version of what the truth is. Which in many ways, that's not really the truth. You might as well be better off just blatantly lying through your teeth right to the person's face. Sadly, there are a lot of people who just simply cannot handle the truth. I have had experiences where people practically begged them to give them my absolute honest opinion. Unfortunately I caved in and my opinion was a bit too honest for their tastes. Suddenly, I am the villain, despite giving the person exactly what they want. Honesty is the best policy but there are times where you just have to hold back just enough not to offend.

I always say, if you are honest and hurting my feelings in the prosess, i can forgive you. But if you are pretending to be honest and still hurt me, there are going to be trouble. I want people to be straightforward and honest with me. TATA.