If You Found Out He is Gay Will you Still Stay?

if its a 7 years relationship then how come it took him that long before he could tell me his gay or i cant even notice anything during those years with him? anyway, if i love him and if i saw that his such a very responsible man and as long as he can promise me that he will not go to any man to man relationship then its alright with me. his still human anyway.

There are different levels of love. My friends love and adore me, but they are not in love with me. If my boyfriend of 7 years told me that he was gay, then I would have to doubt that he could be in love with me, so we could not continue to be a couple. Maybe, I am greedy, but in a couple-type relationship, I want it all and if he were gay, I could not have all of his heart in the way I should have. Does that make sense? A spousel type relationship requires loyalty of the heart and the body. He would have been cheating in his heart and mind, even if not physically. I would not stay in this relationship. I do not condone homosexuality. He could not be 100 per cent true to me in every aspect of a relationship. I would continue to stay in contact with him and pray for him, as we are suppose to hate the sin and love the sinner. We are not suppose to condemn the person, just the actions.

No matter how much I loved him that admission would be the end of our relationship. Really, how could it not be? Once someone tells you they aren't even interested in your gender how could an actual boyfriend/girlfriend relationship even exist? I think that maybe once some time had passed I would be able to be friends with him but I think it would take quite a while to get over the devastation of finding out someone you were romantically and sexually involved with (epecially for that long) was gay. It would feel like I'd been lied to for the last 7 years, which is a pretty major chunk of life.

I think that in the course of so many years he finally feels comfortable enough to tell you what he really wants. That no way in any shape or form says or corrects the hurt that a person would feel finding that out, but if you look long and deep into your heart; would you be holding onto him out of comfort for yourself, or would you be there for him as a person that understands him. I, myself, would be wounded, but if I really loved the person the I would understand that letting him go would be the best thing for both of us. Comfort in a relationship is a wonderful thing. BUT staying together for the wrong reasons isn't right for either of you. I say cherish the fact that he come to realize this and feels comfortable with the fact that he can share it with you. Hurt is hurt, but staying with a person for all the wrong reasons only builds up resentment. If you can remain friends, then more power to you. You are a better person then most, but I have to say again that if you both want different things out of a partner, it will never work in the long end. Sad that, but you know it's true.

I'm a little bit confused. He's gay but he loves me? What kind of love does he have for me exactly? I find it hard to believe that he can love me romantically if he's gay. That's why I don't think I'll be staying with him no matter how much I love him. I'd just be insecure all the time because I know that I could never fully satisfy him.

This is very heartbreaking for me. This just means that in that 7 year relationship of yours you cannot change what he really is-a gay. Even if you love him and still keep him, do you think you will be happy knowing that he is like that? or will he be happy living with you knowing that you are not the one he really looks for. I know a lot of gays who are married with women and they have a lot of child together, but the fact is the gay will eventually look or will find a man who can satisfy his "cravings" (forgive the word). Gays are always be gays, and girl, i know you want to have a full-pledge man with you. If you keep the relationship you will just be disappointed and eventually break it off. And lastly, this is from the gay friend of mine-he said the main reason why gays marry a woman its because they also want children and only a woman could give them that. They also want a family- but the real score is they really want men. (so expect cheating along the way). How's that?

a seven year relationship but dont know that the bf is g@y.you call that a relationship? either that girl is way too dumb or the guy is way too smart. as for the loving part,a genuine lover wont even think of another girl in the wrong way so i dont think he loves that girl.more of a crush. its best to have a clean break because the girl doesnt seems to know how to adjust and the guy got wandering eyes so a recipe for disaster. so quit it.

It is hard for me or for those in my culture

its a difficult situation to decide on, but there are different circumstances why things happen. I can accept that he is gay, but if he wanted to continue with our relationship, he must not engage in any affair with another guy. But if he chooses another guy, i don't mind being friends with him, after all, we've been together for 7 years. I appreciate his honesty of telling me that he is gay, but it will be a different story if I've known the information from other people.

sticking to the issue, yes i will. the guy remained loyal to me. we both loved each other, right? as long as there's no third party involved, will stay with him. :)

hi candy the bad thing to live with some one and descover he not in your way. alot of people do some thing that not in their nature. but the best is to cheque your friend ( exam hem) a wise man asked about a person if any know him, maney people told him yes. he asked them are you travel with him, are you relate with money, are you fall in problem and he helped you? all the people said no. then the wise man told them, there are no body know the man.

Speaking personally, it would be impossible for me to stay in the relationship in its present form. I don't think it would be fair to either me or the boyfriend. He should be true to himself and if he is gay, not be trying to hide it. The fact that he is gay and has only just told you, shows you that he has not been honest previously and honesty is the bedrock of all good relationships. If I still loved him and he still loved me, I would want to stay as very good friends but both of us should be free to follow our true nature and our true hearts.