Husband became househusband and wife go to office?
By siliguri
@siliguri (4241)
India
March 9, 2010 3:59am CST
What is wrong if it is happen husband will look after the house and wife go to office only....I don't know whats the people think in other country...but in our country..if it happen it became chaos in the society....nobody in our country appreciate this thing..i don't know why...What you think it is erroneous..or not...?
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28 responses
@homeshoppers (6166)
• Philippines
9 Mar 10
sometimes it happened if the girl got a degree while the husband is just a poor guy who did not even graduate as high school or any course. so it means that the girl have the capacity to find better job than the guy. or even if the two of them works but the girl got the most higher salary and once they have child and need someone to look after the child then of course they will talk about it and the husband will give up since his salary is not that big compare to the woman. its in the matter of choices so if they talk about it then its fine for them.
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@mavieserrano728 (670)
• Philippines
9 Mar 10
Hello siliguri. I don't find it erroneous if the husband stays at home and the wife goes to work. It really doesn't matter at all. It does not mean that only men are dictated by society to be a breadwinner and the wife is at home to take care of the kids. Life now is so hard and what matters most is that both of you are exerting hard to raise your family. Because before that used to be the trend, that men work and woman stay home. Reality bites, nothing in world is free. You have to work hard to live and harder if you want some material things. Nowadays we have to think more of practicality than just following what society is dictating.
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@saanjh (784)
• India
9 Mar 10
Where are you my friend it's also happening in our country and I think there is nothing to being surprise. You are talking about society where a women killed only for that reason because society thinks she is witch I can't appreciate that society, can you tell me who will run a widow's family do you think society will run her family never. so friend please don't think about this society because this society makes rule only for their self only.
@ashwinsasi (286)
• India
9 Mar 10
Nothing wrong in it as long as the husband and wife understand each other.In some cases the wife start taking control of everything and the husband become arrogant.This happen in some cases if the wife has better paid job too.Society has nothing to do with it.
@sasalove (1709)
• China
9 Mar 10
My husbands always kids me that if I got 30 thousand a month, then he will be the househusband. And I response," I am willing to provide the same service if you could earn that much.
I agree with ashwinsasi, it is not a big deal only if you both agreed your living mode. Some of the men are not willing to do the housework though he is not working; some of them will look after though he is a successful business man. Do not care too much about other's perspective.
I agree with ashwinsasi, it is not a big deal only if you both agreed your living mode. Some of the men are not willing to do the housework though he is not working; some of them will look after though he is a successful business man. Do not care too much about other's perspective.
@maryantilok (487)
• Singapore
9 Mar 10
it's very embarrassing that let the wife become the pillar in the family. As a man, he must give a proper life for the family and make the family feel that secure. anyway, i can't accept it.
i know nowadays nothing is impossible. black also can become white, but husband will never become wife.
@AcousticSoul (1309)
• United States
10 Mar 10
I would have to disagree, I believe most people don't like the ideal of a women bring home the bacon and a man tending to the children because society has brought us all up to believe a women's place is in the kitchen bare foot cooking and tending to the children. But times are drastically changing more and more women are reaching out into the world and becoming business owners and CEO of big corporations, when in the past women were only subjected to domestic jobs. In a family the ultimate goal is to take care of home in what ever way makes life easy and livable, if that means a women who has a good job who can take care of her and her husband without additional help I say go for it. it doesn't make him less than a man she just has the better job. and taking care of a home is hard work, for a women who stays home tends to the kids, pay the bills cook three meals a day clean and finds time to shop and go to the cleaners is a big job and a man is qualified to do the sam.
take for instance women celebrities, do you think their husbands work, of course not because the women celebrities are making lots of money.
I don't think its about a husband becoming a wife, just accepting different roles in the home
@maxsee212 (799)
• United States
9 Mar 10
as for me, i don't think there's anything wrong with the husband looking after the house and the wife goes out to work for a living for the family. for me, when i would have a wife of my own, i would like a wife that works for a living. i myself would like to work. i don't want to stay at home doing nothing. atleast for a more years while we are together building our relationship and deciding what we want to do with our lives, i would like the both of us to have jobs. anything can change when our circustances change like when having children in our household. either one can stay in the house and look after our children as long as there's food on the table for the family to survive. when it comes to life, it's about making decisions that can affect the lives of those who are involved and that means putting away pride to integrate logic in the family.
@jambi462 (4576)
• United States
10 Mar 10
I don't really see what the difference is between the man or the woman working as long as the bills are paid it shouldn't really matter. I would love to stay home and take care of my kids if I ever become a dad but the world is pretty demanding about money with rent and other bills.
@myfb2009 (8296)
• Malaysia
10 Mar 10
I think it's nothing wrong with this concept in this modern era. One of my father's friend, had decided to become a househusband, after seeing that his wife is able to earn more money than him. I remembered when i was young, i will saw my father's friend bring his children to school. Besides that, he told my father that, he will go home mop the floor and even cook for his children to eat. He's a great cook as well, that he ever invited us to eat together with them at their home. He and his wife don't have any problem adjusting to this kind of lifestyle. Actually, we seen them become more happy after the husband had decided to become a househusband.
@coolcoder (2018)
• United States
10 Mar 10
While it might work for some people, I would never even consider that being the way things are were I ever to get married. If my husband were physically able to go to work and to provide, and I had the chance to stay home, you'd better believe I'd go that route. I honestly can't respect men who are perfectly able to go to work deciding to stay home to be househusbands.
@allknowing (137770)
• India
9 Mar 10
If one makes an attempt to free oneself of society's clutches nothing should stand in the way of doing something that will help one's life. I find nothing wrong in switching roles or for that matter working together as a team capitalising on the talents of each other without attaching a gender to the tasks at hand!
@siliguri (4241)
• India
9 Mar 10
Yeah! i completely agree with you allknowing...there is nothing wrong if it is happen...They didn't doing anything wrong or illegal so why the society tease them .and it is good not to bother about them what they say or think. one should carry their work....thanks for the response...have a nice day...
@candyfairy21 (2039)
• Philippines
10 Mar 10
well normally the wife stays home and its the responsibility of the husband to raise the family and provide the family. The woman is a helpmate, but if this is the case don't let people get in your nerves probably this is a new idea to them. lol maybe we can create a new tv series called" Desperate Husbands" lol just kidding.
@besthope44 (12123)
• India
10 Mar 10
Hi..first of all, family is what we decide and find comfortable and convinient. Society is next part. Generally in India, hubbys work and wife remains at home. Due to economical situation, both work. Hubby do take care of house works. There is nothing wrong and about the society what it minds. It purely depends on whether it doesnot affect the egoism of hubby and wife relationship. If they are fine, then never care about society. It just critizes without understanding the logic and difficulties.
@tigerlily1972 (502)
• Germany
15 Mar 10
In some countries, some old norms of the old society still exists. These are handed from old volks down to the present generation. But then as time passed, some of these norms also changed. The younger generation are now more modern and more open minded compared to its fore fathers. Those who are raised with conservative parents also carry these conservative fore fathers norm in society.
The NOW generation finds the old fore fathers generation norm in society soemtimes ridiculous, sometimes funny and sometimes unbelieveable.
This husband-wife situation is one of the old norms. In the country where i have lived, this w"ife work husband stay home" situation was once frowned on. But as time changed, there are more & more families becoming like this, that the society slowly adopted the new norm. For those who happened to be in the "transformation time" had had difficulty. But now it is accepted.
@lingli_78 (12822)
• Australia
9 Mar 10
there is nothing wrong at all here in australia... in fact, i think it is happening quite a lot here... for me, as long as it is just for temporary and the couple understand each other, it should be fine... i kind of disagree if this is happening permanently though as like what the Bible says, the man should be the breadwinner and woman take care of the house and the children... may be i am a conservative person... but this is how i think... take care and have a nice day...
@zed_k4 (17589)
• Singapore
9 Mar 10
Hello there siliguri, I think that's quite alright, as long as the arrangement is agreeable between the couple in question. As long as they are alright with each of their individual roles and etc. Reminds me of the movie Mrs Doubtfire..now that sure is a lovely movie of all time.. amongst some others. Where Robin Williams plays the role of a house-husband, in a woman's costume*, so funny.
@mods196621 (3652)
• Philippines
9 Mar 10
There is nothing wrong of being a househusband. If this is happening to a couples well because they help each other. Sometimes the switching of working arrangement to one couple has the reason like the husband is not capable to work or he has sick or just waiting for the right time for a job. It happened to us ling time ago. But in matter of 3 mos only. It's okay a husband to be a househusband just for the meantime for them also to know the household chores and how the things gonna happened at home.
@cupkitties (7421)
• United States
9 Mar 10
Well where I am usually the husband and wife goes to work. Not saying its a perfect set up because you got women all about having equal rights yet they still expect a man to be rich and take complete care of them and you got men who demand that a woman have a job yet she must also be his home servant and balance the weight of the world on her shoulders at the same time. Ya'll can do it. Its going to take some time..or I should probably say LOTS of time because we've come along way over here but still have some kinks in our system.
@laura_lmaxi (678)
• United States
9 Mar 10
I have never favorite one person looking after the home and the other person working, for me both persons have to work, and look after the home, and the kids, it is not that much a matter of gender, it is a matter of both persons should work together as a team, and have their own professions. It is very important that each one succeed with their careers. So they both have things in common.
