how PAINFUL can a BREAK-UP be?

well first i admire your friend for loving his woman so dearly its almost stupid.. not that loving her is bad its just that as a man who happened to be so in love to this girl should have had some kind of clues that her woman isn't that into him that her love for him is shallow, and if you have a feeling that she will dump you anytime soon then prepare your self emotionally. just think that even if shes gone you will always ALWAYS find someone whos is much more better that this one=)

i think the wrong thing that your friend has done is that he loved TOO MUCH than the girl loved him. about your question, how painful can a break-up be, it depends on how serious a relationship was. i think what he has to do is just forget the girl because they really are not meant for each other okay? he should accept that. there are more girls around the world! and one more thing, tell him next time he shouldn't give HIS ALL.

I have been through it... I just posted my own story here... Such girls must be punished.. I tell you, I am going to get my revenge... If takes my life, I don't care... Your friend should do the same... Such girls can't make anyone happy and have no right to break someone's heart... Please go through my recently started discussion... Man, I have spent last night crying most of the time... And i am going to make her shade as many tears as I have shade... I will bring her all the unhappiness that she has brought to me... Revenge is a very degrading thing, but I am over that, I think... The pang of being good/bad, is past... What remains now is a lifeless body, a broken heart and a fire for the revenge... Please tell your friend that he is not the only one... He's not alone... I am with him, my prayers are with him... And he can get even, if he wants to... Happy myLotting!

I think break ups can be painful depending on how much you give everything. :D I experienced this once, when a guy courted me for a year and a half and when I already prepared myself to go steady with him, I found out he's already courting another girl. It was so painful because I really thought that he's the one, of course with his long and persistent courtship and his efforts on me. I already prepared myself for the risks of my family's disapproval but then things didn't work out between us. He may not be my first boyfriend, but our "break up" was really painful because he was my first love. It's been five years already and though I have move on, I still can't forget the pain. There are other guys who would court me, but when they leave it's not so painful because I'm not taking them seriously. So I guess it really depends on how much you love the person when you can say how painful a break-up can be.

A breakup can be very painful. It is not easy to make the mind accept that you are in the situation. I also feel that there is no point in worrying about somebody who doesn't want you. I adviced one of my friend who had gone thorugh a hard break up stating the above fact. But, she said that I understand the feeling only when somebody ditches me.

it seems to me that the girl doesn't really truly love the guy. it was such a petty thing for a break-up. my point pf view is that that girl was only waiting for the right timing to break up with the guy.. or maybe she's just waiting for the guy to make an error and that would be the time she can escape or get out of the relationship. ... believe me, no matter how big the error or mistake the guy would commit, the girl would not just break him up that easy, IF she truly loves him. in this case, i should say that love has been missing. break-up can truly ever really be painful. when I had it last year, i wrote it all here in mylot, it was so entirely devastating i thought it was the end of the world for me!!!! no matter how friends console you, tell you how to move on, do this and do that, and all other things, but really, ONE HAS TO BEAR THE PAIN. and IT TAKES TIME to heal the wound. even if you say, i want to move on and it may seem that you have move on though, months after the break-up, one will still feel the pain. the pain of rejection, of being left out, of being left alone, of just being push aside... it is really, really, really hard. it takes a lot of courage, and self-assessment and the decision to take a stand to move on and never look back. to be able to overcome it. of course I assume here that the relationship was really serious for the person to be get hurt really hard.

There are plenty of fish in the sea. It is easier said than done. It is easier to say to someone to forget about somebody than actually trying to forget that person. It is hard to love someone and be neglected, and your love is not returned back. However, these things can happen and love should be mutual. If it is one sided it is not love. it is something else. Your friend seems to be unlucky to have met someone who does not truly love him. It seems she had already another suitor in case things did not work out with him. I don't think that love should be based on money. One can meet for valentine's day without giving expensive gifts. If you love someone, what matters most is his or her company not the gifts he or she may give.

I always found break ups really hard. I went through a bad break up when I was younger and it was terrible. I wanted to get back together so bad but knew that I couldn't. I didn't understand why it hurt so much and why I had to go through that much pain. Even physically I hurt because of it. i thought I would never be able to think of our time together without saddeness ever again. But time really did heal me and I was able to move on with new relationships. What I found was that going through such a bad break up prepared me to "real" breaks ups in the future. I knew that I would get over them and that I would be able to love again. I don't go through such heart ache when a relationship doesn't work. The down fall though is that I don't fall so hard for people anymore. Though I can really like being with you, it doesn't mean we are supposed to or will be together forever. So I suppose I am a bit jaded too which isn't so fun. But all in all everything does work out in the end, it is just hard to see it when you are hurting.

I am not good with breakups. I brood. And I do beg and ask forgiveness. But one thing I always do is make sure I show the girl why I should be back with her. Sad to say, but sometimes chocolates and jewelery aren't enough. Perhaps your friend should do something public, perhaps in front of her friends.