I'm finally free

Good for you.I think that it is a shock when you see a person for what they really are as well as if you had been thinking you were being used for a while it still is a nasty blow when it is confirmed.I think that now that you have seen the person for what they are this will help you to be strong and not to reverse and have them back.Good luck for the future.

Wow, I think you were very brave for sharing that (even though it was a year ago). You really opened up and let a painful part of your life out which takes courage. I am sure if you read this post again, you can look back and appreciate all of the lessons learned. One thing about living, we all have experiences that are good and bad, but usually if we can let go and decompress, we can learn something about ourselves and humanity, in the process.

Hi. Masihi. I am very sorry that you had to block this person. When a person no longer means you any good in your life, sometimes, you will have to leave them alone. Or remove them privately from your life. I had to do this with my 2nd cousin on Facebook. She kept on playing these silly and immature games with me. She would make a comment and I knew what she was trying to do. She was upset because I told her that her sister looked like their aunt. She said that everyone has always told her that she looked like her own sister. Then she went onto telling me that she just had to bring it to my attention. Whatever! That is why she has been blocked by me and my sister for being so darn childish as an over 50 years old woman!

me and my wife, had been from another relationship that we were able to get free, before we met for the first time. today, we can still have communications with our formers, but we are now happy with each other. be strong, is that i can tell you. good luck.

I just happened to come across your posting while searching for something else and I must say I applaud you for doing what you felt was necessary once you realized what was happening. The fact that you feel a weight has been lifted lets you know you are doing the right thing even though it hurt. I love your words "I am finally free". Trust me, there are a lot of people who would love to be in your shoes, even if they had to hurt a while. I am one of them. I am near getting my freedom, but in the meantime it is a daily nightmare. I am happy to know someone has made it. You have to stay strong and stick to it so that you don't become a victim again.

I gues my 2 cents worth would be that there is a lesson there for you,if anything it may make you more alert to pretenses and genuine sincerity having been burnt by a experience,yourself. That s what i suggest,dont erase it totally from your mind,besides learning from how to recognize falsity,you may just be able to alert or caution another if you recognize certain similar circumstance happening to another person you know Life is essentially a school of tough knocks and personal experience the best educator!

Hi! I have been treated that way too by a lot of people. I try to be honest and truthful and good to other people and it is just easy for me to assume that other people are that way to, although I do know better. I promise that I will never use you and will try to be your loyal friend. Albert

Dear Masihi, don't cry.......you are not the only one who has gone through this, we all are human beings with that tricky heart inside us who rules our brain.......and indeed life is a harsh teacher, I learnt my lesson some years ago and you learnt it today....we all do. Mashihi, it is only a matter of time, soon you will learn to smile again.......everything will be fine. Have faith in God...life goes on.....feel proud about what you did today because today you are really matured.....

Hi Masihi, I'm not sure I'm following you right here. HE is using you and yet you are saying that you don't deserve him because he's put up with a lot with you?? It sounds to me as if he does not deserve you. I guess I'd have to know more of what led up to the end of your friendship but from what you wrote here it sounds as if ending the friendship is good idea.

Hi Masihi! It's very much all right to vent so that you could release that tension inside you. I too have been a trusting person but this person did not live up to the trust I gave him. He has been a nuisance and so I blocked him too. Yours was more difficult because I see you two have been close, only to find out he was using you. Yes, life's experiences are actually the best teachers. I hope you recover from this incident. You are lucky to have your family supporting you all the way. Take care!

you are right, it was a great step. People make mistakes so they can have a learn from there. i believe you can survive, no matter if someone rear on you. be strong..

It is better you could gain your freedom and you make yourself brave by keeping yourself aware of the abuses and certainly you have a way to stop it. S your decision is only right and I greatly admire you for taking those step.

Hello Masihi. Like you I have been taken advantaged by people close to me before. Sometimes you just can't help it. You think you're helping someone, the next minute you realized you've just been used. Good for you for making the first step in making that decision. However tough it is, you know that you're on your way! Good luck!

I guess I can only say congrats to you if you feel like it...Sometimes I feel that it's I'll be better without a certain person..but of course to just really avoiding him would be tough in a way.

Are you sure that you wree being used? Is this someone you know in "real life" or just on internet? If you have heard from someone else that he has been using you then Id be wary.

I cannot say that I know what you feel. But I can say that I understand why you feel that way... It just shows that you are a "kindred" Most people once shown with kindness gets blinded right away. Especially people who doesn't have bad blood in them. Kindness is kindness. They wouldn't even suspect that probably that kindness being shown them is not really genuine. I guess that was what happened to you. Happened to me many times. My wife would always shake me up. Snap me back to reality. She always tell me that, first I have to ask myself why the person is being kind to me. That probably the person has an ulterior motive. I used to not care about those things. Kindness for me, once given is plain kindness. I don't think of other reasons because that's how I am. That's how I work it. Thank God we have spouses who look after us when we get too blinded. Cheers!