getting married because she's pregnant?

Oh no. Not a good idea. The kid would only suffer the consequences because he will be more of an obligation to both parties. Instead of growing in a loving environment, the child would grow up knowing that he is indebted to both his parents.

i think for a man who has made their girl friend to get pregnant should take responsible to their action , even the man is not ready for the wedding yet but how about the girl and the baby . it is just irresponsible ,

I think it is a bad idea to get pregnant before marriage. Why to do acts that will land you in trouble? I will never have done that had I been a girl. Marriage is a safe turn in life where you can get physical with your mate. And if you are not ready to wait till you get married to have the physical things going, then I think you should at least marry off or do not worry about marriage if you get pregnant before marriage.

i am not against the idea but i dont think that you should make that decision because you have a child together. It should be because you both love each other.

Yes of course.Just understand the girl's position.It is very bad if she is pregnant without marriage.The society will make her feel very bad about this.And if you are good lover and feel the way what she feels then you should marry.Otherwise you would not have done with her..and this situation should not come to a girl.The boys should think before what they are doing...and should not leave the new born baby without initials...

Getting married because a girl is pregnant would be a decision both parties would have to talk about. if they feel that they could raise the kid in a good enough matter yet feel that their relationship isn't a point that they would have to go up to that kind of commitment then by all means they should go for it. What's important in this situation is the responsibility the father will be bearing since it's a given that the mother will be there for the child. If the father fulfills his role properly and is able to fully nurture the child then i don't think marriage will be an issue.

I do not agree with this. I myself am in this boat right now. I am almost 8 months pregnant and my BF and I live together. I refuse to get married at least until after I am pregnant but that is my choice. I would NEVER get married just because I got pregnant. We are getting married because we love eachother not because we are having a baby. You have to do what is right for you and if your not ready for marriage than you shouldn't do it just to make someone else happy.

I think that it is a good idea to get married if you are totally in love and are fully compatible with one another. I don't think it is a sensible idea to get married just because the lady is pregnant. If a relationship is shaky getting married won't cement it. If a marriage doesn't go well divorce is the answer and that can hurt a child greatly in the two years after their parents split. A lady and a man have to be ready to get married. If a wedding is rushed into the couple might make a mistake. These days it is acceptable to be a single mother or for a lady to date a man instead of live with or marry him. A father can be a good parent from afar.

I do not agree with the statement that the girl should married because are pregnant. It is because it should not be a life style and would destroy holy married which is show a good norm and value. The good mother would born a good child but i am not say that bad mother born a bad child too because the children are not guilty. However it is bad value or norm and could destroy our married institution if we let woman and man married just because the woman is pregnant.

No i do not think that getting married is a good idea all because the person is pregnant.There are alot of familys that are out there that are not married bringing up children and they are fine.There are also alot of people that get married only to find out that even with a child the relationship will not work out.Noone should get married only for the reason there will be a baby and neither should they rush into a marriage.

I really think it depends on how deep the relationship is. I think it really depends on both parties because if the other one is not prepared and the other is then it might turn out not so good. I have a few of my close friends who got married but had a rough start but later on got back with each other. of course you have to give the relationship a chance if for example you got married just for the sake of it. If one party gives up easily then definitely it will not turn out good. All I can say is if you are not ready then do not get married for the mean time and maybe get married down the line after the child comes out or whatever.

Most definitely not. For me, the only reason to get married is when two people love each other so much that they cannot see themselves without the other in the future. Getting married just because the girl is pregnant is a recipe for disaster unless they love each other anyway and the pregnancy was just a delightful mistake.

for me ,as i am a female ,i think this is a issue of responsibility. every men should protect his girlfriend .sure,if just like do it so freely,i can not say anything . but if someone pregnant ,maybe get married will be the best choice to solve problem.

It is not a bad idea if we get married if the girl is pregnant as long as they are both in love and sure of each other. But the problem is when the family of one side insist to have a marriage just because they dont want people around them talks about the situation. For me i even though my wife is pregnant and her parents already knew our relationship but they respect my decision that we will get married after the pregnancy. We both love each other but we do not want to rush things out and plan every details about the wedding. We want to have a great wedding and most importantly we are ready for it. God bless

This is based on what is best for the child. Problem is, people tend to get so wrapped around themselves or the relationship because they're not yet fully mature or prepared. If you and your partner can make the relationship work out and keep it without resentments, yes, you should get married. I've seen it happen, it has worked out for the best for other families. If it will just hurt you, your partner, or your baby then don't- you must consider the effect of your relationship will have on the child. I wish you the best of luck.