Is it spoiling

Babies cry for different reasons. Some cry because they are hungry, others cry because they are uncomfortable. Besides, babies cry when they need attention. Before you decide to pick the baby up, find out the reason, why is it crying? Touch the stomach to see if it is empty. May be it is quite long since you gave it its last feed. See if the baby is wet and she needs a change, or it simply wants an attention. You can even try to dangle a toy to draw baby's attention to it. Even then, if it does not stop crying then pick the baby up. Babies too can learn to twist their mother around their little finger. That is the reason we see some babies messing up just while the mom is sitting to eat. The baby knows this would aggravate the mother and baby loves to see that. Picking up the baby every time it cries definitely is going to spoil it. Therefore, it is always better to go gradually to see why it is crying. You cannot just leave the baby crying thinking it would stop on its own. The baby in that case would begin to feel unwanted. Remember, it needs your love and attention, and therefore, give it to him or her at the time it needs it the most.

Ah yes. everybody wants to rule the world.Kiddies do start at a very young age. Yes, parents need to outthink their kids.Parenting is also a learning experience. Some have to learn the hard way.I can see it now.The kids won't leave home til they are 60. How can they if they are never allowed to handle a few things on their own. Stuck to their hip?????Not a good thing.

I saw an episode of Super Nanny Jo Frost when she helped a family with two year old twins. That mother had picked them up every time they cried. This resulted in them making themselves sick if she didn't submit and pick them up. A baby can cry for attention and not just to be fed, have the diaper changed or similar. I think you are right for not picking your baby daughter up constantly. Baby girls can be demanding with the crying more than baby boys are. My daughter, Amber, has a short attention span and likes to fed very often a bottle of soy milk. I love my baby girl and know when she needs help. Then I go and pick her up. If I did that every time she moaned I would be spoiling her. Babies are cute and siblings can want to hold for cuddles. Good luck.

Yes, I think it will be spoiling her. My nephew wasn't carried all the time in our home but was done so in the home of my brother's in-laws. He can't sleep without anyone carrying him there, but when he's here and no one would really give him the full attention, he learned that he can't get his way. I think picking up the baby every time he/she cries would create a habit for her to do so when she wants attention. Besides, it's good to let these babies cry once in a while to exercise and expand his lungs.

I think it's o.k. to pick a 3 month old up a lot but maybe wait a few minutes and let her cry. This way she'll learn how to console herself. There's no such thing as too much love for a baby that young. Still we have to teach them how to comfort themselves too.

Hi, evasmom09. I do not think picking up the baby when he cries at this age is spoiling. From my experience, the first 3 months after birth, baby cries a lot. We need to find out the reason why the baby cries. We need to check whether baby needs a diaper change, is baby hungry, is the baby feeling hot or cold, or he only needs our cuddles. There is another reason that makes the baby cries the most - colic. Colic normally will be gone after 3 months.Normally we cannot do anything about it. What we can do to ease the pain is massage her tummy, bicycle her legs, and burp her every time she drinks the milk. It's ok to pick the baby up at this super young age. Remember, the baby was just born and the world is still NEW for her. It's normal that she needs our care and hugs...she needs to feel us and be calmed and feel safe. Do not worry about she won't be independent, she will be ready for it when it's the right time. I believe that a baby who feel satisfied and safe would be more independent when they are grown up. Have a nice day and happy mylotting!

Hi Evasmom, It's one of the hard things to grow up kids. They are making parents servant.It's hard to find a good not crying baby. if you want your baby be smart let them cry. I don't think you like lazy baby of yours. It's one of your experience in life. Let enjoy being a mum. Thanks, take care of your kids, play with them, they bring smile to you. They are God.

Its not spoiling when they are this young. My husband thinks it is, but its not. My babys doctor said it is fine, sometimes babys cry because they want attention or what to be comforted. This is normal, but if your baby is crying all the time I would advoid picking them up, maybe try a diaper change or a bottle to calm the baby down, thats what I try to do instead of always picking her up.

Is it spoiling them? Yes, it probably is, but this phase of their life only lasts for a very short time. Pick them up and hold them as much as you can because it won't be long until you want so bad to hold them but can't. Savor every second.