What would you do if you have cancer?
By candyfairy21
@candyfairy21 (2039)
Philippines
March 16, 2010 5:36am CST
hi friends,
What would you do if you have terminal illness like cancer? How would you think you would react? Cancer stole my dad from me and I'm not ashamed to say I miss him every single day. But daddy took it well when he found out he had cancer. I never heard him complained one bit even when he was in pain. He fought so bravely until the end. As his daughter I am high risk of getting cancer too, I've had cancer scare quite a few times already but thank God I survived. But right now I am scared I might have it and I have been dreading to see the doctor. I think that I would rather preserve the quality of life that I am enjoying and pass away quietly. I do not want to spend my last days in the hospital but I want to spend it doing meaningful things with my life or rather what's left of it. What about you? what would you do?
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18 responses
@jezzmay (1845)
• United States
17 Mar 10
I think I would fight it every way I could. I
believe God can heal, so I would be in prayer
a lot. I would read healing scriptures out
loud because the body responds to what it hears.
I would try to stay positive. I know it would
be hard, but if anything is worth having it is
worth fighting for. Life is worth fighting for.
@candyfairy21 (2039)
• Philippines
17 Mar 10
hi jeezmay,
glad to see you in here. Yes that is right, claiming God's promises in our lives is one way of beating the odds. I am all out for this but in case God won't heal me He must have a better reason not because He is a liar when he does not keep his promise. I know many people struggled with it and they become angry. But a personal revelation to me about living life in abundance does not only mean l\we are abundant when we have more than enough or when our bodies are disease free but to live life abundantly means that you are above your present situation and making the most out of it while drawing strength from the One source of strength and that is God. Whether we get healed or not We are not shaken but continue to live our lives to the fullest until the end.
@candyfairy21 (2039)
• Philippines
17 Mar 10
Yup you are perfectly right basqui! Not that I would not want to spend a dime if any of my family would ask me if they have it but for myself I'd like it to be just that way... pas away peacefully, maybe just supportive treatment for the pain but that would be all.
@lingli_78 (12822)
• Australia
16 Mar 10
first of all, my deepest condolences to you for the lost of your father... losing a loved one is never easy and i hope you will get over your grieving period soon... now to answer your question, if i were to be diagnosed with cancer, i will try to live my life to the fullest and get the medications that will be needed to cure me... as a Christian, i trust in God whole-heartedly and i believe that my life belongs to Him... so when it is time for Him to call me back, i will gladly go back to Him knowing that i had lived my life to my fullest... take care and have a nice day...
@candyfairy21 (2039)
• Philippines
17 Mar 10
I'm not scared of dying because I know I have a big God but I am most concerned about living my daily life. You know how our families would normally react when they find out you have cancer and that is to confine you in the hospital. That would be something I would not do or allow them to do to me. I would like to live a normal life as possible. I do not want to be hooked on to respirators, IV's and all. I've had enough of it to last me a life time. So in my last days I'd like to live for myself and how I want to live it and my not what the family wants for me.
@harmonee (1228)
• United States
16 Mar 10
I would fight it. Tooth and nail I would want to live to see my son grow up and to experience everything I want to do. I would keep my head up though. It's nobody's fault if I get cancer and it's not really their problem. I would try to be like your father. Keep quiet about the pain. I would know that my family is suffering too and I wouldn't want them to feel even worse because I am uncomfortable.
@candyfairy21 (2039)
• Philippines
17 Mar 10
Yes we all want to keep the pain in, in my dad's case he did but since we were pretty close and the bond we had was so strong, stronger than that of anyone in the house aside from my mom, no words were needed for me to feel his pain. He tried to hide it so much but I could feel his pain, in his presence I didn't show signs of weakness but when I go back to my place where I was alone I would cry endlessly.In his presence I would lend him the strength and courage that he needed even when he tried to fake it, I just knew he felt scared on the inside. That was all that I could do.
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
18 Mar 10
If I were to find out that I had cancer, being the age that I am I would have to fight the good fight. I would have no choice at this time in my life but to undergo treatment, but I would also do everything in my power to maintain the quality of life that I am accustommed to. Now, if I was to learn that there was no way that I would be able to beat the cancer, then I would want to live out the rest of the days of my life at home. I don't want to die in a hospital, I want to die with some sort of dignity.
@candyfairy21 (2039)
• Philippines
18 Mar 10
I guess it's always the quality of life that matters. Dying with dignity not stripped of it. Lying in the hospital with all sorts of tubes attached into one's body is not preserving the quality of life. I'd rather stay out of the hospital just like you and live the best way I can.
@shawn5260 (53)
• China
17 Mar 10
candy,i am so sorry to hear these about you and your family!i think family affection is one of the most preciousness in our whole life,we will go through affection,friendship,and love in our life,you will find the one you love, and get the one love you, i think the most painful person is the one left, but not the one leave,if you would have terminal illness,and hve almost little time for life,i think the best present for your family is the memory of you!Maybe you could spend you last life with them and enjoy your little happy hours,do everything you can do for them, when they remind you somedays the would feel sweet but not painful, let the best memories company with them for the rest life, cause they would never forget you!
@candyfairy21 (2039)
• Philippines
17 Mar 10
yes shawn when we leave what we leave behind are the memories of who we were and what use0d to be. These memories will stay with them their whole lives and that's something no one can steal.
@gracie04 (4549)
• Philippines
16 Mar 10
If I would be diagnosed with terminal cancer, I would just keep mum about it.. i would not let my family/loved ones know about my illness.. you know, i don't want them to worry about me particularly my mom. my mom went through a lot of pains/hardships already and i don't want to be her another burden.. and just like you, i don't want to spend my last days in the hospital and seeing my family crying over me. i would just pray and ask God for strength so I could spend more time with them...
@gambamarcela (1011)
• Philippines
17 Mar 10
I would be delighted to have a terminal illness. Do you know why? At least I would be informed when will I die and where will I die (most likely in the hospital or at home).I'd rather die with illness rather than from murder, calamities and/or vehicular accidents. I really don't want to die with those means.Having an illness gives me relief.
@rahulchawla (26)
• India
17 Mar 10
hi candyfairy
i really felt sad to know about your dad. i know how it feels to you. because i have also lost my father. i lost him when i was 3 yrs old. i am not suffering from any such illness at present. but if i ever had cancer i would happily accept it. because i dont want to live anymore
@mandaragit1914 (1)
• Philippines
17 Mar 10
If i would have a cancer, i'll just relax, think positively, do what is right in order to survive, i'll go natural food diet, take food supplements and Vitamins like MEGA C the mother of all Vitamins. For me all diseases are curable and preventable.
@ethan_0508 (51)
•
16 Mar 10
what should i do if i have i will praise God! i will not afraid this kind of illness because I have a big God and i believed if i have this God touch me in a special way..what should i do is to trust Him and do my part as a believer. So all days i praise God and calm every thing has a purposed and God Knows our life.
@sinbaby (12)
• Romania
16 Mar 10
if i would have this terrible illness...i am sure in the 1 place i would tell no one...and i would try to stay as long as i can with my family my closest friends..and just live my life normally...and make an baby...it doesn't matter that maybe the child will kill me..but...an child makes the women complete..
@myshing (8)
• Philippines
17 Mar 10
Everyone has cancer cells some are inactive and some are active.If il be unfortunate,my cancer cells will be active.I wont spend a dime for my cancer treatment especially if its late stage.Unless of course i have so much money ,if not id rather spend my money and my time to my family,enjoy my remaining months with them.And just pass away peacefully.I dont want my last days in a cold hospital room with all the tentacles attached to my body.
@ronaldinu (12422)
• Malta
16 Mar 10
What would you do if you have cancer?
Spending more quality time with my beloved ones. Going for long walks with my family my wife and my son accompanied by our dog. Having a good meal, having a good laugh. I do understand that you can be at risk but do not let this be somoething that steals away your happinness. Just do regular check ups make sure to make a smear test, mammogram test leave everything else in God's hands. Eat healty food. Do some kind of exercise such as half an hour dialy walk.
@rukku786786 (57)
• India
16 Mar 10
If I had a cancer i'll not be nervous of the disease or i'ii never ask god why he has given me this disease.because i heve seen my dear ones suffering from this dreadful disease.i will be very strengthful and fight with this disease till my last breath.because this will be the god's wish of giving me this disease.