Would you take care of old relatives and let them stay with you?

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We are an extended family, so that means we have our relatives live with us, not all of them though but some of them. 4 years ago we had been surprised by our grandma's mom knocking on our gate, she was with another woman who acted as her companion/guide. We have not seen her for around 22 years, we hear from her once in a blue moon. Now she was on our front door gaunt looking and almost blind. She has aged so much since the last time we saw her. She never married and had no children, she helped raise one of her nieces but she (her niece)left and got married before she finished college and we have not heard from her in a very very long time too. Now my grandma's sister never mentioned to us she was coming or that she would be living with us. She just came one day and never left. We absorbed her and of course this means another mouth to feed and stretching our monthly income a little nit more. I was raised by my parents to take care of older family members but this particular one is a major league pain! She is hard to get along with and demands so much when she never spends a dime. All you could ever hear from her all day long is complains and nothing but complains. She is one ungrateful woman. I often get short tempered around her, as I have had enough of her whining and complaining. She demands that we give her money whenever she wants, and when she is given money she spends it on buying lottery tickets or gambling. She asks for money to have her hair dyed in the salon when she personally does not even have a savings account to buy her own stuff. When we give spending money to our grandma and my grandpa's sister she goes berserk and starts complaining that she is not being given enough and that she compares herself to the others. She is so da*n extravagant when we give her money, she treats almost everyone she even does not know and spends all the money all at once. When she wakes up in the morning usually at 6 am she starts opening the tv and she would not switch it off till she goes to bed. Did I mention she is blind? well she uses it like a radio. We gave her a radio a small one but she gave it to somebody else. She is seriously driving me nuts and often times I just ignore her so I won't get mad. She even meddles on how we spend our money and this one really makes me mad. I got so mad I told her to stop meddling with other people's money because it is none of her business. What I do with my money is my business. She is so nosy, she makes my head spin. So often times she asked us money because she wanted to do charity work! It made me choke in the middle of dinner! I could not help but blurt out that she was a charity case already and she wants to spend other people's income so she could have her own charity! I know it was harsh but I just could not hold it in anymore. We try to help almost everyone and she is one of them, we can't stretch it that much anymore. She can't appreciate the things we do for her. We shelter her, we feed her, we clothe her, we give her spending money when we have extra but to put up with her other demands is so much. It got to the point when we simply told her to stay with other relatives if she is not happy staying with us because that's the best we could do. Problem is other relatives would not accept her because of the kind of person she is. If there is a home for the aged nearby I would have placed her there for the sake of having a peace of mind. Besides I'm having health issues and in a lot of stress helping run the family biz I just can't take it anymore. Any suggestions on how to deal with this? Because I think I am pretty exhausted. The other thing that bites me is that she bites the hand that feeds her. She spread gossip about us to other people as if it were true. How could you deal with this?