Wedding "Thank You" Cards

I never really thought about it that way, but newlyweds are busy as well as everyone else. Other people really do understand that sending out those cards probably isn't the first thing on the list since a lot of couples have to move, and sometimes out of state or even out of the country. It's very understandable to have a reasonable amount of time to get all that done. I've been married a little over two years now and still haven't completely moved in lol. There's always something to get done! Thank goodness, that doesn't involve 'Thank you' cards anymore!

Donna, you're exactly right. My friends and family are very understanding as they were up until we got married in the first place. I'm sure they'd rather it be late than not at all to know how much they meant to us for participating in our special day. People just want to be remembered and thought of when they do something nice for a newly married couple. It's nice to be acknowledge when you put time into someone else and try to make a difference in their life.

Thank you, Kate. You are so thoughtful. This gives me hope that within the first year of marriage, it's considered good manners to make sure "Thank You's" are sent out within that time. If this is true - that we have a year - I will NOT use it as an excuse to procrastinate, but have a lot more hope that we still have three months or so before our year anniversary when we can have this all finished. I will be so glad to have this done! Thanks for your support and advice. You are sweet!

Thanks, friend. This is just what I needed to read!

I think it was all a matter of prioritizing. I really needed to get those cards done before I even opened the gifts...well, actually I'm sure I'd need to open them to find out what to thank everyone for, but you know what I mean. I should've given myself a better incentive to get them done rather than just keep putting it off. I hate procrastination, but I'm so guilty of it! Thanks to all of the encouragement I received here, I was able to finish all those cards, and now I'll never have to worry about that again!

"Better late than never," as they always say! You're right - people really do understand, as long as they get their card eventually.

Polly, you'll be happy to know that my hubby and I just celebrated our two-year wedding anniversary last month, and all the 'Thank You' cards are done! LOL They've been done for a year and some odd months now, actually. I also didn't let me sister make the same mistake I did. She's much more disorganized than I am, but I wouldn't let that one slip. She got married almost three months ago, and I told her no matter how busy she got that she needed to just get them done and over with! She's done just that, and she's so grateful for the advice from someone who knows! Speaking of procrastination, though, this is just crazy...my husband and I still don't have our wedding album and photos back from the photographer yet! We had friends of the family handle it, but still...that's a little long to have to wait for those. Oh well...maybe we'll have them by our five-year anniversary ha ha.

Actually yes, we do have the "Thank You" cards all made now. They have a photo of my hubby and I from the wedding with "Thank You" at the bottom. I can add a personalized note with each one too. I think people will appreciate it because it's like each person who took the time to participate in our special day will have their very own of our wedding photos! I love that idea.

Thanks so much! Yours is great advice, and I really appreciate the example as well! I just might use that as a starting script for the 'Thank You' notes, but go on to personalize each one since I know that's really important. Thanks again for your advice. I'd rather send them out late than not send them out at all because you're right - people will remember if we don't thank them!

You're very welcome, JJ4Ever and thank you too :)) I'm glad you found it helpful. Your post resonated with me when I read it because an ex-in law of mine, she and her husband never sent their printed thank you cards from their wedding. Not even one. They kept the box of cards around for years and it actually became a joke with them that they didn't thank anybody. Family members would ask "So when should we expect that thank you card then?" and they'd laugh it off. Sometimes, their reply was "Probably on our 10th anniversary." I don't think they realized that people weren't really joking in as much as they were letting them know that there had been expectations of appreciation at some point along the way (they got a LOT of gifts and money for their day). So, yes, people do remember. Good for you on having the resolve to get it all done

Wow, I can't believe they never sent any 'Thank you's' out! That really is kind of sad. That people were actually asking about it should've prompted them to at least make an effort. I couldn't joke about something like that. Those who attended our wedding or couldn't and still sent a gift anyway were so gracious to us. A lot of people helped us out when we were first married, and I'm really glad for that. I'm glad I just sucked it up and got it done. I think there should be a new rule that when a couple gets married, the groom has to take care of all the cards from now on! LOL - maybe that's not the greatest idea because it probably wouldn't ever get done that way either.

Thanks, HLC! I know you and your wife got married recently so this helps. We still haven't given out any wedding photos because we didn't get our pictures from our photographer until we were married seven months! (We got them about two months ago.) So wedding pictures for our family is another thing on my "To Do" list. (Our photographer was a friend of the family, and his father passed away shortly after we got married, so we tried to cut him a little slack!) We got all our pictures on CD about two months ago along with the proofs album. Our photographer still hasn't given us our official wedding album yet. I guess there are benefits to going with a professional! (LOL) Anyway, we'll get on that, too, but I think most of the procrastination on our pictures has been communication issues. So...I have yet to get that all cleared up. I sure have great advice for others who will be getting married in the future because I know what I did wrong that I will change if I could. Thanks again, though. We will definitely get those "Thank You's" out soon!