How Hard Is It To Shut Up?
@frontvisions101 (16043)
Philippines
March 20, 2010 12:24pm CST
really. how hard is it to not speak? have you ever experienced when someone you trusted told about something he should not be telling? it s not necessarily a secret. maybe something that could cause more trouble if others knew about it. thing is, my friend and i accidentally saw one of my other friends cheating on his girl. i told the friend that was with me to just keep quiet cuz it none of our biz. but guess what? the next day, he told my other friends what we saw and he was telling it like a PA system. i wanted to ducktape his mouth but it was too late. it s already out. he was even nagging me to tell the others that his story was true. i had no choice, i said it was true. he didn t even take the time to realize that one of the people he was telling was also a friend of the cheated girlfriend. really dumb decision.
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12 responses
@sheen13 (567)
• India
21 Mar 10
Keeping secrets is not very easy kind of thing for some people. If I am the only one who knows my friend's secret, then surely I won't leak it out as I know that my friend trusts me alot. But if my friends don't say me anything like to say or not about their secrets, I keep quit until and unless they say me to do something. In your case, I think that your friend is really dumb and has taken a dumb decision as well, how can he say to leak out his secret to anyone and thta too such a secret. And what's the most bad thing for him is that, the secret is also known by his girlfriend's friend. Happy mylotting!
@frontvisions101 (16043)
• Philippines
21 Mar 10
i totally agree with you on the -dumb- part. he s like a human without a brain, i m telling you. one time, he was eating a donut. kids ran by him and his donut fell on the sidewalk but he still ate it. and he somehow appeared proud of that. i know. dumb. nice insight though. thanks for sharing.
@apoljuice1 (730)
• Philippines
21 Mar 10
It's hard to shut up when the person feels the need to be "sikat", or the need to be a star. Since they are the "reliable source" that the story comes from, they might as well live up to it.
I can only say one thing. Your player of friend was really dumb to get caught cheating on his girlfriend. He was going to cheat anyway, he should've made sure he covered all exits. If he was seen in public doing something with another girl, then his cheating was a bomb waiting to explode. True, your telltale friend shouldn't have told. But I'm sure the girlfriend will been grateful to hear that the guy she was with was actually cheating on her, and hopefully save her sanity.
@frontvisions101 (16043)
• Philippines
21 Mar 10
True. but it s really a different story. let s say you saw a friend cheating on her boyfriend. would you tell the boyfriend, which is completely anonymous to you, that your friend is cheating on him??
@apoljuice1 (730)
• Philippines
22 Mar 10
Well, if you put it that way, I guess not. I wouldn't want to sell out my friend. But I'd definitely let my friend know that I saw her cheating on her guy! That's for sure!
@icegermany (2524)
• India
21 Mar 10
i can understand, it is really difficult to keep quite and we just cant share anything with others may be for any reason. if a person is something like me then it is even more difficult because i share all matters with my friends and also some with my husband but when we are useto to this kind of sharing habbit it is more difficult to be quite.
@frontvisions101 (16043)
• Philippines
21 Mar 10
yeah definitely. most habits are hard to beat. thanks for sharing.
@umit_umit (1984)
• India
21 Mar 10
Really,some have verbal isorder and keep on speaking some thing or the other!and are themselves a cartoon in front of everybody!and devulge all their nonsesnse!funny!thats why it has been said that,silence is golden!
@frontvisions101 (16043)
• Philippines
21 Mar 10
That s very true my friend. not uttering a single word and feeling a bit guilty is sometimes better than saying everything, being the star of the moment and yet making everyone else s lives worse.
@arreolabryan (856)
• Philippines
21 Mar 10
Like the Chinese speaking said. When you tell someone something. Now I know it, you know it, the heavens knows and the earth knows it. There will be 4 of you knowing it. Meaning when you tell someone something it is very hard too evade the chances that it will spill out sooner or later. If you don't want something to be known keep it to yourself.
@frontvisions101 (16043)
• Philippines
21 Mar 10
i would have kept it but, as stated in the description, my friend and i saw the incident at the same time.
@hanahyahya (3)
• Malaysia
21 Mar 10
It happens all the time. You dont have to feel guilty about it. I used to tell to my trusted friend some secrets that others should not know. At the end of the day, it just exploded like a nuke bomb.
We could never prevent it.
@frontvisions101 (16043)
• Philippines
21 Mar 10
i don t feel guilty about it. i feel irritated about it. and it really doesn t happen to me all the time. it happened a couple of times but like that s it for. i ve had enough.
@Margajoe (4747)
• Germany
20 Mar 10
Yes, it is hard to keep your month shut.
I know that problem.
But, in my case I would have told the lady that was cheated on.
That could cause a lot of trouble too.
Especially if she does not believe me. Love is blind, hahaha!
What would I want someone to do if they saw my BF with another women?
I would hope they tell me, or I would be wasting more of my time with the guy.
That is why I would talk.
In your friends situation, it is not nice involving people that have nothing to do with it.
@frontvisions101 (16043)
• Philippines
21 Mar 10
yeah but we re not really close with the girlfriend so it really doesn t matter to us.
@jugsjugs (12967)
•
20 Mar 10
Oh yes i know exactly what you are saying as i know two people that are like that and they seem to tell everyone everything about other peoples going ons even if the people do not know you they seem to tell all that will listen to them.When these people come to see me i only tell them what i want them to hear aswell as i do not say alot as that way there are no problems.I also think there arer alot of people out there that like starting up alot of trouble for other people.
@frontvisions101 (16043)
• Philippines
20 Mar 10
exactly. they re doing it just to get attention. if it s attention they wanted, they should just go streaking in broad daylight instead of causing trouble.
@LadyBoss (253)
• United States
20 Mar 10
Sometimes when you know some information and its hard to just keep it to yourself. It does feel good to talk about it with some one. Especially if they are a good friend of yours. This has happened to me as well. I do have some difficulty trusting people now. But Im starting to learn that I need to choose my friends a little bit better. Id rather have friends who I can trust. Then to have friends that I really cant. Rumors spread like diseases and either one way or another its going to come out all twisted like the game telephone and someone is going to end up hurt because someone could not keep their mouths shut. Just be able to know you can trust someone not too tell other people when you need to talk about something.
@frontvisions101 (16043)
• Philippines
21 Mar 10
Thank you very much for your opinion. actually, i kinda distance myself from now on from people like these. it s just not worth it hanging out with them.
@bounce58 (17387)
• Canada
20 Mar 10
A few days ago, an officemate of mine was let go nearly at the end of the day. And that same afternoon, our VP, the person who fired this other guy, gave us specific instructions not to talk about what just happened. Guess what? When I came to work the following day, half the building already knew what happened. Somebody blabbed!
I guess it is hard to keep one's mouth shut.
@frontvisions101 (16043)
• Philippines
21 Mar 10
exactly there. same thing. i ve just started to stay away from these attention-freaks. it s just not worth it.
@krisnel (498)
• Philippines
21 Mar 10
for me if someone is telling me a secret i will keep my mouth closed. because it is a secret that no one should know but only me and the person who told it to me. i have know a lots of secrets coming from my friend that if i tell it to others it might be become the commotion to my other friends. so i remain silent so that there will be no commotion.
@frontvisions101 (16043)
• Philippines
21 Mar 10
That is very true. if you re asked to keep a secret about someone and you don t know the person then just keep quiet, right? thanks for you response.
@kaylachan (70155)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
21 Mar 10
Yes that could have been handled a little better, but not by keeping quiet. It should have been privetly between friends, but not the way you discribed. Personally if someone suspected George of doing something he shouldn't be doing, I would want to know about it. That way I could confront him.
@frontvisions101 (16043)
• Philippines
21 Mar 10
yeah, but you re considering your point of view as a girlfriend. of course you would want to be notified if your partner is cheating on you. but just take time to put yourself in my position. how would you feel? how would you have handled it?
