I it sucks when a parent can't punish their child without fear of going to jail!

Hi Thoroughrob. It was good that your parents took your daughter in. Might have been the brain injury that caused her to be this way. My daughter didn't have an excuse she was just going to do what she wanted to do. So I took her to my brother she walked the line with him he wouldn't take any BS from her. I think that stronger measures are needed too.

Hi Biomechanoid. I think there should be limits on the punishment of a child but not to the point the child has more rights then the parents. You don't discipline a child they will not learn what is wrong or right. The parents are the ones that are responsible for the child. Not the other way around.

Hi Donna and bananamen. I gave my children chores hers that day was to wash the dishes. I had two jobs to support their needs and wants, I had worked a double shift at one job and needed to get ready to go to the other job the next day, it was 10pm and my sitter had gone off to bed and left my children up. I was tired and ready to just sit down and relax for a bit before I went to bed. I didn't want to hit my child I wanted her to know it wasn't going to happen again. I didn't know what else to do. God knows what went on and I know what went on when I face my judgement I won't be ashamed to face God when it is time. It says in the KJB to spare the rod is to spoil the child. My mother was really abusive I didn't want this for my children. It may not seem to be an educational way in your mind but I never had a problem out of that child again. Thank God all of my children are grown and married and have families of their own.

Agree. It's good that children can protect themselves. Splashing a dish water is some kind of abuse. I don't find it is educational at all and I think it's good there is a law which restrict the parents to use such kind of punishments.

Wow, that is really tough. Beyond all that, I salute you for trying your best to perform your duties as a mom even if it meant having two jobs and sometimes lose a few work hours for your children.

Hi EnslinPorter. I tried that when my children was growing up but being a mother with two jobs it works only if you have someone there to enforce it. I had this one daughter that when she went to school she would go in the front door and walk out the back door. She did this for over half the school year. I finally got a call from the principal and had to leave my job for an hour or so to be told I would go to jail if she didn't go to school. I from that point on took her to the principal office and left her with him. That took off an hour of one of my jobs but it kept her in school.

Hi Sulynsi. I think like you that you have to instill discipline from the start. But at this time when my child called the police I had been working two jobs to keep them in what they needed. It was hard raising children on my own. The rest of my children learned a valuable lesson after that happened. I didn't have any trouble after that.

Raising kids is hard work as a two parent family, I can only imagine how hard it must have been doing it on your own. Kudos to you.

Hi Sulynsi. It was hard but thank God they are all grown and have families of their own. Thanks

that's good then my friend. i don't have problem with my daughter,but with my second son,he's beginning to explore many things. i can't control him sometimes that i am also thinking of turning him over to my brother.

Hi Jaiho sorry for taking so long to respond but didn't get an email saying you had responded. The best thing you can do is all you can do. If he is out of control then do what you have to who knows it might make your son a better person. As for my daughter she did a whole lot better with my brother. She didn't think she had to go to school till my brother got ahold of her. She has a college education and works for a great firm now. She tells me she is so sorry for being such a pain in my bottom and thanks me for giving her to my brother. What ever you do before you do it pray about it and ask God to guide you in HIS way first.

Hi Jaiho. I had no choice I wasn't able to be home and see to them all the time. I had to work and support them. So I did the only thing that would insure her saftey. My brother is an ex service man and harder on her and his children then I could be. Thank God I did this she got a college education and did something with her life.

Hi free_man, I am sure that you are equally saddened by such dysfunctions and all the more when the innocence of a child is being broken prematurely by such irresponsible acts and parenting. I know how frustrating and heart wrenching it can be but I suppose there's a consequence to every choice or decision we make. Honestly, I am scared by these incidents and just could not help looking over my shoulders to avoid this catastrophe from occurring in my family. I just say that parenting today is just not as easy as in our children days and to this day I am still working hard to relate and communicate with my children. I know it is hard and I hope that you will not be discouraged by setbacks along the way. In conclusion, I'd just share a small quote from Calvin Coolidge, America's 30th president: “Nothing in this world can take the place of persistence. Talent will not; nothing is more common than unsuccessful people with talent. Genius will not; unrewarded genius is almost a proverb. Education will not; the world is full of educated derelicts. Persistence and determination alone are omnipotent. The slogan "press on" has solved and always will solve the problems of the human race” So, press on my friend and take care.

Hi Sky. This was many many years ago. I worte this cause a couple we know went to jail cause their children called the law on them and said they were being whipped by their parents. The parents spent the weekend in jail and the 2 girls spent the weekend drinking. No I thank God my children are grown and have families of their own. The parents of these 2 girls sent one of them off packing she now lives with people she don't even know. And the other one is slipping out at night sleeping with a guy way older then her. Can't say much for the parents though they are drunks.

Hi Skysuccess. I am sorry for not responding earlier but didn't get your response in my email. My children are all grown now and married. This happened in the USA many years ago when I splashed my daughter with dish water. You are so right persistence is the only thing we as parents can do. Keep trying daily to get our children to understand. When I was growing up there was very little kindness from our mother she wasn't the loving kind of a person. Heck my oldest sister was more of a mother to most of the younger children in our home. Heck I thought till I was married that she must have really been my mother then my own mom. But she isn't she is only a few years older then me and it isn't possible. When I got hurt or anything bothered me I went to my sister not my mom. My mom if you went to her and stubbed your toe she would tell you to show her and she would step on the other toe she would tell you that now you don't have to think about the other hurt toe.And she thought this was funny.

Actually, no, I didn't have any more 'trouble' with him after that, as he left in handcuffs after assaulting me. That is why he 'reported' me, as revenge for having him bodily 'kicked out' of our house by the cops. And as far as I am concerned, since he never had the decency to apologize or admit his mistake, even though he was ordered by the court to do so, he is NOT welcome here on my property ever again. He is a coward, in my opinion, for suckering me from behind, knocking me out and beating me while I was unconscious. When he has asked his father if he can come here to visit him, I have instructed him to notify him that I would meet him at the end of the driveway with a baseball bat like he deserves. Strangely, he hasn't ever shown up. Go figure, eh?

Hi AnnieOakley. By the way I love your handle on here. Good for you, bet you didn't have problems with your stepson after that. That is just how I feel if they can't live by my rules and me working to support them then they can move and see how hard it is to work and play too. When she called the police on me I thought to myself she should have had my mother. My mother abused all of us but I thank God she was my mother, I wouldn't have turned out to respect others. She taught us to do unto others as we would have done unto us. And I thank God for that.

Hi OOjopakOo.I don't have any children at home they are all grown and have families of their own. When I was growing up you didn't speak to your parents the way the kids get away with today. If you did you might get knocked into next week. It says in the bible to spare the rod is to spoil the child. In other words it is our duty to keep our children corrected. These bleeding heart people that think they are hurting their children by correcting their children are hurting them by not correcting their children. Sorry that your cousin got in the situation he got in. But I know several people that raise foster children and they live in a better life with these people then they did with the families they came from.

Hi Professor. I think that is a good way to raise a child. But here in the US when a child reports abuse of any sort the law gets involved even if it isn't true. Some children have gotten way out of hand and the parents can't do anything with them. When I was growing up there was no protection for children my mom was real abusive. I guess that in those days parents didn't have to think they would go to jail for correcting their children. But now days when a child says they have been hit or abused the law gets involved and the parent has no rights really. Even if it is true or not the parent is the one that has to watch how and what they say to their children. It says in the bible to spare the rod is to spoil the child. I didn't beat on my children but I didn't let my children walk all over me either. I was brought up in a strict home and new my place from the age of 5 I knew what not to do. And now days kids will say to the parents if you tell them what is wrong they will call the law on their own parents. Too many spoiled children in this world as it is anyway. Thanks for sharing.

Hi Anitarei and welcome to my lot. So sorry your brother became worse. As for my daughter she got her diploma and went to college she is now some big wig. I was a single mom raising children and had to work 2 jobs to support their needs and wants. My children and I share a great tough love.

Hi Nosillo and welcome to my lot. It is hard on a single parent to raise children. There is more negative things in this world then there are positive things. I think it is wrong for people to tell a parent that they have less rights then the child has. I have seen and heard of children claiming their parnent did something and put them in jail for it and the parent didn't do anything wrong. I can see that people shouldn't beat on their children or abuse them in anyway form or fashion. But the child needs to have discipline to grow up to be a responsible citizen of their community. It says in the bible spare the rod and spoil the child in other words we are as parents to correct are children.